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Topless or not?

Post by itskristen » Wed Aug 08, 2007 12:26 pm

Hello all,

As everyone on here who actually registered on burningman.com to post something for the simple fact that they are SO FUCKING EXCITED for this year's burn, I had to post my thoughts. I'm having an issue that I hope I can get some help on:

Each year, I go topless around my camp and the playa until it gets too cold in the late afternoon. Last year I went topless until all of my friends arrived with their significant others in an effort not to make anyone feel uncomfortable. This was not a problem as my husband and I always arrive first and there are about 3 days where I can wear/not wear whatever I want.

This year one of our friends is coming up with us on Monday, and his wife is coming much later. I feel a little uncomfortable going topless in front of him, even though I've already spoken to his wife, who really doesn't seem to care at all. What do you think? I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, but this is the only time of year when I can take the girls out and give them some sunshine. It means a lot to them!

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Post by Teo del Fuego » Wed Aug 08, 2007 12:33 pm

I hardly see how you going topless at Burning Man of all places could offend anyone. If someone's sensibilities are on such high-alert, they probably will be offended long before they hit the gas station at Empire.

Now, the shirt-cocking and donkey-fucking is a different story...

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Re: Topless or not?

Post by joel the ornery » Wed Aug 08, 2007 12:35 pm

itskristen wrote:I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, but this is the only time of year when I can take the girls out and give them some sunshine. It means a lot to them!
you should not let others dictate what you do at burning man... especially something as innocent as going topless.

go forth and let the girls breath!

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Post by sputnik » Wed Aug 08, 2007 12:44 pm

You mention that you feel uncomfortable with being topless in front of one person. Perhaps there is something there that you need to understand better. Think about why you are uncomfortable being topless in front of this person, but not in front of others.
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Post by JediDale » Wed Aug 08, 2007 1:25 pm

Weirdest thing about Americans is their ability to be deluged with pictures, movies, books, magazines, etc, that are extremely graphic in sexual nature, yet these same people get nervous about being seen in the very acts they like to see!!
Naturally, we all like to be around others who are like us somewhat. I believe that if you just be the true you, and I just be the true me, we all will gravitate toward our own types.
Now the shirtcockers are a form of visual sexual ambush by their nature, and I personally don't like when people use such tactics for attention. Probably the same guys who do the trenchcoat flashing in the default world.


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Post by Trixy » Wed Aug 08, 2007 1:29 pm

It seems that you are the one with the problem, not anyone else? The beauty of BRC is that you get to live the way you always wanted to for one week out of the year!

I understand it can be different with people you know in the default world, seeing parts of you they would normally NEVER see. But the reality is that a little toplessness never hurt anyone, and you should not limit yourself due to these feelings you are having.

You may want to acknowledge your feelings with this person on Monday (or upon arrival), talk it over, then have them help you take your top off to put the whole issue to rest.

It's always nice to consider others feelings, but you must do what's important for your mental health as well.

Relax, close your eyes, and BREATH deeply (and fast so the girls bounce)
Chillax, dude.

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Post by joel the ornery » Wed Aug 08, 2007 1:42 pm

itskristen wrote:What do you think?
after some considerable thought.... maybe you could post a photo (jpg) of the ladies... thereby getting over any reservations you might be fostering.

in fact, i invite all you ladies to post photos of your breasts!

yay! naked breasts!

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Post by joel the ornery » Wed Aug 08, 2007 1:51 pm

Booby Bar thread link

your breasts will be welcome there.

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Post by EB » Wed Aug 08, 2007 2:39 pm

Trixy wrote: You may want to acknowledge your feelings with this person on Monday (or upon arrival), talk it over, then have them help you take your top off to put the whole issue to rest.
Also: please make sure this person is dressed as a pizza delivery man or a plumber.
Irony. You're soaking in it.

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Post by Gingher » Wed Aug 08, 2007 2:58 pm

Last year I camped with a male co-worker and a couple guys who are in a band with me in the real world. I thought going topless would be weird and uncomfortable, but found that everyone was doing their own thing, and no one felt uncomfortable about it.

Thank of how many other husbands, wives, and significant others you see naked or who see you topless as they wander by the whole time. Why focus on just one person?

Let them have the sun they crave the 353 other days of the year!
And for the record... shirtcocking is ok by me too!
Yeeehaaaw!

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Post by Ron » Wed Aug 08, 2007 3:33 pm

Gingher wrote:...
And for the record... shirtcocking is ok by me too!
Cool! Where you going to be camped? Maybe you'll get a parade, every now and then. ;)

Ron

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Post by Gingher » Wed Aug 08, 2007 3:43 pm

A girl can only hope.......

A shirtcocking parade?? What a spectacular idea! Make it formal, black tie even!
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Post by gyre » Wed Aug 08, 2007 5:18 pm

Only topless?

Do you think anyone will notice out there?
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Post by wedeliver » Wed Aug 08, 2007 5:29 pm

shirtcocking topless??
I'm a topless shirtcocking yahoo hippie

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Post by Trixy » Wed Aug 08, 2007 6:40 pm

shirtcocking toppless, in a daily parade???
Chillax, dude.

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Post by Gingher » Wed Aug 08, 2007 8:00 pm

Shirtcocking topless in a daily parade...right by my camp???
ALLLLLLRIIIIIIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by K-mom » Wed Aug 08, 2007 8:10 pm

Teo del Fuego wrote: shirt-cocking and donkey-fucking
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Post by plowman » Wed Aug 08, 2007 9:02 pm

The only person I would feel uncomfortable seeing topless would be my sister. I don't know why, she fills a sweater real nice. I guess it's because she's my SISTER

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Post by helitack » Wed Aug 08, 2007 9:08 pm

...is your sister single?
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Post by BigCock » Wed Aug 08, 2007 9:30 pm

... as if that would be an issue

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Post by gaminwench » Wed Aug 08, 2007 9:58 pm

I go topless on the playa - except when I work Center Camp(yahoo/photo factor) and my strangest moment was in 05...I'm hanging out in the public area of our theme camp, and these two 12 year olds ride up on bikes - one calls me by name, and I realize he's the son of a very close friend back in defaultia...the only thimg I can think of to say is"where's your mother?" Duh! He was mostly interested in my camelbak, my exposed 'girls' had zero noticeable impact *sigh* - Moral: it's probably all in YOUR head.....

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Post by Rabbi Dali Rick » Wed Aug 08, 2007 10:46 pm

I go topless every year and I have never felt strange or out of sorts....












most likely,

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Post by EB » Thu Aug 09, 2007 9:08 am

wedeliver wrote:shirtcocking topless??
Absolutely not! To do so would stretch the fabric of the space-time continuium beyond all reasonable limits. Like when good Captain Kirk faced off against evil Captain Kirk.

Very dangerous!
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Post by theCryptofishist » Thu Aug 09, 2007 9:47 am

There was a good Captain Kirk?
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Post by frenchblue1 » Thu Aug 09, 2007 11:50 am

I love breasts, don't get me wrong, but on the playa I do not see them as sexual play toys at all. This will be my 8th year on the playa and I've seen all of my friends wives or girl friends wives breasts and I can tell you it is mostly in the mind of the bearer not the other person. To me they become invisible just like an elbow...of course I'd rather take a boob in the face than an elbow :D

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Post by mdmf007 » Thu Aug 09, 2007 12:35 pm

Pink Parts sunburn quicker - use sunscreen on em.
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Post by BigCock » Thu Aug 09, 2007 1:50 pm

frenchblue1 wrote:
That's right. Parts are parts. You look familiar frenchblue1. Have we met?
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Post by The CO » Thu Aug 09, 2007 8:26 pm

How in the dickins do you shirtcock topless? (Scratches head & looks confused)
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Topless or see through?!?!

Post by Guest » Wed Aug 22, 2007 12:42 pm

I certainly think you should be wearing a clear latex top to be respectable. Think of how that nudity could effect others when you can be totaly resectable in latex!

Does that make sense?!?!

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