SEX CAMP

[Friendly Jen]

Red handkerchiefs being a single among the gay male crowd to show who is into anal fisting, for those who don't know.)

The Red handkerchief is ALSO popular amoung women into vaginal fisting. But other than that Ron you hit the nail on the head.

Another thing to consider is the RULES BM actually requires these days. Sex used to be a LOT more open on the playa(2000 and before) you could literally do it anywhere. But now they have all these fucking rules and cops and all that. A lot of more closed camps are just protectnig themselves from legal prosecution.

As a woman often looking to get laid on the playa, I don't always find the 'sex camp' and most of the time am not looking for that. The male to female ratio is such that I have ample selection of partners and perhaps the problem of me getting laid or not is better answered by why I am not meeting these interested parties? You probably have you best chances exploring this question.

And if I'm not neccisarily looking for a 'sex camp' , but am the kinky sort of woman that does and can enjoy that sort of venue how will you find me on the playa? Will you advertize pre-playa? Will you attempt to attract me with classes and workshops that lead to play parties in evenings (this is how alot of sex camps on the playa do it)? Or will you wait for me to randomly show up, dissapointed that all you are getting is the guys who 'herd they could get laid here'.

Oh and I'm guessing a bit on this one but about one third of the women on the playa are actually lesbians and dykes and not even part of whatever equation you got going.

[mdmf007]

I prefer spontaneity, seeing what happens, and i did not know that about the red handkerchief. - learn something new all the time. I just learned 4 years ago what 420 was about!!! lol

[Dr. Pyro]

Hay Jen, that reminds me, did you keep the video when you flew over the city? Some rather memorable footage. Sorry I wasn't there!

Doc

[Toolmaker]

Did someone open the door to a hanky code discussion?

OK here's a few things I know and am not ashamed to post.

Worn on left side usually means the TOP or GIVER/PITCHER
Worn on right side usually is the BOTTOM or RECEIVER/CATCHER

I only know of 60 or so colors/patterns of the 100+ colors/patterns out there. Some of the kinks are downright .. lets just say .. unique

I will refrain from discussing all of them but one can always google "handkerchief code" "hanky codes" "hanky sex code" or something like that and I am sure you will find a nice list to enlighten your day.

As mentioned red is indeed for fisting.. this applys to men or women and the right hand rear pocket means they like to GET fisted and the left rear pocket mean they like TO fist. Dark red mean double fisting.. OUCH!!

Red with white checks is SAFE fisting.. AS IF.. really I think that means they wear gloves or something.. not into fisting personally.

Now some of my FAVORITES!!!

WHITE=MASTURBATION(You do me or I do both)
WHITE with MULTICOLOR DOTS=ORGY (hosting or looking)
RED with WHITE STRIPES=SHAVING(shaver or shavee)
LIME GREEN=FOOD SEX(diner or dinner plate)
MOSQUITO NET=OUTDOOR SEX(top or bottom)
ROBINS EGG BLUE=69 (into or not into)
ZIP LOCK BAG=DRUGS (has em or looking for em)

I will refrain for the truly "unique" colors though I am tempted to mention one or two

[helitack]

WTF? Handkerchiefs are for wearing around your neck and pullin em up to keep the smoke and/or dust at bay. Or for fuckin blowing your nose. Fuckin city codes. Jeeeebus

[trilobyte]

Handkerchief codes - who knew!? Now I've got a mental image of one of those magician/clown handkerchiefs where you pull on it and it's followed by another and another...

But getting back on topic, topknot I don't know how noble your camp idea is (my first read was that here's a guy who couldn't get into someone's party, so now he's gonna start his own camp), but what jumps out at me immediately is that you probably haven't considered the logistics. Read through the posts, some of them contain some great & insightful info.

My own opinion is that it's absolutely impossible to have something that's truly open to all, and a safe and friendly environment, at the same time. The two are mutually exclusive. Open to all means that you're locking yourself into an unhealthy ratio, and inviting a lot of potential creeps.

And of course, the irony is that if you take the steps to ensure that it's a safe and friendly environment, it's no longer open to all and you've just defeated your mission statement, and become one of the camps you seem to be so fed up with.

Good luck with your project though!

~Trilo~

[theCryptofishist]

Does anyone else think that someone who's made a habit of dating sex workers shouldn't allow himself to be freaked out by others' sexualities?

[Toolmaker]

Does anyone else think that someone who's made a habit of dating sex workers shouldn't allow himself to be freaked out by others' sexualities?

By sex worker do you mean the dancers, porn actress/actor, folks who wipe the gloryhole area clean type people?

I really don't think anyone should get freaked out by someone elses kink, as long as you don't force your views on others you have a right to be accepted.

Personally I wouldn't clean up the gloryholes since that has got to be a thankless lowpaying job.. but hats off to those that care so others don't slip and fall! As far as supporting single moms.. I would if I could. I do however buy the DVDs to support the trade and those that work in it.. me and the wife are especially fond of the 4 hour non-stop genre specific flicks.

[helitack]

Does anyone else think that someone who's made a habit of dating sex workers shouldn't allow himself to be freaked out by others' sexualities?

Not a habit, it's a passion...


...and the ladies I know don't play fucking silly hanky games.

[flightless]

...and the ladies I know don't play fucking silly hanky games.

*shrug*
Anything seems silly if it's not your cup of tea.

[TristanX]

I believe the hanky code originated in the 60s and 70s when gay sex was basically illegal. you wore a color that matched what you were "into" and only those who knew the code would recognize it

Fortunately those days are long gone, but some of the colors still persist as "retro" these days

[chiefdanfox]

SO I wear a three-master. Now you tell me about the hanky thing.
I guess it is "don't wear the boat, if you can't swim the moat." "Don't do the ship, if you can't whip the hip." "Don't do the junk, if you ain't the hunk." WTF? It was a pirate junk, I went shirtless. I have a gay brother, and somehow, I biffed this. Jus' stupid here. Oh well, see y'all in 180+ days!

[Toolmaker]

I believe the hanky code originated in the 60s and 70s when gay sex was basically illegal. you wore a color that matched what you were "into" and only those who knew the code would recognize it

Fortunately those days are long gone, but some of the colors still persist as "retro" these days

Right and wrong.. they did originate in the gay community.. those days are NOT long gone. The place I buy my leather and latex goods from has a whole display case dedicated to this fine form of communication. In fact it has spread into the straight world. The hanky code has evolved to include all kinds of fetishes and is still going strong!


ChiefDan: I love the hat!! If you or the maker ever decide to market them I would most certainly try to purchase and/or barter one.

[theCryptofishist]

...and the ladies I know don't play silly hanky games.

All I'm saying is you're living in a glass house.

Hankie coders and vibrateurs are a lot more likely to understand the public cybersex (wait, that's not a silly game?) and hundred mile drives to booty calls than those who think sexuality is played by a very strict rulebook.

I believe that sex is a very varied thing, and I'm tired of your sneering at things you aren't interested in. Next time please just kinda shrug and go, "oh yeah" rather than yell "deviant!"

[Tiahaar]

Hanky codes, Ha! Well shows I grew up in the middle of nowhere out in Idaho farm country...didn't have a clue. Am still a natureboy, um so maybe a robin's egg blue mosquito net hanky is the thing, perhaps with multicolored and white dots for extra fun

[Tiahaar]

Oh lordy this is a hoot, suddenly a whole new world opens up
So here's some hanky panky: http://alt.xmission.com/~trevin/hanky.html
And THIS is great for Twinks: http://alt.xmission.com/~trevin/twink112.html
I'm going to be up awhile now...

[PurpleKoosh]

And THIS is great for Twinks: http://alt.xmission.com/~trevin/twink112.html

*SHRIEK!!!!!!!*

I know one of the guys who wrote this! He and his husband are local to me; they run the Evil Genius Hall of Fame.

[htrammel]

[quote="Tiahaar"] Am still a natureboy, um so maybe a robin's egg blue mosquito net hanky is the thing, perhaps with multicolored and white dots for extra fun :shock:[/quote]

So...uh...how YOU doin'? :wink:

[gyre]

Ohhhh.
Now I know why that girl kept pulling out handkerchiefs.
I thought it was a magic act.

I was right.

[Ugly Dougly]

I prefer spontaneity, seeing what happens, and i did not know that about the red handkerchief. - learn something new all the time. I just learned 4 years ago what 420 was about!!! lol

Damn! That explains a lot!

[Tiahaar]

they run the Evil Genius Hall of Fame.

That site is genius!

(hey and have I been hit on? Hmmm htrammel what's that I see in your back pocket?

[icehawk]

A am so far out of touch I'm not even on this planet. Hanky codes?? First I've ever heard of em.

I'm such a normal! How sad.

:shock:

[Lassen Forge]

Then I won't tell you what this guy I know does with traffic cones...



(At least they don't get stuck (I don't think)... Would that be an orange and yellow striped hankey, with the reflective stripe on the edge??)

bb

[mdmf007]

I had to look up the hnaky Code primer. How the hell are you supposed to keep track of all of that?

I would have to walk around with a cheat sheet to figure it all out.

I couldnt find one for foot fetishes though - bummer.

later all.

[Toolmaker]

I had to look up the hnaky Code primer. How the hell are you supposed to keep track of all of that?

I would have to walk around with a cheat sheet to figure it all out.

I couldnt find one for foot fetishes though - bummer.

later all.

foot fetish? how about a doctor scholls hangin out the pocket?

I think the intent is to only look for what you are into. Certainly steer clear of the ones you don't recognize, you could wind up in an uncomfortable situation. LITERALLY

Traffic related kink? Sure.. bright orange with a reflective stripe. Would this include those into construction workers or just stickin a cone up the bum?

Now I have YMCA in my head.. thanks BBSue

[htrammel]

[quote="(hey and have I been hit on? :) Hmmm htrammel what's that I see in your back pocket?[/quote]

It's probably either light or robin's egg blue. Maybe a few multicolor spots.
Drop by Turtle Island on the playa and say hello.
8)

[topknot]

CAN WE GET THIS THREAD BACK ON TOPIC PLEASE!

[BAS]

I thought that the topic was codes used by the homosexual community, and how us non-homosexuals could really use a cheat sheet to know what the heck is going on!

For years I had a pair of polo shirts with the bio-hazard logo on them, because I had worked for a while handling hospital waste. It was only a couple years ago that I learned that wearing the bio-hazard logo is supposed to be the universal sign that you are gay and have AIDS!

(Now I think I will only wear the shirts when I am hanging out with my Far Right, Ultra-Conservative relatives.... )


B.

[Tiahaar]

(Now I think I will only wear the shirts when I am hanging out with my Far Right, Ultra-Conservative relatives.... )

You Go, BAS!
So topknot how is your camp planning going? I sense you may not be offering a selection of hankies for gifting?
(note to self: visit Turtle Island Camp!)

[htrammel]

[quote="topknot"]CAN WE GET THIS THREAD BACK ON TOPIC PLEASE![/quote]

I'm sorry Topknot. I didn't mean to hijack your thread. Just can't control myself sometimes.
Carry on,