how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Whats up guys
one week to go, counting down, so excited and cant wait for that
so we burners gotta a very friend of us that wants to go but his wife has been keeping him on a tight leash
we are seeking for a good excuse so then he can come alone and join us
she knows what burning man is, which makes even more tricky, if she goes like "why are you getting away now of all times"
we wonder you can help us out with some crazy idea
ps: girls dont get mad on us, just a wonder , we know that will not ever happen
cheers
one week to go, counting down, so excited and cant wait for that
so we burners gotta a very friend of us that wants to go but his wife has been keeping him on a tight leash
we are seeking for a good excuse so then he can come alone and join us
she knows what burning man is, which makes even more tricky, if she goes like "why are you getting away now of all times"
we wonder you can help us out with some crazy idea
ps: girls dont get mad on us, just a wonder , we know that will not ever happen
cheers
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Well you could use your personality to get rid of her.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Yea. Asking for a 'friend'. What's wrong with the truth?
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
As a reasonable adult with a reasonable adult partner, I can't see why this would be an issue.
...talk to her?
...talk to her?
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
This topic has come up on ePlaya. You can search husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend and go, going, without, etc.
I would frame it as a spirit quest. Even if that is not the intent it becomes that. Have her watch:
and read the census:
Maybe she will decide to go one day.
I would frame it as a spirit quest. Even if that is not the intent it becomes that. Have her watch:
and read the census:
Maybe she will decide to go one day.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Ummm, why does he need to lie to her? Tell her the truth, explain the logistics, and set their personal ground rules. It's not hard.
I'm going without my husband for the second time this year. Which means I'm ditching him with kid duty for 2 weeks with no assistance. He is fine with it. In exchange, at some point he will be going on a short trip without me. All's fair.
I'm going without my husband for the second time this year. Which means I'm ditching him with kid duty for 2 weeks with no assistance. He is fine with it. In exchange, at some point he will be going on a short trip without me. All's fair.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
I'm giving this a nudge over to the Q&A board, since that's a better fit for general event-related questions.
The other people who've replied have said it pretty well. It sounds like your friend is a little doomed. He's either trapped in a terrible relationship and he and his buddies need to plan and scheme to find a way for him to escape and get rid of her, or his friends are so interested in partying with him that they're cool with tanking his relationship. Nothing on a message board (or at Burning Man) is likely to fix that. Of course, it's also entirely possible that he doesn't want to go, and is just blaming it on her so he doesn't look bad to his friends ("oh I'd love to go, I'd be all over that, but my wife won't let me..."). Good luck to your friend, sounds like he needs it.
The other people who've replied have said it pretty well. It sounds like your friend is a little doomed. He's either trapped in a terrible relationship and he and his buddies need to plan and scheme to find a way for him to escape and get rid of her, or his friends are so interested in partying with him that they're cool with tanking his relationship. Nothing on a message board (or at Burning Man) is likely to fix that. Of course, it's also entirely possible that he doesn't want to go, and is just blaming it on her so he doesn't look bad to his friends ("oh I'd love to go, I'd be all over that, but my wife won't let me..."). Good luck to your friend, sounds like he needs it.
Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Captain Goddammit wrote: ↑Thu Aug 16, 2018 8:37 amWell you could use your personality to get rid of her.

He's not going to be able to sneak off to Burning Man and come home looking like he's been on any other vacation. At minimum, his hair will be a bit fried, his skin will be tan, his cuticles will be ripped up, his voice will be more hoarse, and dust as fine as baby powder will be embedded in everything he owns.mulister wrote: ↑Thu Aug 16, 2018 6:14 amWhats up guys
one week to go, counting down, so excited and cant wait for that
so we burners gotta a very friend of us that wants to go but his wife has been keeping him on a tight leash
we are seeking for a good excuse so then he can come alone and join us
she knows what burning man is, which makes even more tricky, if she goes like "why are you getting away now of all times"
we wonder you can help us out with some crazy idea
ps: girls dont get mad on us, just a wonder , we know that will not ever happen
cheers
He will probably have bike pedal scrapes on his shins. If he stays in a tent, he may get bruises on his knees. And if he eats like many folks on the playa, he will also have lost 5 lbs. These are very typical after-effects. An attempt to lie about where he's been will just make things worse and more insulting than if he were honest.
There are many couples made of avid Burners, and patient non-Burners. He should attempt to talk to his wife about it. If she won't budge, he might as well determine what is more important: the trip, or keeping the peace with his wife.
On this board, we have seen both folks with regrets (about lost relationships), and folks who were liberated from them. I feel as though we've seen more folks who felt good about choosing the Burn over a stifling relationship . . . but that's probably because people with huge regrets don't linger here.
Only your friend can really know what's in his heart. Feel free to point him to this thread.

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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Any partner that keeps a tight leash is a partner that needs to go.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
I think I speak for everyone who ever attended Burning Man, no, she doesn't know what Burning Man is.

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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Maybe your "friend" doesn't want to go and is using the wife excuse to shut you up.
Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Those aren't buttermilk biscuits I'm lying on Savannah
Pictures or it didn't happen Greycoyote
Talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see.
Arthur Schopenhauer
Pictures or it didn't happen Greycoyote
Talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see.
Arthur Schopenhauer
Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
So? How did the story end?mulister wrote: ↑Thu Aug 16, 2018 6:14 amWhats up guys
one week to go, counting down, so excited and cant wait for that
so we burners gotta a very friend of us that wants to go but his wife has been keeping him on a tight leash
we are seeking for a good excuse so then he can come alone and join us
she knows what burning man is, which makes even more tricky, if she goes like "why are you getting away now of all times"
we wonder you can help us out with some crazy idea
ps: girls dont get mad on us, just a wonder , we know that will not ever happen
cheers
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
My guess would be in divorce.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
My bet is he never even went.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Yeah that’s some weird shit. Divorce isn’t that hard
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Makes no sense to me either. Then again, my Wife is a blast to hang out with.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Well, I now know of yet another way to not have your spouse attend. I do not recommend it.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Tell the truth. You need your personal space and this trip is a soul healing.
It is so natural and normal in an adult couple for both parts needing a personal space. This is actually how some couples last longer.
It is so natural and normal in an adult couple for both parts needing a personal space. This is actually how some couples last longer.
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Re: how to get rid of the wife and go to bm alone
Took a couple of years off.. I find Burner widows very receptive ..Thanks for the lone
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