Soul Mate Existance.

Sand_man · Post by **Sand_man** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 7:58 pm

I'm a nice guy, I have no problem finding girls. But with all the boring, trivial, Paris Hilton wannabe, career obbsessive, sorority-minded, backstabbing women that I seem to meet of late. You know I'm starting to think that I am destined to meet my one and only on the Playa. To meet someone clearminded and filled with thoughts would be so wonderful. How do I find this girl. I don't want sex, I want somthing special. Any thoughts?

HughMungus · Post by **HughMungus** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 8:56 pm

Sand_man wrote:I'm a nice guy, I have no problem finding girls. But with all the boring, trivial, Paris Hilton wannabe, career obbsessive, sorority-minded, backstabbing women that I seem to meet of late. You know I'm starting to think that I am destined to meet my one and only on the Playa. To meet someone clearminded and filled with thoughts would be so wonderful. How do I find this girl. I don't want sex, I want somthing special. Any thoughts?

While I don't believe in soulmates, I would love to find the love of my life at Burning Man; not critical, but, it would be cool. I think couples that go to Burning Man are so cool (because there seem to be some couples who don't do Burning Man together, which I think is sad).

Just be yourself, talk to people, have something to offer others other than BO, brush your teeth, network (make male and female friends to get referrals), stay in shape, and if at first you don't succeed...well, you know. I've met a ton of women at Burning Man by just saying hello wherever I am (even some really cool married ones I just hung out with platonically).

Oh, and, get involved in whatever local burning man organizations and events are near you.

synchronicity · Post by **synchronicity** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 9:44 pm

Always Remember.

No Matter how Cool they are.........

Somewhere......

Some Dude....

Has had Just about Enough of Their Shit.

falk · Post by **falk** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 11:35 pm

I spent the better part of my life looking for the perfect woman.

And one day, I found her.

But she was looking for the perfect man.

Janka · Post by **Janka** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 2:40 am

A sad observation: it seems to me that the more people are looking for Special Someone's, the less likely they are to find one. Seems that most of those who have succeeded have just been themselves, had fun, been honest about opinions and preferences, and more or less drifted together.

mullethunter · Post by **mullethunter** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 4:33 am

synchronicity wrote:Always Remember.

No Matter how Cool they are.........

Somewhere......

Some Dude....

Has had Just about Enough of Their Shit.

dude, i could say the exact opposite; some woman has had just about enough of their shit.

joel the ornery · Post by **joel the ornery** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 5:28 am

soul mate existance?

physician, heal thyself.

theCryptofishist · Post by **theCryptofishist** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 8:37 am

DallasPlaya wrote:I think couples that go to Burning Man are so cool (because there seem to be some couples who don't do Burning Man together, which I think is sad).

This will be my 4th burning man. If I don't have a pretty damn good time for once I will not go in 06. Instead I will save money and leave for a trip down the Colorado/Grand Canyon or some other vacation of my choosing. My husband will go to bm in 06 unless he can't get doctor's permission (long story.) DONT make assumptions about the quality of our marraige based on those facts.

p.s. I think the whole "soul mate" thing si a crock too.

Janka · Post by **Janka** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 12:14 pm

CryptoFishist, let me clarify: you have been going to BM for years, but not having a good time?

For the record, I went last year for the first time, with my husband-to-be. This year will be our honeymoon. I have been married once before, and I could never have imagined going to BM with him, no matter how good a man he otherwise was. I think that's enough of my private life, after three pints. ;)

blyslv · Post by **blyslv** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 1:23 pm

I sometimes think "soulmate" is shorthand for "love me like mommy used to, so I don't have to work at it."

Anyway, I met my fiance at the eplaya meet and greet 2 years ago. We are going as a couple this year, our second time together.

Everyone wants to be loved, so it's not exactly accurate to say that neither one of us was "looking;" nor is it inaccurate.* I think everyone is always looking for something. But we fell in love and we're getting married. I'm still me however and life goes on.

If you find yourself attracting an endless series of woman with similar charecteristics that you find distasteful, maybe it's you and not them. Remember, YOU are the common element to all your failed relationships!

I know I was.

*If that sentence makes any sense whatsoever, please PM me!

theCryptofishist · Post by **theCryptofishist** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 3:29 pm

Janka wrote:CryptoFishist, let me clarify: you have been going to BM for years, but not having a good time?

I haven't been overwhelming miserable, but for all the fuss, I don't know if it's worth it. I'll clarify too. My first two years were spent in ESD which was a poor fit. Last year would have been my last, and I spent a lot of time on eplaya getting to know people and a lot of time getting my gifts ready and then on Sunday before teh event opened, the mrFishist got himself evacuated off playa for his asthma. I went to Reno twice, to Lovelock once and we brought the wrong tent poles so we had to dash off somewhere to get a new tent. We left before the burn because of his health. So I barely know if my prep work was worth it. Now, if I don't have fun this year, it's because bm isn't all that fun for me--NOT because of his health.

missmann · Post by **missmann** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 3:52 pm

How do you find her...

I'm going to borrow some metaphors from a lovely book called The Missing Piece Meets the Big O.
Too often we think that we need to find something that is outside ourselves. We are searching for missing pieces, when we should just maybe focus on ourselves instead- learn to roll happily on our own.
Grow, develop your talents, live life as an active participant. Be commited to your passions, be yourself and love yourself, and let yourself shine!
The best way to connect with someone you can roll with is to embody the qualities you are looking for- like attracts like.

Oh, and I'm a firm believer that things happen exactly when they should.

synchronicity · Post by **synchronicity** » Thu Jun 23, 2005 8:03 pm

mullethunter wrote:
synchronicity wrote:Always Remember.

No Matter how Cool they are.........

Somewhere......

Some Dude....

Has had Just about Enough of Their Shit.
dude, i could say the exact opposite; some woman has had just about enough of their shit.

An absolutely fair and correct statement. Feel free to modify gender as necessary.

EvilDustBooger · Post by **EvilDustBooger** » Fri Jun 24, 2005 6:39 am

Love is so amazing:

Once upon a time there were two chinamen,
....now look how many!!!

I know,.. BAaaaaad!
EviLLe

HughMungus · Post by **HughMungus** » Fri Jun 24, 2005 11:04 am

Janka wrote:A sad observation: it seems to me that the more people are looking for Special Someone's, the less likely they are to find one. Seems that most of those who have succeeded have just been themselves, had fun, been honest about opinions and preferences, and more or less drifted together.

You have to go on with your life, but, I also think that you have to make a conscious effort to put yourself out in the flow and that dating is WORK (just like anything else, it comes easy for some lucky people and it's work for others). Personally, in the past few years, I've started networking like a mofo and meeting new people and making new friends has gone a long way towards meeting other new people (women). I guess the point is: make friends. Everything else will follow.

HughMungus · Post by **HughMungus** » Fri Jun 24, 2005 11:06 am

theCryptofishist wrote:
DallasPlaya wrote:I think couples that go to Burning Man are so cool (because there seem to be some couples who don't do Burning Man together, which I think is sad).
This will be my 4th burning man. If I don't have a pretty damn good time for once I will not go in 06. Instead I will save money and leave for a trip down the Colorado/Grand Canyon or some other vacation of my choosing. My husband will go to bm in 06 unless he can't get doctor's permission (long story.) DONT make assumptions about the quality of our marraige based on those facts.

p.s. I think the whole "soul mate" thing si a crock too.

I meant couples where the one of them never, ever wants to go to Burning Man and the other wishes they would. What I should have said is that it would be sad to me if I was married. Which I'm not. :(

blyslv · Post by **blyslv** » Fri Jun 24, 2005 11:15 am

DallasPlaya wrote:I meant couples where the one of them never, ever wants to go to Burning Man and the other wishes they would. What I should have said is that it would be sad to me if I was married. Which I'm not.

I've know several couples where only one goes. It works for them.

Dr. Pyro · Post by **Dr. Pyro** » Fri Jun 24, 2005 2:52 pm

Frankly, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Blonde Iguana · Post by **Blonde Iguana** » Sun Jun 26, 2005 5:58 am

I am 1/2 of a couple that does not attend Burning Man together. My S.O. is a suburban kinda guy who thinks Burning Man is a pointless freakfest, and thinks I'm a total nut for participating. (I think he's just afraid to find out more about himself and open himself to life). I would love to be able to share the experience with him, but I wouldn't want to force him to go because he has already talked himself into hating the whole idea, and no doubt would fulfill his own self-prophecy. I can't even involve him in regional activities, he refuses to participate, so I pretty much have to operate solo in the Burning Man world. It IS really sad to not be able to share such a fantastic community with your life partner.

Janka · Post by **Janka** » Sun Jun 26, 2005 8:17 am

CryptoFishist, thanks for the clarification and good luck. :)

For the record, me and my husband-soon-to be went to BM together last year and are planning to go again this year. I was about to say that I find it difficult to imagine it being any other way, but in fact, due to Some Stuff In My Past I find it very easy, I just do not want to. It would be sad if one of us did not find it an attractive idea - more sad by far that way than if we went, and one of us did not enjoy it, or considered it not worth the trouble.

Flea · Post by **Flea** » Sun Jun 26, 2005 2:47 pm

My ex couldnt fathom being himself let alone allow ME to attend something like BM. BM for me will be an almost spiritual release, If i met someone YAY that would be awsome but I think others here have spoken "good and true words" Don't look for it! It will happen when you least expect it. My two cents on that is...if you are looking for it then you most likely are not totaly being yourself and focused on impressing in ordrer to attract! Learned the hard way for me...Just enjoy yourself, check out the ladies and be charming (funny gets me every time) either you'll meet someone and hit it off or you wont..

As for couples.. I would not assume anything as to how awsome or how strange it might be about couples going together or seperate.. everyone has different reasons and that is between them...just enjoy your's and everyones els's freedom.. that's what I think is most beautiful!

No women bashing... geesh, we have all been hurt "Men & Women".. everyone has the ability to be a selfish asshole..

robbidobbs · Post by **robbidobbs** » Tue Jun 28, 2005 10:37 pm

Going to BM alone beats all hell out of going with someone who gets all bitchy from dehydration, then takes it out on their partner.

Still, I can hope to find someone this year, I'm just about ready to find a boyfriend.

blyslv · Post by **blyslv** » Wed Jun 29, 2005 9:03 am

Flea wrote: BM for me will be an almost spiritual release, .

Careful.

A wise man once said: "It's just a fucking, camping, trip."

Flea · Post by **Flea** » Wed Jun 29, 2005 3:56 pm

depends on the camper! But yeah, thanks for the "wise man's quote"

desertswine · Post by **desertswine** » Wed Jul 06, 2005 10:15 pm

Me and my family have 3 vacations...1 is for me to attend this desert gig...2 is for my wife to go sit in mud like a happy pig,have some guy Sven,squeeze out some wrinkles...3 is for the family vacation.there for I see no prolems,unless you haven't spent time with me on the playa,time with me will either make you happy person or a nut job.Lothos (aka desertswine,desertpig,medic 5).

theCryptofishist · Post by **theCryptofishist** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 8:50 am

for some of us both. Smooch!

EvilDustBooger · Post by **EvilDustBooger** » Sun Jul 10, 2005 10:25 am

~To Montana

...To melt and be like a running brook
that sings its melody to the night.

...To know the pain of too much tenderness.

...To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.

...To wake at dawn with a winged heart
And give thanks for another day of loving;

...To rest at the noon hour and meditate love`s ecstacy;
...To return home at eventide with gratitude;
...And then to sleep with a prayer
for the beloved in your heart
and a song of praise upon your lips.
~Kahlil Gibran~

that`s what I`m talking about baby!

montana wildhack · Post by **montana wildhack** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 6:50 am

oh to have such EviLLe in my heart....
a very happy Montana. consider me officially swept off of my platform boot-clad feet...

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jul 12, 2005 2:33 pm

missmann wrote:How do you find her...

I'm going to borrow some metaphors from a lovely book called The Missing Piece Meets the Big O.
Too often we think that we need to find something that is outside ourselves. We are searching for missing pieces, when we should just maybe focus on ourselves instead- learn to roll happily on our own.
Grow, develop your talents, live life as an active participant. Be commited to your passions, be yourself and love yourself, and let yourself shine!
The best way to connect with someone you can roll with is to embody the qualities you are looking for- like attracts like.

Oh, and I'm a firm believer that things happen exactly when they should.

I have to say I fully agree with you post. I know it worked for me!

desertswine · Post by **desertswine** » Tue Jul 12, 2005 5:14 pm

as my other half has stated many a time,go have fun,covort,do dirty little things,frighten people,just don't bring back any social diseases,scars or marks,and she'll let me live .Lothos

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