Hey, may I drop in here? I just browsed thru the thread and would like to make a comment. Sometime back there was discussion about Vladimir Nabokov's famous/infamous Lolita. Because of the alarming topic, it can indeed be difficult to enjoy the excellent writing. But there is my point -- excellent writing. Nabokov did a ton of it. So don't let Lolita turn you off from Nabokov.
I just finished D.H. Lawrence's Sons And Lovers. It is somewhat the same situation as with Nabokov -- Lawrence wrote one book that (temporarily) made him notorious -- but my conclusion is the opposite. You have hopefully all read Lady Chatterly's Lover -- a wonderful book that (in my opinion) suits men as well as women. But this Sons And Lovers was not the least bit enjoyable. Nothing positive in it. All angst from cover to cover. It is very well written, of course, but I almost regret struggling thru the whole thing. Too depressing.
Finally, I recently read Earth by David Brin. It is a science fiction yarn, including some war (of sorts), so it is probably best suited for men, but I found it a darn good yarn.