Goals and Resolutions

girlie · Post by **girlie** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 1:04 pm

Each year after burning man i find myself in a wonderfully intense
self-evaluation mode -- much like how i imagine folks into new year
resolutions get around January 1st. September has become my time to
really look at how i'm doing (financially/emotionally/physically/etc),
reevaluate things that need reevaluating, and set my goals for the near
and distant future.

I'm assuming others are in the same mode right now. Any big
breakthroughs? Any new life goals or resolutions for the next year?

III · Post by **III** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 1:11 pm

i'm not much for resolutions, since i usually don't formalize the changesuntil after they've happened. but, at the moment, i've been thinking that maybe it's worth making my nurturing side (what i have of it, at least) more visible than it currently seems to be.

but, then i also think i'm really enjoying being a crotchety old fart, too.

TestesInSac · Post by **TestesInSac** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 1:19 pm

Among my many goals are to finish several pieces of furniture for my dining room, my bed and a picture window for my living room. I'd also like to learn TIG welding.

nymphgonebad · Post by **nymphgonebad** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 1:28 pm

under threat of dismemberment, i am not allowed to start any new projects til we get back from the honeymoon. waiting in the wings:

-start teaching massage in marin
-the crucible's comprehensive jewelry class
-mendocino's school of massage's advanced holistic health practitioner certification
-buying a house and/or land in mendocino
-fashion design school
-5 years of training to become a wellness chiropracter
-go back to volunteering at the california abortion and reproductive rights action league ( did a one year internship with them as a research assistant (i may be a body geek, but i'm a policy wonk )
-starting a global grass-roots movement to change: hunger, iliterarcy,hate,crime and the sorry state of massage in california.

well, i do have a lifetime....

precipitate · Post by **precipitate** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 1:36 pm

girlie · Post by **girlie** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 2:16 pm

I always tend to have many goals, as i find that it is hard for me to feel like i'm moving "forward" if i don’t have a sense of what i’m moving towards. I don’t normally accomplish all my goals, but that doesn’t bug me ‘cuz i feel that just the process of setting them helps me stay motivated.

Most of my current goals are all wrapped around the fact that i wanna breed sometime within the next few years -- so i wanna prepare my body and also get myself in a situation where i can perhaps buy some country land and work from home while raising my kids.

Some of my current goals…

Physical: quit smoking (by end of Oct.); start up some form of regular
exercise; drink more water; try to exercise legs more to improve
circulation and fend off varicose veins

Money: complete get out of debt plan by March (this is actually going
fairly well); save save save! as much money as possible

Career: figure out new ways to make money; prepare to leave current
9-5 job late next year (assuming my green card does in fact come in this
year); continue study of aromatherpy and soap/toiletry making to see if it
could be viable money maker; take Doula course in November;
accounting class starts this month; continue research on non-profits,
co-ops, etc. and determine viability of an arts co-op (like Cell Space) in LA

Personal Development: improving welding and building skills; learn to
quilt; learn a bunch of other new stuff; improve communication and
connection with my family (i've been able to figure out a way to tie all this
into my burning man project for next year -- i hope to kill many birds with
one big stone);

Emotional: attempt journal writing for the 4768th time; attempt to better
track cyclical moods and menstrual cycle; work on stage fright/fear of
being center of attention stuff; work on communication skills with
friends and lovers; continue efforts to be as me as i can be; relax;
contribute more to my community; improve self-confidence

girlie · Post by **girlie** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 2:17 pm

oh, and one more goal... try to be less wordy!

precipitate · Post by **precipitate** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 2:32 pm

> try to be less wordy!

Possibly. But you express yourself very clearly. Sometimes wordiness isn't
a liability.

I have to confess that I try to stay away from goal-setting because it
inevitably sets me up for disappointment. This is because I have trouble
being realistic when formally setting goals. I find that having an idea and
just kind of keeping it in the front of my mind has been a lot more
productive.

But that also means I can't work on more than one or two
changes at once. Which may not be a bad thing, now that I actually write
it down. Maybe concentrating my efforts is more likely to succeed, and
I can concentrate on only one or two things effectively. And when I sit
down to decide what I want to do with my life, I end up with a laundry list
so that it's hard to pick just one or two to work on for now.

Which doesn't mean that I wouldn't benefit from formalizing the process.
It's probably a good idea for me to have a list that I check back on
periodically. Hmm. Something to do on Sunday, I guess. Will let you
know how it turns out.

girlie · Post by **girlie** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 2:56 pm

>>I have to confess that I try to stay away from goal-setting because it
inevitably sets me up for disappointment.

That definitely use to be the case for me -- i'd beat myself over the head
a lot when i didn't accomplish my goals. I've been working on relaxing
more about that sort of thing.

My big breakthrough on this was when i realized that i could set the goals
but not give them any actual control over my life. I find the process
of figuring out what i value and what i want to be very helpful. The goals
themselves are then there for me when i need a reminder of what i'm
doing and what i want to do -- but i now recognize that life is not a
check-list, and day to day i try to focus more on the question "am i
content in this moment?".

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Fri Dec 24, 2004 8:38 pm

Maybe since it is near the New Year it is time to resurrect this thread.

*BUMP*

polykarmatic · Post by **polykarmatic** » Sat Dec 25, 2004 6:02 am

Goal: Buy My Ticket

It's a catalyst that empowers me. Like a crush that's being returned.

With the purchase of My ticket will come the realization that I'm going, and that intern fires up all kinds of energy.. (creative and physical) Burning Man is a focal point that I can look forward too...and it makes me better because of it.. I'll be stronger and happier because of what I'm reaching for..

From that Ticket will flow ..Planing, dreaming, motivation, inspiration, fitness, anticipation, discipline, organization,sweat, creativity, and many other things that I cant even think off yet, all because of this thing called Burning Man that I love so much.

cowboyangel · Post by **cowboyangel** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 3:55 pm

goals and resolutions.....let's see..........
meditate more and more and more

gigglesnort · Post by **gigglesnort** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 6:01 pm

To find a new babysitter (old one sidelined with DWI, fantastic) and start back up with tai chi.

To start catching the schoolbus again in the morning (6:40, ugh! But leaves time for running which = clearheadedness) rather than choosing to sleep extra (and end up being late and groggy).

To get my financial house in order (aka go back to work).

sparkletarte · Post by **sparkletarte** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 8:05 pm

I don't make these in accordance with the new year- why wait until then if you want to start something new? However, yesterday I resolved to pack for at least an hour each day. Yesterday went fine...

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 8:29 am

i agree with poly...number one on my list is to get my ticket for '05
i want to move out west by april/may not sure where im goin yet...maybe reno...possibly seattle...more than likely san francisco
i get off probation in feb. and i wanna stay off it this time
ummm....thats it for now

cowboyangel · Post by **cowboyangel** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 1:05 pm

...then come to Marin Duke. The law is less intense out here.

Donita · Post by **Donita** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 1:11 pm

Goals for 2005:

1. Continue to learn all I can in radiology/imaging.
2. Move to North Carolina in May.
3. Find a job at local hospital. Make money.
4. Buy myself a home (brick, 3 bedrooms, fireplace, white picket fence)
5. Start making Christmas presents in June.
6. Go to Transformus in August.
7. Go back to school in September.

gigglesnort · Post by **gigglesnort** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 8:51 pm

Goals for 2005: Well, scratch that, um Decorating Goals for 2005:
1. Sign up on freecycle, give more stuff away, look for a (larger than ten-gallon) fish tank.
2. Obtain some new blue guppies (so as to add some genetic diversity to my sad arkansaw ghetto tank, where your mama is your sister and your father is your mama's grandpa, or something like that, probably even worse, poor guppies).
3. Buy a new strand of dangly white christmas lights (75% off!), borrow a staple gun, and *finally* repair my poor drooping half-dead christmas-light-chandelier-thing in my dining room (Not Just for Christmas!).
4. Choose an appealing fabric, get the beau to chop down another bamboo pole from his folks' place out in Cabot, and cover up that damn dining room window (my backyard is kinda hairy and grown over for being in the city, but when the foliage all falls, it's so very obvious where I am!)
4. Get a new cushion for hte papasahn (sp?) chair.

Post by **AntiM** » Sat Jan 01, 2005 8:38 am

1. Keep healing.

2. Make the necessary acquisitions and arangements to go OTR with larry.

3. Burn, which entails many things: tickets, pendants, art, the Head Trip.

unjonharley · Post by **unjonharley** » Sat Jan 01, 2005 9:31 am

LamplighterDuke wrote:i agree with poly...number one on my list is to get my ticket for '05
i want to move out west by april/may not sure where im goin yet...maybe reno...possibly seattle...more than likely san francisco
i get off probation in feb. and i wanna stay off it this time
ummm....thats it for now

^

So your going to do the quor tour?

i might suggest: when your alone, you may be in bad company. some of as (old timers) learned this the hard way.062262

amnesia · Post by **amnesia** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 7:31 am

Stop trying to discover my name.

To be quiet.

To transend the body & never return.

cowboyangel · Post by **cowboyangel** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 10:31 am

how do you remember things amnesia?

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 12:41 pm

amnesia wrote:Stop trying to discover my name.
To be quiet.
To transend the body & never return.

Good. Make this neither a goal nor a resolution... and it will happen all by itself...

It is where I am going, too... Thank, Nipp.... uh.... amnesia...

... I forget what I was thinking already...

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