The L Word

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The L Word

Postby Patience » Fri Oct 10, 2003 4:35 pm

Love. We have a sex thread, but no love thread. This makes me sad. So here it is. What is it, and why do we want it so badly? What does the L word mean to you? I want to hear stories... Or confess your love for someone. Do whatever you want, as long as you love me.

Here's my recent story involving the L word:

Last night I'm at a poetry slam with a friend of mine. During intermission we're talking to some people outside, and leave her to go to the john. When I get back, she has fake blood all over her chest and t-shirt. Naturally, I'm curious about what the hell is going on. So I ask.

She says, "I have something I need to get off my chest." She reaches into her shirt and pulls out a rubber replica of a human heart and offers it to me. A crowd is watching at this point, and (no shit) people are taking pictures of us. The heart is red and sticky and has glitter on it. If anyone has a glittery heart, it's this girl.

Anyway, she proceeds to tell me a bunch of stuff that's none of your business, but it was very sweet in a gross, bloody kind of way. You just have to respect the hell out of someone with that kind of (oh no) guts. Or maybe love does crazy things to people.
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Postby DE FACTO » Fri Oct 10, 2003 4:40 pm

that was original but this is'nt.

i love everybody.

go on challenge me. :twisted:

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Postby DUH FECTO » Fri Oct 10, 2003 4:58 pm

THE L-WORD IS "LARRY". LARRY IS NOTHING. I AM SUPREME. PLEASE DO NOT DISCUSS LARRY. THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMPLIANCE. THAT IS ALL.
DUH

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Postby michael » Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:42 pm

I Love the woman who married me.

I Love my brothers and sister.

I Love my old grouchy dog and my new puppy.
-Michael

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Postby Lydia Love » Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:45 pm

Patience - that RAWKS!
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Postby Badger » Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:47 pm

Spanky sounds like a rich man.
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Postby RebA! » Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:54 pm

I once had a man propose to me after a first date when he learned that I had a (i think) a first edition/pressing of a Led Zepplin Album and a couple early pressings of a quite a few queen albums.

That is if we settled on a pre-nup that the albums would be his after the divorce.

He never got a second date.

However, the love story how how I met my hubby was on the old eplaya, I will not repeat it here.
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Postby Patience » Fri Oct 10, 2003 9:20 pm

I love Badger's current avatar.

I love taking a long nap before partying all night.
It's not that I hate you. It's just that I'm a much better person than you.

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Postby aforceforgood » Sat Oct 11, 2003 12:04 am

Sorry Nipsy, Esther made me laugh just lookin at her, so she gets my vote.

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Noooooo!!!!!!, not the pink one!....

Postby Rabbi Dali Rick » Sat Oct 11, 2003 9:52 am

the bar tab? :arrow:

specifically,
the rebbi

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Postby OregonRed » Sat Oct 11, 2003 9:59 am

Rabbi Dali Rick said:
the bar tab?


That depends on how well you know the bartender.

I love my husband.

I love my children.

I love both of my dogs.

And both of my cats. (Whether or not they love me is still up for debate.)

I love my friends (and my bartender).

I could keep going, but in the interest of space I'll stop.
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Postby aforceforgood » Sat Oct 11, 2003 3:12 pm

Well, if you love the bartender and his performance, then you will shower him with monetary applause.

And if you love alcohol, you better or you ain't gettin any more.

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Postby III » Sat Oct 11, 2003 5:49 pm

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i can't even remeber how i felt the first time i saw her. it was in a large crowd, and she was just another cute girl, and i had a bunch of friends to talk to. i can't remember if i was put off, or intimidated, or just not that interested.

the next time i met her, it was dark. we were sitting around a campfire. i had a good time talking to her, and left thinking that she might not be a bad addition to our group. the next day, she started setting up an experimental shade structure. it failed, but the number of things she did right before it failed impressed the hell out of me. i ended up hanging out and helping her with it, just because i wanted to find out how she made the decisions she did, why she thought the way she did, how her mind worked.

over the course of the next several months, i found that i wanted to do that on a broad variety of subjects, not just about the shade structure. every time i met her, there was something new and good to talk about, or just share. sometimes we'd just sit around a fire, not saying anything, and that felt commfortable too. it was just friendship, nothing romantic - i had a girlfriend, and she had a boyfriend.

then, my girlfriend left, and she broke up with her boyfriend, and we were at a party together and realized that we were attracted to each other. very attracted. as in couldn't keep our hands off of each other attracted. so after that, there were a couple fo months of great sex, just sex and friendship because we were both on the rebound and this could never work. and during that time, we talked. we talked about personal stuff, about past relationships, and past trauma, and parents and families, and what we wanted from ourselves and the world. and every time we discussed something new, something deeply personal and something that we felt set us apart from the rest of the world, we'd be in agreement. it wasn't the just fell in lust thing, it was a meeting of two similiar worldviews that had existed well before the people holding them had met each other. and sometime after a couple of months, on the very same day, each of us decided, without prior discussion, that we'd have to have a talk, because if things got anymore serious it wouldn't be just good friends enjoying sex - it'd be an emotional involvement that would hurt a lot to break out of, and might cost the friendship we'd developed.

and, since that day, i've called it love. that love has gotten better, every single day. i've grown closer, and fonder, and gained respect every hour we've been together. it's been almost two years since that first almost forgotten time that i saw her, and a couple months shy of a year that we first fell into each others arms, and in that time i've fallen in love like i haven't since my very first girlfriend, since before i knew how much it could hurt after falling in love like that. there's that much trust, and that much hope in our love.

yeah, i'm in love. sorry for the mush. we now return to our regular programming...

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Postby Don Muerto » Sat Oct 11, 2003 6:01 pm

The 'mush' is good. Take that apology and shove it!
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Postby Lydia Love » Sat Oct 11, 2003 6:02 pm

i've fallen in love like i haven't since my very first girlfriend, since before i knew how much it could hurt after falling in love like that. there's that much trust, and that much hope in our love.


That makes me really happy for you.
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Postby Alpha » Sat Oct 11, 2003 6:47 pm

Thanks III... great story. I'll have the courage to post mine here, someday soon I hope.

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Wow!...

Postby Last Real Burner » Sat Oct 11, 2003 7:46 pm

Trey you should have told me sooner, I would have bought a dress...

"Why, I neva..."

swooningly,
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Postby Kinetic II » Sun Oct 12, 2003 1:06 am

Removed...the post served it's purpose.
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Postby Lydia Love » Sun Oct 12, 2003 1:13 am

TMI: Too Much Information.


In response to Trey's post??? Good Grief!

I would like to remind you honey that the first couple of times you shared your particular dramas with us all, practically the whole freakin community LEAPT at you with sympathy, advice and loving intentions. And then the next couple of times I think people tried to respond compassionatly as well and just give you time to sort it all out.

But when those same dramas started pouring out in response to any criticism, whatsoever, THAT is when you started to hear the term TMI. It was not that you had given us too much information... it's that you gave it to us Too Many Times.

I myself do not think there is a such thing as too much information in this whole freaking world. I want to know about anything. And that goes for whatever anyone in this community wants to share with me. I do feel concern for your plight. I delight to hear that Trey is in love. All the information. It's all good. It enriches my life to hear it.

BUT when you have used those upheavals in your life as a... a shield to hide from criticism (a self-defeating tactic, as it turned out), and now that you are making these bitter, snippy little comments... Well - it makes it difficult for me to focus on that compassion and love for you. But if I didn't have any left I wouldn't even bother saying this to you.

Lydia
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Postby Kinetic II » Sun Oct 12, 2003 1:41 am

Removed. The post served it's purpose.
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Postby Lydia Love » Sun Oct 12, 2003 1:55 am

Fuck. You came back in while I was editing.
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Postby DE FACTO » Sun Oct 12, 2003 2:04 am

why is it that you both make excellent points everytime you post?
i'm sure there are those who will differ......fuck em.


i love you guys.

Ailchinn, i really dig the avatar.

man, everyone is bustin' out the goods.

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Postby aforceforgood » Sun Oct 12, 2003 2:44 am

What is it about people that they can't stop themselves from bitching at other people?

I came here all set to make a nice post like trey's about how nice it was to just sit still and listen to Art Bell on headphones while looking at my girl sleeping peacefully all snuggled up to me, and here you guys are squabbling.

I thought this thread would be a nice peaceful place of repose and reflection, of tenderness and affection, where we could all come to reflect on what is really important in life, i.e., the ones we love.

This applies to me as well as everyone else; sometimes it is wiser to remain silent. Or at least take your squabble outside the palace of love. Or maybe consider whether your words ADD anything.

Now my mood's completely changed. Thanks.

Is it just me, or do people on this bbs seem crankier than I remembered on the old one?

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Postby DE FACTO » Sun Oct 12, 2003 2:53 am

maybe because there are those of us who are still not loved....yet. myself included.

give it time.

and your bitching yourself.

P.S. no it's not you. and i dont know about the old bbs but for some reason it's true. people are bitchier on this board for some reason. i think instead of people asking for the plonker they may just need to change the color of the bbs or something. mabey the color that is up now is causing some kind of effect.

dood enjoy your lady and check back later. the air may be fresher then.

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Lurve

Postby kyla » Sun Oct 12, 2003 3:28 am

Love is hope. And I hope for love. Oh yes.

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Re: Lurve

Postby DE FACTO » Sun Oct 12, 2003 3:39 am

kyla wrote:Love is hope. And I hope for love. Oh yes.


your being optimistic !

i guess that's good. i guess i'm cynical

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Postby Alpha » Sun Oct 12, 2003 7:05 am

With all due respect, 'chin, I think III's post was right on target because the topic of the thread specifically asked for that kind of content. You got flamed for sidetracking other topics with your own personal drama. As Lydia pointed out, we tried to help you but you didn't listen and instead you continued to post the same sob story in multiple topics, none of which were entitled "As Kinetic Turns."

That's the difference.

LOVINGLY,

Alph

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Postby Kinetic II » Sun Oct 12, 2003 9:06 am

Everybody calm down, things are not as they appear to be.

The Kinetic Meltdown / As Kinetic turns mess is something I'm going back over and doing a post-crash reconstruction on. Actually make that we, in keeping with the spirit of the thread I opened everything up for my new g/f to see last night after we got home from regional decompression. She got pissed to put it mildly. And after getting a kick in the ass, she broke everything down as to where I was right, what I did wrong, and a whole bunch of things.

I threw those TMI posts..the ones I just edited out, up there to get a reaction, and to make perfectly sure I knew what the perception of those mistakes was from the community so I could prevent repeats. Granted I didn't get many responses but the ones I got validated what the two of us discussed.

I appreciate the support I got from everybody. Recovery is never easy, but it's happening. I will say one last thing...do not pass judgement on someone just by their online persona. I did that to someone, I had it done to me. Unless you know someone offline in real life, you don't know as much about them as you think you do! (You only see what they want you to see!)

And tying this in with the thread again? Love is having a g/f who didn't offer sympathy. She offered a bit of understanding coupled with a kick in the rear. She's just what I needed.

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Postby michael » Sun Oct 12, 2003 9:10 am

aforceforgood wrote:Is it just me, or do people on this bbs seem crankier than I remembered on the old one?


Must be the avatars.
-Michael

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Postby Spokes » Sun Oct 12, 2003 9:18 am

I threw those TMI posts..the ones I just edited out, up there to get a reaction


You were trolling the love thread?

Thanks, but we could use less of that.


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