The Bar

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:19 am

giggs, feel like giving some advice?

Count Sockula · Post by **Count Sockula** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:21 am

well, I'm usually a better listener than a talker, but sometimes I can be inspired. What's up?

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:26 am

conundrum du jour:

so, i have the choice to go spend tonight with my sweetie or not. it's usually a no brainer, but the last week has been him working like mad and tired as hell combined with me going through a whole heap of shit. he hadn'd had any energy to be even marginally involved in any of my shit, so i don't ask him to - which, for me, means i go into emotional hermit mode because it's too much of a pain in the ass to find the beginning and explain it all.

i don't have any energy to be able to support him/ think for him/ etc right now, so i realised last night that the healthiest options for me are
a) self care - alone - which works
b) getting some outside support from him (well, from you guys during the day, but i don't keep you in my bed!)

i won't even see him til lateish tonight even if i decide to. so do i head home after my medic meeting tonight and hang out with myself, or go to his place and hope that he's well rested?

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:29 am

maybe the best option is to HAVE you guys in my bed - break out the baby doll nighties!

Count Sockula · Post by **Count Sockula** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:34 am

conundrum indeed. Did I mention that I married a paranoid schizophrenic....twice? Probably not considered much of an expert on relationships! I know that anytime I carry expectations into a situation, it's a crap shoot as to whether I'll get exactly the picture I had in mind.

So, no can't really dole advice to you on this one, as it boils down to what you want to do, I reckon.

Wannanother shot o whiskey?

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:34 am

i'll have a shot or three...

and was just thinking of asking for advice myself - i think a group sleepover would be fabulous. my whole world is feeling DEViant - guess that could be a good thing...

if i wanted change up my whole life and do something crazy-fun-interesting-liveable... what would y'all suggest?

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:35 am

btw, Rian - whenever i feel a tendency toward alone-healing-time it's usually the right way to go...

Count Sockula · Post by **Count Sockula** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:36 am

How about this: Let's become strippers, move in together and take turns keeping the kids while hte other dances! We'll be rich!

CoworkerLurker · Post by **CoworkerLurker** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:36 am

tisha2 wrote:if i wanted change up my whole life and do something crazy-fun-interesting-liveable... what would y'all suggest?

Move to Seattle!

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:39 am

yes to whiskey, yes to strippers, yes to moving...

still don't know about tonight.
i agree with ya, tish... but i have a tendency to go a little extreme with alone time. i've been doing lots of it lately, and it's great... but if i do much more it will turn into not actually interacting emotionally with the people i used to, and i'm not sure the isolation is healthy.

hooray for hermits!

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:43 am

i've totally been thinking along the stripping & living w/ other single moms lines... there's a whole crew of super-cool, creative, smart, edgy hot mamas around here and it INFURIATES me that we can't seem to figure out how to get by - or work together to go beyond getting by and really help each other out and make some shit happen.

rian - what if you guys do spend the time together, but preplan for it to be quiet, healing time... maybe share a bath and trade low-key massages. no talking.
hand and foot rubs are good.

GuinivereElise · Post by **GuinivereElise** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:44 am

well, good morning all.

Rian, you know you can always call me, right? You don't even need to find the beginning and explain to all. We'll just curl up and watch a movie and just 'be'.... sometime's that's what helps me the most...

Lydia... sweetie, you know you can call me too! I adore you, babe, and I'm usually always around. Hell, I work for the evil mobile phone company, so i'm usually always reachable...

Tish, I second: Move to Seattle! Hell, move anywhere, really. It's an amazing readjustment... though it can be trying. I've been here a little over a year and I *JUST* found something that sort of feels like 'my niche'. But it teaches you all kinds of crazy things that you may have forgotten about yourself...

Oh, and Rian: I've got my babydoll... when's the sleepover??

helitack · Post by **helitack** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:45 am

Then there is always option #331.

GuinivereElise · Post by **GuinivereElise** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:49 am

helitack wrote:Then there is always option #331.

hmmm... do I want to ask???

yes.

yes i do.

what's #331?

sputnik · Post by **sputnik** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:51 am

Rian Jackson wrote:thanks, giggs. i brought a bag of vivace coffee and a bag of vita beans for later. we'll have no shit coffee in this board.

only the best for you lovely people.

Yummy coffee. Ever had Cafe' D'Arte?

helitack · Post by **helitack** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:56 am

It's my radio call number. She might know of an alternate method though.

Rob the Wop · Post by **Rob the Wop** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:58 am

tisha2 wrote:i've totally been thinking along the stripping & living w/ other single moms lines... there's a whole crew of super-cool, creative, smart, edgy hot mamas around here and it INFURIATES me that we can't seem to figure out how to get by - or work together to go beyond getting by and really help each other out and make some shit happen.

Sorry, but if you're going to start stripping- Seattle is not the town. Portland has more strip clubs per capital than anywhere else in the US.

GuinivereElise · Post by **GuinivereElise** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 10:58 am

oh, I see...

here I thought it was something witty and sick...

guess you can tell where my brain is...

heli, how are YOU doing today??

helitack · Post by **helitack** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:04 am

I am well, and yourself? I'm building the Ranger schedule for New years week, so I can sneek sneek on here for awhile.

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:08 am

*tall, red clad stranger runs in, dives over the bar, comes up with a scotch bottle glued to his lips as he downs about three shots straight up. He drops the bottle, vaults the bar, sprints back out and off to work again*

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:14 am

sputnik wrote:
Rian Jackson wrote:thanks, giggs. i brought a bag of vivace coffee and a bag of vita beans for later. we'll have no shit coffee in this board.

only the best for you lovely people.
yup. it's right up the street from here.

Tish - move your sweet ass here. we'll help you find real estate.

Guin - you're tempting me... might be better to hang with you tonight and let the boy rest some more...

fuck though, i've been lying about having a babydoll nighty.

Yummy coffee. Ever had Cafe' D'Arte?

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:14 am

wha...?

thanks, heli...forgot about that option...what's the weather like this time of year..?

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:16 am

look sput, we're becoming the same person!

BuckIt, get in here. I've still got a BuckIty glow. i'm gonna do a BuckIt dance if that's what it takes.

helitack · Post by **helitack** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:18 am

The weather here or in Seattle? I think option 331 is very nice however.

buckethead alien · Post by **buckethead alien** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:19 am

Heli-motha-fuckin-con!!!

CoworkerLurker · Post by **CoworkerLurker** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:20 am

Hang on there, BuckIt- I wanna see the BUckIt dance... ooh. Too late. Dang!

buckethead alien · Post by **buckethead alien** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:21 am

I can see it. You know the dance of a thousand veils? Well.......

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:22 am

))))))))))))BuckIt((((((((((

smoooooooooooooooch

yeah, that's right.

GuinivereElise · Post by **GuinivereElise** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:23 am

well, good to see you in the establishment, BHA...

and this time, you're dancing... lovely...

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Dec 09, 2004 11:23 am

buckethead alien wrote:I can see it. You know the dance of a thousand veils? Well.......

do moroccan scarves count?
(but i only have 4)