Soul Mate Existance.

[AntiM]

Get a job, preferrably one you enjoy, date like-minded co-workers. Sounds mundane, but your soulmate is not going to walk up to your door and introduce themselves. Unless they work for the post office, heh. The navy was how I found larry, although Diego Garcia is an incredibly romantic tropical setting .... not that I joined the navy to find my soulmate, I kinda needed a job and the pickings in Utah were slim to none in 1979.

(Or volunteer or go to college or go to Burnign Man ...)

[theCryptofishist]

What, practical advice! Really AntiM!

[can't sit still]

AntiM, thanks for the advice. I understand that if I don't put myself in social situations, I'm not going to meet any women or anyone for that matter. That has always been the problem. I also understand about setting my sights to high. These are both current problems.

I am planning on going to Burning Man though. After that I plan to go to CSUN for a short time to take classes to qualify me to teach english as a foreign language [TESOL] The general idea was to teach English in Spain or latin America. I have lived in Spain and I travelled in Latin America for 10 years.
Perhaps I'll meet my media naranha [soulmate] in the latin world.
Dan B

[robbidobbs]

First rule: Love yourself, and become someone who can be loved.
Second rule: Meet people.
Third rule: Don't whine, it's unattractive.

[can't sit still]

Robbi !!! I seem to keep running into you. Strange !! I live 150 miles north of K falls.
I understand rule 1. You can't light a rock on fire anymore than you can love someone who won't make themselves love-able. You have to start with yourself.

Rule 2 is the big problem. I spent 10 years on the road;Mexico, Alaska mostly , also europe , OZ, North Africa, Asia, India, central and South America. Due to a character flaw, I'm not into meaningful 1 night stands[usually] Travel kills anything else.
After that I spent every bit of my spare time with 4 little girls who were ignored by their parents. I was trying to get them WAY beyond the usual insecurities that plague most young women. I spent many years with them. Try meeting women when you've got 4 FEARLESS,WILD little girls tagging along. I didn't even bother.
The work that I do is pretty much solo. I know that I need exposure, though I don't have any intention of exposing any of the white or pink parts at BM.
Rule 3 has never been a problem. I've always been self-sufficient and logical. Whining and self-pity are counter productive. I do what needs to be done. I generally drive myself to the hospital when I get busted up. I've broken about a dozen bones.
I'm not bemoaning my singlehood,,,at least I hope I don't come across that way.
I did learn something that you might not have experienced.
I can take care of myself with a minimum of effort. I built my log house and everything else by myself. I spend my extra energy helping my friends,,generally females. In a manner of speaking,,,I do everything. My friends would offer to help and I would reply,,no that's OK. I'll do it myself--no problem. After many years I discovered that I was pushing then away. I've tried to correct that.
Dan

[robbidobbs]

Dude, why don't you call me then.
I'll PM the ph#

I'm not disparaging anyone, far from it. These were my matra's before I became a sex healer. It helped me, so I posted them.

[can't sit still]

I know that you're not being disparaging. I LIKE your attitude.
UUUUHHHHHHHHHH , what did I miss?? You edited 5 min after??
Come clean!!!
I thought it was impossible to tickle yourself???
I heard a real cute euphemism years ago.
"My love boat has been in dry-dock"

Maybe it should be self-explanitory,,,but I'm usually out of the loop.
What does a sex healer do??? I sorta have an idea,,,,,,that's why I'm not goin to expose any of the pink or white bits to the desert sun

I got a silver dollar size patch on my right shoulder as a result of too much UV exposure. I burned it off myself :cry: It gives me the willies just to think of doing the same thing to my alarm clock,

K falls didn't strike me as a place that needed a lot of healing,,,entertainment maybe. I was thinking of moving to Doris for entertainment.
I'm of to bed,,,has to be early. The neighbor's rooster never misses a beat. I'd like to choke that chicken :shock:
The double entendre and banter is finally petering out.
Dan

[Ash_]

I'd be happy with someone pretending to love me.
I need someone to adopt me.
My campmate is fucking driving me nuts. By the time we get there, one of us is going to be seriously injured.

Fuck.

[can't sit still]

Arkansas!!! that's a LONG haul with an incompat. I drove to Lima, Peru with an incompat. He finally mellowed out when I convinced him that I was dangerously crazy. I shut off the headlights at 70 mph at night on a 2 lane jungle road.
I turned them back on after he agreed to lighten up.
This isn't a suggestion.
I hope the injuries don't keep you from enjoying BM

[Ash_]

Hell, I'm driving most of the way anyhow.

"Hey man, sorry but... I think we're in Mexico."

[kikidelosfeliz]

"Oh, and I'm a firm believer that things happen exactly when they should.[/quote]"

Amen to that!

I was divorced, a bit wary of letting anyone else in, had a wonderful kid, certainly wasn't looking.

Last year at the burn, I was just floating, open to whatever wonderful adventure might come my way. Our wonderful neighbors had washed my hair, and I was flying down the road on my silver bike with my wings flapping in the breeze.

Met a guy at Earth and 4:00, played some music together (well, I sang, he played), retired to G-spot to jump on trampolines, couldn't part ways, stayed together through the burns, gave him my realworld coordinates. He showed up a few weeks later on my doorstep with his dog and his rv to ask me out to dinner, and now...

Welcome Blaze, born 7/12/05, our gorgeous little BM lovechild girl. And now her wild daddy serenades us with music to feed by and is building a second story on our house.

Miracles do happen!

Love all, trust a few, harm none.

[JediDale]

Unrealistic expectations are nothing more than premeditated resentments! Many people pass up on compatible mates due to seeking
perfection rather than comfortability.
When the eyes are the sole judge of a persons beauty, then one has truly become blind!! Sure, I can visually appreciate a 20 something hottie. Most youg ones suffer from what I call "The age of infinite wisdom syndrome" whereas they answer everything with a quick "Yeah, I know!" What I don't appreciate is when someone has a tumor growing out of their head that looks remarkably like a cellphone that they are constantly putting their hand up to and ignoring their present company!!
Q: What have you done for someone lately with no thought of getting something in return?
Q: When have you befriended a woman with whom you're not attracted?



"When The Force Flows, It Glows and It Shows"

Genuinely,


Jedi Dale Of Reno

[Ash_]

I've been single for the past year as a result of trashing expectations. For some reason I just find it rude, now. And also started to realize what actually makes me happy.
...don't forget the celebasy.

He's out there.
but he's damn sure not in this town.

[JediDale]

If you seek a relationship to see what you can get out of it, you'll be heading for trouble. Ash, if you read this, and you're a fire girl, don't you find some kind of a connection with other fire performers? Seems like we fire people are a strange bunch. I always do Chinese Horoscopes and a
"goals, beliefs and values" test. If someone is vastly differing in all or most of these, there will be problems!! Talk to me and i will show you some very interesting things!!


Genuinely,

Jedi Dale Of Reno

[Ash_]

A girl intrigued by fire rather than a fire girl. Since I was 15, I was always fucking around with it. Everytime I was at a bonfire or a party, I'd ask 'em, "Anyone got any lamp oil?" And I'd aspire and it's almost as if they thought I was some type of magician.

I've only been practicing for about 2 months, and I'm stuck on my trial & error technique. I need lessons like a mutha. I've never met anyone in my life who played with matches, so the connection is somewhere far from here..

At least I know the risks now, though. I either cheated death repeatedly, got lucky, or that flame knew not to fuck with me.
I'm Ash. The conclusion of. ... yakkety yack. Don't smoke crack.

What's a duet feel like?