Death

[burnedangle]

[b][color=green][/color]hello my name is Allison. I won't be attending the burn this year, and I am so sad I feel disconneted from community and life in general. My Father just died last week. death reminds you of how important life is and remembering to not stop living. That is the blessing in death I think it reminds us to live and love and do the things we always put off because we think we have forever.......Even tho I am sad without my father he has been reborn, I know in spirit , and he is free of ill health that slowed him down and made him sad[/b]

[scotto]

Allison,

My condolences to you & your family, very sorry for your loss.

My dad passed 5 years ago, so I do know what you are going thru. Know that as the days pass into weeks and on into months, it will get easier to bear. It may not seem like it now, but time will give you an awesome memory of your dad.

Mourner's Prayer (Kaddish):

Yis'ga'dal v'yis'kadash sh'may ra'bbo, b'olmo dee'vro chir'usay
v'yamlich malchu'say, b'chayaychon uv'yomay'chon uv'chayay d'chol
bais Yisroel, ba'agolo u'viz'man koriv; v'imru Omein.

Y'hay shmay rabbo m'vorach l'olam ul'olmay olmayo.

Yisborach v'yishtabach v'yispoar v'yisromam v'yismasay, v'yishador
v'yis'aleh v'yisalal, shmay d'kudsho, brich hu, l'aylo min kl
birchoso v'sheeroso, tush'bechoso v'nechemoso, da,ameeran b'olmo;
vimru Omein.

Y'hay shlomo rabbo min sh'mayo, v'chayim alaynu v'al kol Yisroel;
v'imru Omein.

Oseh sholom bimromov, hu ya'aseh sholom olaynu, v'al kol yisroel;
vimru Omein.

May the great Name of God be exalted and sanctified, throughout the world, which he has created according to his will. May his Kingship be established in your lifetime and in your days, and in the lifetime of the entire household of Israel, swiftly and in the near future; and say, Amen.
May his great name be blessed, forever and ever.

Blessed, praised, glorified, exalted, extolled, honored elevated and lauded be the Name of the holy one, Blessed is he- above and beyond any blessings and hymns, Praises and consolations which are uttered in the world; and say Amen. May there be abundant peace from Heaven, and life, upon us and upon all Israel; and say, Amen.

He who makes peace in his high holy places, may he bring peace upon us, and upon all Israel; and say Amen.

Together we pray...Together we remember...

Scotto

[scootert]

I'm sorry you're going through this, Allison. I feel a connection to you even though we'll probably never meet. Burner connections are sometimes like that, and so remember you always have a community and you're connected, even if it feels like you're not. Almost everyone at the Burn has experienced the loss of loved ones, and so it's another way we can relate - through grief. Hang in there, sister. I imagine your dad would want you to be happy and live life to the fullest, and in that spirit I hope you can return to BRC again. We've got to keep having fun, even though we carry around some sorrow with us also. I wish you and your loved ones the best.

Scott

[mdmf007]

Can only imagine your loss...

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/mes ... id=4065907
lit a candle for your dad

eric

[theCryptofishist]

I've lost a little sister and and a husband.

I started a tribe on tribe.net called grieving man, if you want to connect with other morning burners.

[gyre]

You are right, Allison.
We live our lives in a waking dream.
Sometimes we awaken and go out into the world eyes open.

We'll be here even if you don't make it to the burn.
And next year.


This is a song called Passing Through.
Maybe it will be a little comfort.
http://www.leonardcohen.com/music.cgi?a ... &song_id=2

[skygod]

When I feel sad about my friends and lovers who are now dead, I think to myself, "they would not want me to be unhappy."