This little burner needs relationship advice.............

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Post by Ugly Dougly » Tue Jul 27, 2010 12:26 pm

Love = Acceptance

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Post by Ke'Chara » Tue Jul 27, 2010 11:28 pm

myburningdesire wrote:I just feel a little betrayed that this is how he honestly felt all along. Would have been much easier if he was up front from the beginning.
EXACTLY. If he wasn't honest with you about this, what ELSE has he mislead you about.

Also, my spidey-senses read that this guy is super insecure when confronted with that which he does not understand.

If it boils down to "I'm right and you're wrong if you disagree with me", really, is that what you want out of life?

Just sayin'. I'd walk.
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Post by Split » Wed Jul 28, 2010 9:03 pm

I agree with Strech take him to some regional events, introduce him to some burner folks. But do it in a low key way at first, maybe dinner with some local burners, then an art show, maybe a party/fundraiser, find an art project in the area.

By doing this youare re-introducing your self ino the community and easing him into it as well.

Lead him to the water and the koolaid and see which one he drinks.

either way see you in 2011

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Post by Gurmi » Sun Aug 01, 2010 3:41 am

" He kinda flipped out and said the BM was for hippies, sexual perverts and bored rich people"

why you with this guy?

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Post by ibdave » Sun Aug 01, 2010 8:32 am

Gurmi wrote:" He kinda flipped out and said the BM was for hippies, sexual perverts and bored rich people"

why you with this guy?
if you really think about it, he's almost right.

:shock: :shock: :shock:

but you really need to get the fuck away from him... :roll: :shock: 8)
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Post by mudpuppy000 » Sun Aug 01, 2010 2:11 pm

myburningdesire wrote:Or at least for a woman who won't keep her mouth closed when he puts his foot down.
:(
I think that's the key thing. If it's not Burning Man, it's going to be something else.

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Post by goathead » Sun Aug 01, 2010 3:02 pm

1. duct tape, roll of capret,

2. let him loose.

3. if he complains to much refer to #1.

4. always the trash dumpsters in Wadsworth if needed on the way home.

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Post by thefreshmaker » Sun Aug 01, 2010 10:06 pm

well....

he is kinda right when you think about it. But he must have an awful view of these people. So he must be your classic 9 to 5 preprogrammed, I don't think for myself, and believe all the gov and media tells me to think, kinda robot, I mean guy. He's still in the system that's all.
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Post by gyre » Mon Aug 02, 2010 6:29 am

I'm still wondering why you went out with each other in the first place?

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Post by MistressSybs » Mon Aug 02, 2010 12:58 pm

goathead wrote:1. duct tape, roll of capret,

2. let him loose.

3. if he complains to much refer to #1.

4. always the trash dumpsters in Wadsworth if needed on the way home.
While I agree with everything I read about never letting someone control you or settling in with someone who tries to, this is an awesome idea as well! Talk about a great way to change his mind - just thrust him into the middle of it! Nice!

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Same here.

Post by kingtom » Mon Aug 02, 2010 1:15 pm

I just went through the same thing with a woman I had been seeing for a year "Burning Man a bunch of drunks an drug addicts" It was Burning Man or her. Well It was sad, but I'm going to Burning Man and you know I'm happy.Even my 90 year old mom encouraged me to go.

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Post by OnceTheDustClears » Mon Aug 02, 2010 2:16 pm

It's not really about Burning Man.
It's about it being his way or the highway.
Ditch the control freak and don't look back.
You deserve better.

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Re: Same here.

Post by gyre » Mon Aug 02, 2010 5:22 pm

kingtom wrote:I just went through the same thing with a woman I had been seeing for a year "Burning Man a bunch of drunks an drug addicts" It was Burning Man or her. Well It was sad, but I'm going to Burning Man and you know I'm happy.Even my 90 year old mom encouraged me to go.
Who in arkansas knows what burning man is?

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Post by joel the ornery » Tue Aug 03, 2010 2:48 pm

gigglesnort is from arkansas.

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Post by gyre » Tue Aug 03, 2010 3:08 pm

Where has Gigglesnort been lately?

Say hi for me.
I'm in Memphis.

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Post by pinemom » Wed Dec 01, 2010 7:05 am

Aw~ now I understand.

(((((((HUG))))))))
and this yr ONE or shit, make it a hundred hugs in the dust!!!!
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Post by Neutrality » Thu Dec 02, 2010 12:18 pm

Maybe it's late to chime in on this one, but ...

Yes, the OP is entitled to have her own life, but her boyfriend is entitled to have his own opinions. Did the OP think to ask him where his views of the event were coming from?

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Post by myburningdesire » Fri Dec 03, 2010 8:46 am

Thanks everyone for your input.
Let's just say he had alot of issues with many things that did not come out until after we had been dating for a year. I talked about BM often and went through my pictures. He never said a word. Until he blew up one day.
It took me a long time to figure out that I was his PROJECT. He was trying to change me into what he thought I should be and was furious when he realized I still wanted to go to BM. There was alot of other stuff too.
Oh well, I can't be anybody but myself, someone will want to deal with that eventually. :P

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Post by theCryptofishist » Fri Dec 03, 2010 9:31 am

It's dumb enough to buy a fixer-upper in the housing market. But at least it's possible. And that's even before we get to the whole condecention of chosing someone who needs your help to be "good enough."
Well rid of the twit.

Edited to clarify: Some people do have the skills and capital to deal with a fixer-upper. For others it turns out to be a serious mistake.
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Post by Dr. Pyro » Wed Feb 09, 2011 9:21 am

Since you brought up the topic of relationships, I dug through the archives and found this from The Hollywood Bureau, the people who publish TNTMA! I do not necessarily endorse this premise, however. Enjoy!

“THEY’LL NEVER TAKE ME ALIVE!â€

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Post by C.f.M. » Wed Feb 09, 2011 9:24 am

That person clearly doesn't deserve presents from anyone, for any reason, ever.

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Post by LorenRose » Wed Feb 09, 2011 8:04 pm

C.f.M. wrote:That person clearly doesn't deserve presents from anyone, for any reason, ever.
agreed.

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