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Playa Relationships

Post by maryanimal » Mon Oct 18, 2010 10:41 pm

Ok, I'd like to hear stories of some relationships on the playa. Give me the good, the bad, and the ugly. How do people who are together before BM survive when they get there? What if you meet someone there? Is there jealousy? Or bliss?

C'mon peeps! I'd love to hear some details...
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Post by weirdscience » Mon Oct 18, 2010 10:48 pm

well i havent been but my friend thinks hes gonna get laid alot ... i dont think i am but im not going there with the mind set that i am w/e happens happens and plus dusty dirty sex doesnt sound very appetizing
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Post by maryanimal » Mon Oct 18, 2010 10:57 pm

LOL you're friend will be in for a big surprize. Yes he may get laid but it won't be a FuckFest! And dirt sex might not be comfy for most unless you have a blanket to go out to the middle of the playa and have sex under the stars!
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Post by Eric » Mon Oct 18, 2010 11:26 pm

Anyone who goes thinking they're going to get laid a lot on the playa is pretty much bound to have their expectations crushed; especially if that person is a virgin. The smell of desperation will waft from all his pores.

Unless, of course, he wants boys. Gay sex is easy to find if you want it.

Personally, you couldn't pay me to have sex out there. Kissing & cuddling, absolutely. Sex.... *blargh* Nasty nasty nasty in that ever-present dirt.

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Post by weirdscience » Mon Oct 18, 2010 11:34 pm

ill let fate take its course and plus i dont like sand in my crack form the beach i would deffinetly not like alkali dust in my ass ... or on my junk covered more then it would be from walking and riding around lol... ive told my friend hes not gonna get laid as much as he thinks and that if he goes with that mind set hes only gonna get fucked by white outs .. but he doesnt listen
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Post by dr.placebo » Tue Oct 19, 2010 1:10 am

This past year my wife went with me (my 12th year, her first). Conditions were not exactly ideal, and she had some sort of bug the first few days, but she did not melt down, we did not fight (no more arguing than normal) and we even managed some sweet tent time (not very dusty at all). And she thinks she's coming back in 2011, beyond all my expectations.

So, it can be done. What made it work for us was that we supported each other and we also gave each other space. I suspect that it helped that we both knew that it could be difficult, and made allowances.

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Post by junglesmacks » Tue Oct 19, 2010 7:16 am

Mary.. check out this thread:

http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?t=34990


I think also as interesting are the mini relationships that are formed on the playa.. sometimes accidentally.

I had this experience this last year with a camp mate. We ended up going a little deep into the world of seratonin unblockers. I didn't know that it was her first experience.. she told me otherwise in the beginning. By morning, I was cool.. thanks for the time.. have a nice Saturday.. but she was in lalalalala "looooooooooove". Uh oh. Then comes the awkwardness and the subsequent mini playa breakup. Thank god it was Saturday at this point..

I can't even imagine how many times this happens on a nightly basis..
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Post by Dr. Pyro » Tue Oct 19, 2010 7:33 am

From my experience, having been to TTITD for the past 12 years, is that the playa is a very sexually charged atmosphere. But do not mistake playa lust for playa love. Lust is commonplace, love should be respected. Now I, for one, happen to enjoy playa lust.

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Post by ygmir » Tue Oct 19, 2010 7:38 am

Dr. Pyro wrote:From my experience, having been to TTITD for the past 12 years, is that the playa is a very sexually charged atmosphere. But do not mistake playa lust for playa love. Lust is commonplace, love should be respected. Now I, for one, happen to enjoy playa lust.
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Post by Da Mule » Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:17 am

and whatever you do, pay attention to the important advice that Piney gave me (too late):

DON'T POOP IN YOUR FOOD BOWL!!!

In case you are not as clever as Da Mule, that means don't fool around with the girl in the camp next door. She's next door and know where you are camped!!!! And you're going to see her every time you pass on your way to the porta potty for the rest of the week.

Another good one: you can know where they camp, but don't let them know where you're camped. :wink:

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Post by caveatlector » Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:32 am

2010 was my first burn. I was single for the first time in years, with my ex-girlfriend giving me walking papers a scant few weeks before I headed out to Reno.

I certainly wasn't looking for a playa romance, but I did get one. It started sweet, finished bitter, and ended sour. Funnily enough, it was the more experienced of us two that ended up with the unrealistic expectations in the end, I think.

My advice to those who are looking to hook up on the Playa: Don't pretend there's anything more than a relationship made in an imperfect crucible with inconstant parts. It'll last as long as it needs to and then return from whence it came: Back to the dust.
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Post by Mosin » Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:33 am

junglesmacks wrote: I can't even imagine how many times this happens on a nightly basis..
The Playa Crush needs to be added to the lexicon. :)
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Post by junglesmacks » Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:34 am

Da Mule wrote: Another good one: you can know where they camp, but don't let them know where you're camped. :wink:

Damn fine advice. I'm usually good about these things and actually had zero intentions to begin with.. it was in a group setting. One by one the other group members bailed out until it was just me and her.. and I'm a firm believer in the "smoke 'em if you got 'em" mentality when it comes to party materials at a party.. lol
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Post by AntiM » Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:43 am

ten years of married playa bliss. But we are joined at the hip in RL, so the playa is about the same for us. Nice tent moments to embarrass the kids, some playaful kissing of strangers, that's about it.

Larry has had more than ample opportunity to wander of with hotties (they think he's sweet or someting). he never has.

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Post by mdmf007 » Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:57 am

weirdscience wrote:well i havent been but my friend thinks hes gonna get laid alot ... i dont think i am but im not going there with the mind set that i am w/e happens happens and plus dusty dirty sex doesnt sound very appetizing
Good luck with that!

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Post by Dr Helix » Tue Oct 19, 2010 9:03 am

Here's another thread that touched on this same theme:

http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?t=26229


And yes, my story is in there!
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Post by C.f.M. » Tue Oct 19, 2010 9:18 am

don't fool around with the girl in the camp next door
You reading this, stalker-boy?

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Post by Fire_Moose » Tue Oct 19, 2010 9:38 am

Da Mule wrote:and whatever you do, pay attention to the important advice that Piney gave me (too late):

DON'T POOP IN YOUR FOOD BOWL!!!

In case you are not as clever as Da Mule, that means don't fool around with the girl in the camp next door. She's next door and know where you are camped!!!! And you're going to see her every time you pass on your way to the porta potty for the rest of the week.

Another good one: you can know where they camp, but don't let them know where you're camped. :wink:
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Post by junglesmacks » Tue Oct 19, 2010 9:49 am

C.f.M. wrote:
don't fool around with the girl in the camp next door
You reading this, stalker-boy?
This sounds good.. do share.
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Post by Bounce530 » Tue Oct 19, 2010 10:18 am

C.f.M. wrote:
don't fool around with the girl in the camp next door
You reading this, stalker-boy?
Was reading it as you were typing it.
What other people think about you is none of your business.

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Post by Boijoy » Tue Oct 19, 2010 10:22 am

junglesmacks wrote:
C.f.M. wrote:
don't fool around with the girl in the camp next door
You reading this, stalker-boy?
This sounds good.. do share.
meh.. that's just c.f.m. trolling. 7 out of the 10 people who read the post will believe THEY are the stalker.

btw c.f.m. it's "Boi" :wink:
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Post by C.f.M. » Tue Oct 19, 2010 10:37 am

Boijoy wrote:
junglesmacks wrote:
C.f.M. wrote: You reading this, stalker-boy?
This sounds good.. do share.
meh.. that's just c.f.m. trolling. 7 out of the 10 people who read the post will believe THEY are the stalker.

btw c.f.m. it's "Boi" :wink:
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Post by Boijoy » Tue Oct 19, 2010 10:52 am

Im not really the stalker type. It requires WAY too much effort. I'm kinda a lazy ass. I'm able to accept the one "no" & move on.
No still means NO you know??? :)
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Post by Fire_Moose » Tue Oct 19, 2010 10:56 am

Uhhh Boi, you didn't get the memo?

There was a vote and now no means yes.
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Post by ygmir » Tue Oct 19, 2010 10:57 am

Boijoy wrote:Im not really the stalker type. It requires WAY too much effort. I'm kinda a lazy ass. I'm able to accept the one "no" & move on.
No still means NO you know??? :)
I know, I know, what no, means.........I've certainly heard it enough.....

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Post by junglesmacks » Tue Oct 19, 2010 10:57 am

No more? Shit, my bad.. I thought you said 'back door'...
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Post by C.f.M. » Tue Oct 19, 2010 11:00 am

No means maybe. Unconciousness is consent. It's not rape if you yell "SURPRISE!"

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Post by junglesmacks » Tue Oct 19, 2010 11:06 am

mdmf007 wrote:
weirdscience wrote:well i havent been but my friend thinks hes gonna get laid alot ... i dont think i am but im not going there with the mind set that i am w/e happens happens and plus dusty dirty sex doesnt sound very appetizing
Good luck with that!
Hey.. there's someone for everyone out there. I don't think WS will have too hard of a time finding a playa soulmate..

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Post by Fire_Moose » Tue Oct 19, 2010 11:39 am

...is that mold growing on her roll?


What's the opposite of a butter face?

that post can't even find the hole!

where can i get a bag to put over her body?
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Post by Artemis » Tue Oct 19, 2010 11:45 am

Reading through the threads others have posted got me feeling all sentimental. Love is an amazing thing.

I was reminded of this thread, a real doozy. It's an amazingly beautiful story about the ups and downs of life, love and the playa. Spoiler alert: IT HAS A SAD ENDING!!

http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic. ... sc&start=0

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