Burning man with the GF

dirtbag magee · Post by **dirtbag magee** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 12:24 pm

So this will be my seconed year at BM. I had a blast last year, this year Im gonna be going with my girlfreind and some other's. I've heard some things about burning man can either make or breake a relationship. I am just wondering if anyone can give me a few tips for making it go smoothly.

Boijoy · Post by **Boijoy** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 12:41 pm

seperate camps.

Generic Anonymity · Post by **Generic Anonymity** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 12:46 pm

Hey there - I'm not speaking from experience, but from what I've been told - the way to go is to define your boundaries. If you know what each of you is comfortable with, then you're less likely to step on anyone's toes.
Unless she wants you to step on hers.

Ugly Dougly · Post by **Ugly Dougly** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 12:55 pm

Don't any naked women and you'll be fine.

justfred · Post by **justfred** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 1:26 pm

Ugly Dougly wrote:Don't any naked women and you'll be fine.

And make sure she doesn't any naked men. And you both don't any same-gender, or anyone whose gender you can't determine.

In fact, when in doubt, don't. Period.

dr.placebo · Post by **dr.placebo** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 2:45 pm

OK, here's a serious response with what I hope are some useful suggestions.

Talk about your hopes and expectations, especially your desires and boundaries. What things do you both want to experience, and what are the deal breakers. Whatever currently delights or frustrates you about each other will be amplified, so get it out in the open as soon as you can [this is good advice even if you don't go to the playa].

Talk to people who have been there, especially if those people have relationship experience on the playa. It's OK to use the boards to find people, but eplaya (and tribe and...) are only going to take you so far. On the other hand, there's a lot to read posted all over, so read it (search is your friend).

Go to something together like a regional. Burning Man will be a stressful week in the heat and cold and dust and wind. Try something less taxing at first.

AKAparttime · Post by **AKAparttime** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 3:01 pm

Your doomed...

Post by **AntiM** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 3:02 pm

You need to look out after each other too ... when one of you gets touchy, listen when the other tells you to drink some water, sit in the shade, eat. I have squabbled with MyLarry, and usually it is when we're tired or getting a little dry. we just take a break for an hour or two and we're good. I only stomped off without water once, but luckily I have ranger buddies who chased me down and made sure I had my pack. It was over nothing... just picking at each other until we blew up.

If you dig around on the main site, you will find a relationship guide. Let me know if it eludes you and I'll look it up.

Even if you two want time apart, be certain to honor time together.

Token · Post by **Token** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 3:02 pm

Have as much sex with your GF in all the right places on Playa and you will be fine, if a little sticky.

I do not see what the big deal is. Been out there with my lady for a decade now with no issues.

Ugly Dougly · Post by **Ugly Dougly** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 4:27 pm

The code words: "Yes, dear".

Isotopia · Post by **Isotopia** » Mon Jun 22, 2009 5:00 pm

I've heard some things about burning man can either make or breake a relationship. I am just wondering if anyone can give me a few tips for making it go smoothly.

The only thing better than going with an unseasoned girl friend is going with your girlfriend and having your ex-girlfriend close by - usually in the same camp.

It provides HOURS of entertainment for the rest of us.

Ugly Dougly · Post by **Ugly Dougly** » Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:02 am

Ugly Dougly wrote:Don't any naked women and you'll be fine.

Course I meant "Don't look at any naked women", but I got flustered! Oh my!

Token · Post by **Token** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 12:38 pm

Do naked women in body paint count as "naked"?

How bout pasties and combat boots?

Ugly Dougly · Post by **Ugly Dougly** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 12:47 pm

It depends on what Dirtbag's girlfriend gets upset about. People get edgy when they're partying all week.

wedeliver · Post by **wedeliver** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 1:59 pm

Token wrote:Do naked women in body paint count as "naked"?

How bout pasties and combat boots?

remember, even someone who is completely dressed, is naked under all those clothes.

mojo · Post by **mojo** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 2:31 pm

When someone flirts with you, don't play - just step away.

ibdave · Post by **ibdave** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 6:29 pm

mojo wrote:When someone flirts with you, don't play - just step away.

*slap my forehead* Mojo, Last year at Greeters, I was hitting on you and Now I understand why you were running away.. I thought you were chasing mOOp...* slaps forehead again*

lexann77 · Post by **lexann77** » Thu Jul 02, 2009 7:42 pm

yeah, I'm going for the first time this year, with my boyfriend. We've disscussed all these topic, but still a lil nervous.

**burn** · Post by **burn** » Fri Jul 03, 2009 12:50 am

I notice that we do get cranky when we are not drinking enough water.

Nothing beats playa sex. It doesn't matter how hot and sticky you are, you will not be able to keep your hands off each other.

Don't do everything together. Go get lost on your own, meet back at sunset, or even sunrise.

trenton · Post by **trenton** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 3:44 pm

WTF ..... This post sounds like mental masturbation.
Life is too long to be miserable!!!
I'm getting drunk and the pickings are getting easier

BitterDan · Post by **BitterDan** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 4:25 pm

Isotopia wrote:
The only thing better than going with an unseasoned girl friend is going with your girlfriend and having your ex-girlfriend close by - usually in the same camp.

It provides HOURS of entertainment for the rest of us.

haha i witnessed this first-hand last year. It was actually quite uncomfortable and I promptly made an excuse to leave.

trenton · Post by **trenton** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 4:36 pm

hope you was not the reason it started Dan,
Remember......
DOWN WITH OPP, YEAH YOU KNOW ME!!!

BitterDan · Post by **BitterDan** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 4:42 pm

Hahah no not at all. It was something to do with bulgar wheat if I recall correctly

swampdog · Post by **swampdog** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 5:59 pm

Dougly said

The code words: "Yes, dear".

I prefer "You may be right, dear". It preserves just enough ambiguity to preserve shreds of my dignity.

gyre · Post by **gyre** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 6:16 pm

It's always about wheat.

Snowah Zark · Post by **Snowah Zark** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 8:43 pm

dont you chaff at me, i've got a toboggan to build...

Igneouss · Post by **Igneouss** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 12:11 pm

Rumor has it that Ugly will be on a leash this year. Keep an eye on how it goes for Ugly. Let that be your guide.

Ugly Dougly · Post by **Ugly Dougly** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 1:12 pm

I don't got no leash. But I may be shopping for one.

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wedeliver · Post by **wedeliver** » Fri Aug 07, 2009 1:55 pm