can't sit still wrote:" Oh, and btw, those pants DO make your butt look big bitch.' lol "
Sissylala, it always strikes us guys as funny the things women do to attack each other.
These things are changing though, I spent 14 years trying to be a surrogate dad to 4 little girls [now big] As soon as they were out of diapers, I took them to every river, canyon, lake , forest, sand dune, hot spring etc. They can all ride a motorcycle, shoot a rifle,start a fire and generally take care of themselves anywhere.
I didn't allow any slacking off. They now find it easy to move into their masculine side whenever it's called for. They also have 5 brothers.
I was watching 14 yo. Brittany at a game. I didn't know that teenagers consider girls basketball a "blood sport"
The 12 yo. enjoys beating up teenage guys who get smart with her. She won't pick on anyone unless they're at least 50% bigger than her.
There seems to be a lot of girls out there who respond to an emotional attack with a physical counter attack.
It really changes the dynamics when a girl is willing to go toe to toe when a guy[or girl] is being shitty with her.
I understand that there were fights in the Thunderdome that entailed some petite girl beating the tar out of a much bigger guy.
I'm glad to see that more women have learned to switch over to their masculine side as needed. They're less fragile and more logical. It makes interpersonal relationships stronger because of better understanding.
I saw a lot of cat fights when I was in Scotland. dunno?
The times they are a changin !!
Women can be catty and mean spirited, that is for damn sure!
I am lucky enough to have a few close friends that I've known for eons and none of them have a mean spirited bone in their body...yeah, we can all be catty at times, but it's mostly in fun and never meant to hurt anyones feelings. We are cattier to each other than anyone else....no harm, no foul.....but I know that is not always the case.
Kudos for raising the girls to be self reliant. My dad was the same way ....but I hate to admit that I'm not 100% sure I could change a tire if I had to. Guess I got soft in my old age....I
'm sure I could still ride a motorcycle although I'd probably go a bit slower than I used to. In my younger days, I only had two speeds, balls out and holy shit, I didn't know this thing could go that fast!
I can still shoot a gun, just maybe without as much accuracy as when I used to go to the range a few times a year.
And I know damn good and well I can still start a fire.....starter fluid and a Bic are camping MUSTS for me. (j/k I can't start a fire with a magnifying glass or with two sticks, but I try to avoid using an accelerant. Unless, of course, it's needed to make sure the evidence is completely destroyed lol)
But I've gotta ask, did you raise the boys to be equally self reliant? Can they find their way around the kitchen as easily as the garage?
If they lost a button on their shirt right before an important meeting, could they fix it? Or would they have to change their shirt or make a quick stop at the mall on the way?
When they do laundry, do they have a system? Or do they just shove as many towels, shirts, pants, shop towels and mismatched socks in as the washer will possibly hold, put it on hot to get everything super duper clean and throw away anything that stains, fades or shrinks?
Were they taught to 'cowboy up and take it like a man'??
I'm a little confused.....you said the 12yr old responds physically to someone getting smart with her and that she won't pick on anyone who isn't at least 50% bigger than her. Did you mean if a teenage guy gets smart w/ her and he's smaller than her, she lets it go?.....or were the two comments not really related? If she's picking on ppl, even if they are bigger than her, that would still make her a bully!
I'm sure that I'm taking this all to seriously (it's a girl thing lol), but I think a physical reaction should be the last resort. But, take into consideration that my battle cry is 'Not in the face, NOT in the face', it's to be expected lol.
I've never been to thunderdome...it doesn't appeal to me. But to each his/her own.
I don't take any shit from anybody, male or female, but I also know my limitations. I learned a hard lesson about just how tough I'm NOT when I was in high school and told a guy who was pretty scrawny, "Go ahead, hit me, show everyone here what a big man you are".....
There are exceptions to every rule, but the majority of the time, a man is going to come out on top if things get physical.....I wore my shiner w/ pride because I didn't back down from his bullying, but what did I accomplish? I got my ass kicked and I'd be willing to bet that he is still as big an asshole now as he was then.
I don't consider myself a fragile woman, but, trust me on this, that doesn't make me any more logical....Just ask my ex, he says that my brain has a short circuit somewhere between logic mode and 'OMG, boy is he gonna pay for that, I'm gonna have to go off the deep end into hyper naggy bitchy' mode lol.
I know we have strayed way, way, WAY off topic and that I'm probably sounding wishy washy....50% empowered and 50% girly girl w/ no backbone. Maybe he's right about that short circuit??
Gawd, I babble as much online as I do in person....I think I'm on my own nerves at this point....to post? or not to post? I'm too tired to re-read thru my ramblings to see if it makes sense so here's hopin'........