clues

III · Post by **III** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 7:43 am

it's not always about you.

Niacin · Post by **Niacin** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 9:52 am

Bambi of Finland wrote:Your drama is not my crisis.

Excellent!

Max

Don Muerto · Post by **Don Muerto** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 10:30 am

Increasing your volume does not make you right.

alice · Post by **alice** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 1:08 pm

Don Muerto wrote:Increasing your volume does not make you right.

you can't learn anything with your mouth open.

Don Muerto · Post by **Don Muerto** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 1:12 pm

Some lessons can only be learned with your mouth open.

alice · Post by **alice** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 1:27 pm

Don Muerto wrote:Some lessons can only be learned with your mouth open.

um, that's not a lesson.

it's just a flavor!

Don Muerto · Post by **Don Muerto** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 1:34 pm

My bad.

Patience · Post by **Patience** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 1:36 pm

Lessons I've Learned with my Mouth Open

#26: Women do not find it funny when you're going down on them and decide to try to "inflate" them.

That scar may never heal.

Don Muerto · Post by **Don Muerto** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 1:44 pm

Patience wrote:Lessons I've Learned with my Mouth Open

#26: Women do not find it funny when you're going down on them and decide to try to "inflate" them.

That scar may never heal.

Glad I am not the only one. How many stitches?

Patience · Post by **Patience** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 3:54 pm

Too many to count with a concussion.

PJ · Post by PJ » Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:03 pm

alice wrote:you can't learn anything with your mouth open.

With practice one can learn to swallow with one's mouth open.

DUH FECTO · Post by **DUH FECTO** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:16 pm

DO NOT DISH IT OUT IF YOU CANNOT TAKE IT. WORD TO THE WISE, HOMEY. THAT IS ALL.

Lydia Love · Post by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:52 pm

#26: Women do not find it funny when you're going down on them and decide to try to "inflate" them.

Um... yer probably just funnin but that is potentially dangerous to the woman. Air blown up into the 'gina = bad.

Rob the Wop · Post by **Rob the Wop** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 9:01 pm

Lydia Love wrote:
#26: Women do not find it funny when you're going down on them and decide to try to "inflate" them.
Um... yer probably just funnin but that is potentially dangerous to the woman. Air blown up into the 'gina = bad.

Plus there is NO WAY to make em' into balloon animals, so what's the point?

DE FACTO · Post by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 9:12 pm

Rob the Wop wrote:
Plus there is NO WAY to make em' into balloon animals, so what's the point?

now see there's a thread for that.

(it does come in handy huh?)

III · Post by **III** » Fri Oct 10, 2003 9:18 pm

so, i had this thing where i was going to write about people being honest with you, and how if they're not that's a reflection on how you value honesty in your life, but it ended up not coming together.

if nothing else, though, not encouraging honest opinions of yourself from people you know and respect makes it difficult to maintain an accurate self image.

there's a clue there, somewhere. really there is.

III · Post by **III** » Mon Oct 13, 2003 6:49 pm

being a slut is great. i'm all in favor of people getting as much sex as they can. if you're hot, and lot's of people wanna have sex with you, more power to you. hell, i wish i was hot so lots of people would wanna have sex with me.

the flip side of that, though, is that having sex with a slut doesn't make you hot stuff. really, it doesn't.

PJ · Post by PJ » Mon Oct 13, 2003 7:20 pm

III wrote:having sex with a slut doesn't make you hot stuff. really, it doesn't.

Oh yes it did! For those few brief minutes, I really was hot. OK, maybe it wasn't a full minute that first go-'round, but after a brief rest once again I had yet another glorious if too-brief moment of glory in the sun.

But yeah, by the next morning I was right back to my normal non-hot self.

Wouldn't trade the memories for anything.

Clever Username Girl · Post by **Clever Username Girl** » Mon Oct 13, 2003 7:48 pm

Bambi of Finland wrote:
Your drama is not my crisis.

True, but I would add that sincere compassion does much to diffuse the pain of the truly hurting. Ignoring them is easy, but in the end, it simply makes one an ass. Wisdom to see the difference, and having the courage to act on it in either case is the lesson. But oh the agony and stress I've sloughed away from my clenching teeth and swollen, irritated sternum as I realized that yes, indeed, this problem I do not take home. Taking it home does nothing for me, does not solve the other person's problem, and does nothing to add one quality moment to the life of any party concerned.

Oh - and please, people, I know San Francisco (I'm sure this goes for all cities with lots of tourists) is a lovely city, but it is not Disneyland's Frisco Adventure Theme Park, so next time you're here, please do obey all traffic laws as you would in your own home town, and do not discuss what your next destination will be, as you indulge your interest in amature cartography while all six of you stand stock still right on the little square of sidewalk that becomes the actual crosswalk.

Those of us who make your stay possible would appreciate the oportunity to continue on our way.

urm · Post by **urm** » Mon Oct 13, 2003 11:43 pm

Clever Username Girl wrote:sincere compassion does much to diffuse the pain of the truly hurting

Sincere compassion is wasted on the professional victim. Really.

Patience · Post by **Patience** » Tue Oct 14, 2003 8:15 am

I don't think sincere compassion is ever wasted. Even if my compassion can't help "the professional victim," it helps me to avoid resentment and bitterness toward that person. Exercising compassion can be as much a boon to the person who gives it as to the one who receives.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 14, 2003 9:47 am

Patience wrote:I don't think sincere compassion is ever wasted. Even if my compassion can't help "the professional victim," it helps me to avoid resentment and bitterness toward that person. Exercising compassion can be as much a boon to the person who gives it as to the one who receives.

Well spoken. It's not all about making the victim feel better, it's also about learning from that person the troubles that we all go through, and reminding ourselves of the times when someone reached out to us and offerred us compassion, and exercising that part of the psyche so that when someone who really can use your help asks for it, you are there and ready to use it.

Remember the abuser was usually abused themselves. Breaking the cycle is the thing to focus on.

III · Post by **III** » Tue Oct 14, 2003 10:08 am

>reminding ourselves of the times when someone reached out to us and offerred us compassion

i'm not sure whether it's that i've had plenty little of that in my life, or only that i've found that compassion, on it's own, doesn't make much of a difference in how i live my life.

some of my most important life changes have been because of assholes (even if it was just me swearing to never be like them). then again, some of the most compassionate people i know are the ones who refused to put up with my self absorbed shit.

the clue from this: sometimes compassion hurts.

Patience · Post by **Patience** » Tue Oct 14, 2003 10:22 am

I understand compassion to mean the understanding of another's suffering, coupled with the desire to relieve it.

That doesn't mean you try to save or fix everyone. Just that you try to understand why they hurt, and wish for them relief from their pain. Most often people have to help themselves. All anyone else can usually do to help is cut them a little slack and maybe throw a little encouragement their way.

aforceforgood · Post by **aforceforgood** » Tue Oct 14, 2003 11:17 am

I can't help but notice that more than once it's been mentioned how annoying it is when people stop right in the middle of a traffic path. At first I wondered why God didn't put eyes on the backs of our heads, then I realized that would make it harder to whack them in the back of the head. So obviously God wants you to whack people in the back of the head when they block a trafficway. Feel free to use this explanation to the next person you whack in the back of the head!

Alpha · Post by **Alpha** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 11:47 am

You don't need to post a response to every single thread on e-playa. That means you, de facto.

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 11:59 am

I said something like this elsewhere but it should really go here.

Clue:
You don't need to make a new vanity thread for you and your adoring fans every day. Just make the one and shamelessly bump it every hour or two. This way, the rest of us only need to check that one new thread in order to know it can be ignored. Thanks for your help.

Lydia Love · Post by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 12:07 pm

And to the adoring fans - If y'all could just... pick one of the many (please god, just ONE) exisiting ones and bump the hell out of that it... that would be peachy-keen too.

DE FACTO · Post by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 12:13 pm

Alpha wrote:You don't need to post a response to every single thread on e-playa. That means you, de facto.

thanks for reading what i write.

no i dont post at every thread but i guess i'm more popular than i thought.

i post no more ...in fact less than everyone here. and when i do, i TRY my best to at least have a happy thought. wish my humor was as good as rob the wop...
i'm not looking to solve anything. and Definitely wont please everyone.

as i said in another thread. some people are just born to complain.
sometime they are a little slow and dont get a clue. but i love them anyway.

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 12:22 pm

i post no more ...in fact less than everyone here.

cites?

I get me, with my original log in, at 10 or so more posts than you. Eh, but your account is just over a week old while mine is over a month old. Now, this math will only be correct as I write this so bear with me...

you, joined oct 9. So, account active for 8 days.
number of posts 176
so, 22 posts per day
me, joined sep 04. Uh, 30 days hath sept... oh yeah, account active for 43 days? is that right? anyway...
number of posts 189
so, 4.4 posts per day.

you wanna restate that?