Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

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Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by tvetteh » Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:41 pm

Hi my first time going this year to burning man, I was wondering if anyone else had a situation where your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you for going to burning man.

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Post by zorro sings » Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:48 pm

Have to ask others about boyfriend/girlfriend but there has been more than one divorce in my small circle of Burner friends because of The Project. Ultimatums and all.
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Post by gaminwench » Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:53 pm

You're better off without him.
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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by Token » Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:59 pm

It’s not uncommon.

I would mark this into the win column of life’s little twists and turns.

Better to clear it out before the Playa than after. You’ll enjoy the burn way better without all that luggage.

You are freeeeeeeee !!!

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Post by Ratty » Fri Jul 27, 2018 6:01 pm

Happens all the time. My first husband wouldn't stop hitting the brim of my hat and knocking it down over my eyes. When he got out of the car, (at the campsite in Mammoth), I drove home to L.A. Anything can trigger a breakup but it's not the real cause.




I called his girlfriend and told her where I left him. They came home 2 weeks later.
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Post by Token » Fri Jul 27, 2018 6:11 pm

Hearts Ratty!

You have the best stories!

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Post by Papa Bear » Fri Jul 27, 2018 7:17 pm

You get one life. Nobody else can live it for you, nobody else gets to tell you how to do it, and nobody else is going to be lying on your deathbed regretting the things you wanted but were to scared to go after.

If you choose to find a life partner (or even a temporary lover), make sure it is one that will support you in having your own adventures, finding your own ways to grow, and choosing your own path. Anything less eventually leads to resentment and regret - and the longer it takes you to work out that your life is yours and insist on it, the more opportunities you miss that you may never see again.

If this guy has even hinted at a breakup if you go, then he's just failed the test. It's up to you whether you keep him in your life in any capacity, but whatever you do, don't give in. Go anyway. If he can't cope with that, he's not worth worrying about.

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Post by Captain Goddammit » Fri Jul 27, 2018 7:20 pm

Fuck him.
Or, actually, don’t.
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Post by AntiM » Sat Jul 28, 2018 6:50 am

Welcome Aboard. You're moving on to better things.

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Post by TT120 » Sat Jul 28, 2018 7:00 am

If he's going to break up with you for going to Burning Man, he's got issues and you don't need that shit in your life.
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Post by some seeing eye » Sat Jul 28, 2018 11:12 am

Lower your expectations for the burn. Work as hard as you are able on costumes and accessories! Bring a Moleskine or 2, pens and pencils to collect the contact info of people you meet you want to stay in touch with as a backup to your mobile device if you bring that. Journaling each day is fun too! Meet your regional in-person ASAP through their contact info and socials - https://regionals.burningman.org/.

At the event you can do anything, You can challenge yourself. You can experiment. You can be anyone or many ones. It's as wonderfully anonymous as you like.

I have always found the burn to be a psychic reset. There is no time to think about the outer world or your past. You will be busy in the moment. When I return, I return with a sense anything is possible!

If you like, tell your stories here after your experience!
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Post by Elderberry » Sat Jul 28, 2018 11:47 am

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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by Savannah » Tue Jul 31, 2018 2:23 pm

Papa Bear wrote:
Fri Jul 27, 2018 7:17 pm
You get one life. Nobody else can live it for you, nobody else gets to tell you how to do it, and nobody else is going to be lying on your deathbed regretting the things you wanted but were to scared to go after.

If you choose to find a life partner (or even a temporary lover), make sure it is one that will support you in having your own adventures, finding your own ways to grow, and choosing your own path. Anything less eventually leads to resentment and regret - and the longer it takes you to work out that your life is yours and insist on it, the more opportunities you miss that you may never see again
.

If this guy has even hinted at a breakup if you go, then he's just failed the test. It's up to you whether you keep him in your life in any capacity, but whatever you do, don't give in. Go anyway. If he can't cope with that, he's not worth worrying about.

Beautiful advice.

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Post by BBadger » Sat Aug 04, 2018 4:17 am

He did you a favor by excising his dead weight from your burn and life.
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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by Isaac » Tue Aug 21, 2018 4:40 pm

tvetteh wrote:
Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:41 pm
Hi my first time going this year to burning man, I was wondering if anyone else had a situation where your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you for going to burning man.
Lol, my wife left me for my best friend last winter, SO I’m going to be burning man! Let’s hang!

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Post by fireheadwhale » Tue Aug 28, 2018 6:31 pm

Lol, my wife left me for my best friend last winter, SO I’m going to be burning man! Let’s hang!

Is he still your best friend?
You can apply any terms to any situation to rationalize bias or perspective.

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Post by Nilbrian » Sun Sep 02, 2018 7:57 am

Hey, I am a newbie here. I have had the same situation. I broke with my girlfriend few weeks ago. I am totally disappointed right now. Thinking what should I do now?

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Post by Traveller in Time » Sun Sep 02, 2018 8:48 am

Still a day to go, pay respect to the temple and or process your own rituals.

Relations do not fail over a camping in the desert, more will be going on, talk about it, on Playa
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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by JULES64 » Tue Sep 04, 2018 2:48 pm

"Relations do not fail over a camping in the desert...."

Exactly, I hope you thanked your lucky stars while there that the universe revealed what an ass wipe he was/ is.

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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by mejaso » Fri Sep 07, 2018 6:15 pm

some seeing eye wrote:
Sat Jul 28, 2018 11:12 am
Lower your expectations for the burn. Work as hard as you are able on costumes and accessories! Bring a Moleskine or 2, pens and pencils to collect the contact info of people you meet you want to stay in touch with as a backup to your mobile device if you bring that. Journaling each day is fun too! Meet your regional in-person ASAP through their contact info and socials - https://regionals.burningman.org/.

At the event you can do anything, You can challenge yourself. You can experiment. You can be anyone or many ones. It's as wonderfully anonymous as you like.

I have always found the burn to be a psychic reset. There is no time to think about the outer world or your past. You will be busy in the moment. When I return, I return with a sense anything is possible!

If you like, tell your stories here after your experience!
I love this!

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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by Token » Fri Sep 07, 2018 8:05 pm

tvetteh wrote:
Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:41 pm
Hi my first time going this year to burning man, I was wondering if anyone else had a situation where your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you for going to burning man.
How did it all work out?

We love stories here ;)

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Post by ygmir » Tue Sep 11, 2018 6:46 am

Token wrote:
Fri Sep 07, 2018 8:05 pm
tvetteh wrote:
Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:41 pm
Hi my first time going this year to burning man, I was wondering if anyone else had a situation where your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you for going to burning man.
How did it all work out?

We love stories here ;)
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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by superpickle » Tue Sep 25, 2018 4:13 pm

Piss on him, Many Many fish in the sea... :mrgreen:
do you like Older men :) im 70 !

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Re: Boyfriend broke up with me for going to Burning Man

Post by Dr Helix » Tue Sep 25, 2018 4:17 pm

2008, my first year. My ex-wife should have gone. But she didn't want to. I am now happily married to the love of my life whom I met out there that year.
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