What should you have done?

sonic · Post by **sonic** » Thu Nov 18, 2004 10:36 pm

They say you end up regreting more the things you didn't do than the things you did do.

Tonight I regret not going to the concert I deeply felt I needed to experience.

What do you regret not doing?

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 1:29 am

ooohh...interesting question for tonight...

i kind of don't like 'regret' as a rule...things happen or don't happen just as they're supposed to, but at the same time...i regret not speaking my truth more often. more immediatly.

Simply Joel · Post by **Simply Joel** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 3:51 am

i regret not becoming a ceramic artist/potter, 29 years ago, but i am making up for it now.

DVD Burner · Post by **DVD Burner** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 4:14 am

tisha2 wrote:ooohh...interesting question for tonight...

i kind of don't like 'regret' as a rule...things happen or don't happen just as they're supposed to, but at the same time...i regret not speaking my truth more often. more immediatly.

I agree.....And not because you're tisha but you're right.

The world happens the way it happens.

Sometimes telling the truth (at the time you do it) can be rather regretable. That sucks.

The world can be like Burningman. Sometimes you gotta take the good with the bad and the ugly. It can be all good.

tonytohono · Post by **tonytohono** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 7:40 am

I agree... sometimes the thing you may think you regret having not done is the reason you are still with us.

On that note, I regret having not written down the address where I was supposed to meet someone I meet on the playa this year.

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 7:51 am

As a rule, I refuse to regret...

And I regret that I often break this rule.... shit....

I regret that I posted this... what will you all think of me...

.... sorry.... I'll go now.....

GuinivereElise · Post by **GuinivereElise** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 9:37 am

I echo the statements of refusing to regret.

I simply don't do regret. It's not worth the emotional stress.

In every instance, we have a choice. Even if it seems like we DON'T. And to regret seems to insinuate that you have made the WRONG choice.

I just don't buy it.

Version1 · Post by **Version1** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 9:55 am

I regret pretty much everything. Nearly every action I've taken in my life has been unwise, too slow, or just not good enough. Going to Burning Man was a pretty good idea, but I should have started a couple of years earlier and been more active.

DVD Burner · Post by **DVD Burner** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 10:12 am

I'm gonna have to almost regret what I posted earlier after re-reading a page from an old thread that reminded me what some on this thread:

http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic. ... &start=135

should not have done.

robbidobbs · Post by **robbidobbs** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 10:57 am

samtzu wrote:As a rule, I refuse to regret...
And I regret that I often break this rule.... shit....
I regret that I posted this... what will you all think of me...
.... sorry.... I'll go now.....

That's why I love you so much Samtzu.
That said, I regret not hesitating before hitting SEND on a few occasions. But that has taught me to embrace my propensity for haste.

"Every aspect of life is education, even if you don't immediately grasp the lesson." Robert Silverberg Lord Valentine's Castle

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 11:32 am

I make bad choices, do stupid worthless things. Sometimes I reflect back on an action or statement from years back and just physically hurt in the remembering of it. Then I tell myself it's o.k., you are allowed to be human. This oscillates with self-loathing. All I can do is try to be as considerate as I can consciously be.

what did that author say? should is a strong word. It implies a moral imperative. Or something like that.

What should I have done? Told my wife I loved her more frequently. Humph, I am off to email her now.

sparkletarte · Post by **sparkletarte** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 11:40 am

I should have paid more attention at the gym this morning, and since I didn't I crushed my little pinky finger nail between 2 5 pounders and now it's owie.

I should have been more upfront with my real estate agent and told him more details about our mortgage approval so I could better understand what it was all about. But now I know. And our friends have offered us to buy their house next year which already has a shop so maybe what I think is my should is really my shouldn't.

I'm not much for shoulds, because whatever you do puts you on whatever path you have chosen. Except that my fingernail does really hurt. Plus it's a weird looking word.

phoenix13 · Post by **phoenix13** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 2:50 pm

stuart wrote:I make bad choices, do stupid worthless things. Sometimes I reflect back on an action or statement from years back and just physically hurt in the remembering of it. Then I tell myself it's o.k., you are allowed to be human. This oscillates with self-loathing. All I can do is try to be as considerate as I can consciously be.

stuart,

You have just stated something that I should take up as my new philosophy.

I have done things that I later wish I hadn't. I've haven't done things that I later wish I had. But if I regretted it, then I wouldn't feel like I was necessarily being honest with myself. For me to live a good life is to live without regret.

regynalonglank · Post by **regynalonglank** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 3:42 pm

i have yet to gret
never mind regret

DVD Burner · Post by **DVD Burner** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 3:53 pm

So Uummmm,

does any of this put anyone here in the shoulda woulda coulda club?

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Fri Nov 19, 2004 6:23 pm

DVD Burner wrote:So Uummmm,

does any of this put anyone here in the shoulda woulda coulda club?

Yeah... but... I'm a full member of the Who Gives A Shit club, and that takes precedence...

shitmouse · Post by **shitmouse** » Sat Nov 20, 2004 7:30 pm

i regret not taking up on the *advancement* made to me when i was 18 by an employer. she was a hottie. i was too freaked out to act on it.
-b

cowboyangel · Post by **cowboyangel** » Sat Nov 20, 2004 9:59 pm

I wish I'd a shaked John Kennedy's hand when I had a chance

DVD Burner · Post by **DVD Burner** » Sat Nov 20, 2004 10:08 pm

cowboyangel wrote:I wish I'd a shaked John Kennedy's hand when I had a chance

You must be watchin the history channel.

cowboyangel · Post by **cowboyangel** » Sat Nov 20, 2004 10:14 pm

I am the history channel......

tonytohono · Post by **tonytohono** » Mon Nov 22, 2004 7:50 am

cowboyangel wrote:I wish I'd a shaked John Kennedy's hand when I had a chance

Like Bill Clinton?

I guess shaking hands with Kennedy was like BM...

It changed my life!

tonytohono · Post by **tonytohono** » Thu Nov 25, 2004 5:04 pm

Is it possible to regret being misunderstood, or is that just plain old fucking up? All I can say is it is a great thing I have a lot of hair.

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Thu Nov 25, 2004 5:12 pm

What about Monica?

Could she say that shaking... um ..... *hands* with Bill Clinton changed her life? You betcha'!!

And if Bill shook hands with JFK, and Marilyn shook *hands* with JFK, does that put Monica at three degrees of separation from Marilyn?

Anyone want to *shake hands* with Woodrow?... might make you famous some day...

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