About a year and a half ago I posted a link here to a blog I started writing sharing my story of being date raped at Burning Man. I'd never shared something so personal this openly before, let alone done any type of blogging. I wondered if there was anyone else who had experienced something similar ...

When I first posted this topic last week I was curious to see what everyone s honest thoughts and reactions would be. It's been enlightening and somewhat disturbing to say the least. I think this is a serious issue which probably occurs quite a bit within the Burning Man community which is why I pos...

Shambala,
Thanks for the kind words and understanding.

Poppobum, I understand where you're coming from when you said laughing may have been construed as a sign of me being into it. While I do know that I wasn't a willing participant, what I don't know is: did he do what he did because he is a predator? Or did he do it because he was too drunk to realize...

Let me ask this: if the two of you woke up the next morning and were both snuggled under a warm comforter instead of you being left there sprawled out with nothing on, would you be thinking differently of him? If he said all the "right" things to you the next morning, about how special you are, and...

[quote="ygmir"]I do so agree, that, no one should have sex forced upon them.....no matter the gender or circumstances. What I do lament, is, how these issues, take away a lot of the "spontaneous moments", IMHO. At times, the "random encounter, nothing said, but, a comely look" scene from an old Boga...

Thanks Cricket for the supportive comments. Very well said and appreciated. And yes it's true, there's good and bad in everything even Burning Man. As far as what I said earlier about every women demand the right to drink themselves into oblivion and pass out wherever they want, I was being a bit dr...

This would be an entirely different discussion if this was just some guy passing by and having a few drinks with you. We are talking a 10 year long friendship in which there were misjudgements/poor judgements and misunderstandings. Clearly this guy wanted to date you for quite some time and he real...

@Bob

Actually I do demand that Burning Man be different from the rest of my reality which is exactly why I go.

@DVD Burner

I think you made that story up. Maybe you were just so drunk you don't really remember what happened clearly. You must've really WANTED it, I'm sure you just didn't realize it cause you drank too much.

@ Antim

You said,"Don't rage about what other people post on here ...". So other people can post their opinions and rage and what not, but I can't post my opinions now?

@Gaminwench Actually I did ask him. If you read my blog again you will see how he responded. I've tried to contact him over the years and talk to him about it and he refuses to speak to me. Do you think if someone raped you they're reall going to sit down an talk to you about it? Probably not. I nai...

Also, I just wanted to add this. I never in a million years would have dreamed of pressing charges against this person. I'm way too compassionate of a person. Which is probably what my problem is. Like I said in my blog, there was no way I could accept what happened at the time. This was a huge betr...

If it's NOT "consensual" it is not considered "unfortunate" it is called Rape. If one person is not CONSCIOUS, then yes it is rape. Ask any trained psychologist or therapist and they will tell you the same. If a man is in love with you, that does not mean he OWNS you. It does not give him the right ...

In 2006 I was date raped by a good friend of mine at Burning Man. See my blog at:

http://sfburnergrrrl.wordpress.com