What is Defaultia, and why does it suck?

All things outside of Burning Man.

What is Defaultia, and why does it suck?

because money means more to people than people do
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15%
because money means more to people than people do
6
15%
because i spend my time doing things for people who suck.
2
5%
because i spend my time doing things for people who suck.
2
5%
because it wants to kill you, slowly.
2
5%
because it wants to kill you, slowly.
2
5%
because it is a doomed paradigm
1
3%
because it is a doomed paradigm
1
3%
because it rules by fear
1
3%
because it rules by fear
1
3%
because it overlooks the overlooked.
2
5%
because it overlooks the overlooked.
2
5%
because it does not Love
1
3%
because it does not Love
1
3%
because it mocks and scorns the different
2
5%
because it mocks and scorns the different
2
5%
because we allow it to be that way.
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8%
because we allow it to be that way.
3
8%
 
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What is Defaultia, and why does it suck?

Post by Simon of the Playa » Fri Oct 16, 2009 9:36 am

i need to know. I'm having a moment of wanting to go postal, but i decided to ponder why i feel that way instead.

have at it...

how do you deal with the other 50 weeks, and is there a pill or something i can take to ignore the crushing weight that our version of "society" is?

If you fight it, does it automatically win?

If you don't, is there any way out?

questions, questions....

i really need a cigarette....i'm sorry, it's one of those defaultia days, that never seems to end, and there is no escape in sight.
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Post by C.f.M. » Fri Oct 16, 2009 9:44 am

I call it "the Mundane," and I deal by drinking heavily.

Keeping in touch with burner friends.

I have a year-round decomp, as the town I live in has zero fun things to do, much less anything to do burner-related.

Lots of escapism through books and movies and gin.

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Post by Fire_Moose » Fri Oct 16, 2009 9:45 am

I fill it up by looking forward to decomp...and holidaze...and TOAST!....with small desert parties mixed in between them all
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Post by Ugly Dougly » Fri Oct 16, 2009 9:47 am

Keep your circle of precious friends small, and go to them often. You are a tribe, surrounded by devils.

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Post by Simon of the Playa » Fri Oct 16, 2009 9:53 am

the sacred and the mundane.

spend too much time in the sacred and you starve, or are an outcast.

spend too much time in the mundane, and you live a meaningless life.

i've been trying to walk the razor's edge between the two, but i am cutting my feet very badly.

people in defaultia who claim to "know the deal" tell me to get a life, and stop this "burning bush" nonsense.

people who burn tell me to keep on keeping on and never look back.

i just want to do what i dream of, and realize that i can't, not here, not now.

I wonder if it's me, defaultia, or a combination of both.

god, i really need a cigarette.

The Sacred Marlboro, brought to you by Defaultia.....


sigh.

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Post by Deb Prothero » Fri Oct 16, 2009 10:09 am

Hugs Simon

Deep breath, now another one.

SilverOrange sent this out on his FB yesterday. I read it through twice and it all makes sense to me.

The Freak Revolution Manifesto:

http://freakrevolution.com/manifesto/

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Post by C.f.M. » Fri Oct 16, 2009 10:30 am

Ugly Dougly wrote:Keep your circle of precious friends small, and go to them often.
They live hours and hours away...but I go as often as my work schedule and budget will allow. :cry:

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Post by Simon of the Playa » Fri Oct 16, 2009 10:37 am

thanks deb.


my issue is with those "closest" to me, my friends and family who taunt me with their financial superiority and tempt with "the good life" if i come back into the fold, and forget all of this.

little by little as they take away anything that might be able to sustain my ability to live in defaultia, and they wait for me to break.

you saw how i live...hand to mouth, in a basement of one of my father's buildings.

it's fucking freezing down here...it's difficult to work, my hands are fucked.

i have been totally cut off from any assistance and the grape they dangle in front of me is "My Old Life"...

warmth, food on demand, Television, creature comforts, a social life, money and power.

an end to my "suffering" if i just give in.

they don't fucking "get it"...and instead, are literally torturing me "for my own good"

maybe they are right....maybe i am a fool....i don't really know anymore.

i am looking down the gullet of a faustian bargain, and am indeed tempted to give up and give in...

i have to go in search of a cigarette now before i scream and start smashing things like the Hulk on a PCP bender.

don't worry, i'll be fine, i'm going to decom tomorrow (a sore point with the above devils) and should be able to glean enough burniness to carry on.

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Post by littleflower » Fri Oct 16, 2009 10:54 am

i just don't tell them.

i've always tried to see things their way, and be good and responsible, and become an accountant, make a good living, &c. it made me miserable. they see their mistake, now, and are more willing to help, to the extent they can ... but i don't want them to. i hate the trips........ it's so much easier to tell little white lies.

but i do have peace with it all. i have my own little nest egg now, and ... well, the realization that they have their dreams too. dreams that may be inconceivable to me ... but who am i to say what's real, and what isn't? i have friends - and parents - whose dream is financial security, and guess what - they weren't born with any. money isn't more important to them than people, but they work hard to get what they want, and who can say that's wrong? they enjoy helping others, too ... especially those who are close to them ...

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Post by Simon of the Playa » Fri Oct 16, 2009 11:11 am

i was born into it, and threw it all away. Money does not equal happiness, but it sure eases the pain sometimes.

most people think was the biggest mistake of my life. I tell them not to Judge the Moth until they themselves have seen the Flame.

they still think i'm a fucking idiot, or worse, insane.


i think it might have alot to do with locale as well...i know the old saying that no matter where you go, there you are, but i also believe that environment plays a crucial factor in one's well being physically and mentally.


Left Coast, here i come. Next Week.


fuck this shit, they can have it. Let them call me whatever names they want to, they will anyway.

thanks e-playa for letting me think out loud, in a sense.

i love you.
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Post by Deb Prothero » Fri Oct 16, 2009 11:16 am

Glad you're going to decom Simon. Hope it helps.

In a quiet moment, I hope you will read the Freak Revolution Manifesto. It is written specifically for moments like this to help you make the choice that will give you some happiness without sacrificing the beautiful being that you are and without depriving the world of your art.

You have chosen a difficult path and its made more difficult by their taunting. I'm sorry to hear that you have to endure this rather than having their support that would you make your life easier.

Seeking support among your friends is a good solution. Maybe you could get a work party together to make your lair a little more weatherproof. Of course, that may have to wait til after you return from your upcoming journey.

:D I know what you need - an AGENT and a SHOW. :D

Those chairs are friggin' amaaaaazing! The world needs to see them. A web site would be a cool way to start too so you could show the burning community and get some commissions. Your work is fabulous and people would love to buy it.

And I'm not just pumpin' sunshine up your skirt, sweetie!

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Post by goathead » Fri Oct 16, 2009 11:35 am

what a timely topic.

thinking about some amputations myself.

i understand concern BUTif they keep fucking with me,
I will cut them OFF.

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Post by Sail Man » Fri Oct 16, 2009 12:00 pm

As I worked my way down the poll, I was like, yes, yes, yes, yes.....Dammit! no All of the Above :?

Personally I'm pretty sick of mainstream society as a whole. Filled with nothing but greed. Materialistic bastards. Commercialism. Arrogance. Entitlement.

I drive to work and asshole after asshole cuts you off repeatedly. Tailgates you in the slow lanes cuz you arent speeding.

I saw a co-worker with a bumper sticker: EMS, were here to save your ass, not kiss it. Gotta get me one of those.

I look at my sailboat as my escape pod. I slowly rig it, upgrade it as best as I can in hopes of one day, sooner then later, getting the fuck out of dodge. Even moving up north on my Mom's farm is very appealing. I fucking hate living down here in this cess-pool.

Simon, aint nothing crazy bout you. If you are, then that makes 2 of us.

Any other takers?
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Post by Deb Prothero » Fri Oct 16, 2009 12:15 pm

Oh dear Goathead, that sounds serious. Work again, I suppose???

Consider your heart and take deep breaths. This too shall pass. Or plan your retirement.

Sail Man, I'm gonna make you a Tshirt with that on it!

I will once again highly recommend the link I posted above for the Freak Revolution Manifesto. It will make you smile and it's simple and real.

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Post by gaminwench » Fri Oct 16, 2009 1:56 pm

I'm with Sail Man...poll needs 'all of the above'...
Left Coast, Simon?? Joining the hippie team???

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Post by Boijoy » Fri Oct 16, 2009 3:11 pm

Simon. Maybe you just need a little space heater and a sun lamp.
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Post by gyre » Fri Oct 16, 2009 3:38 pm

I can sympathize, Simon.

I can help you stay warm, if you're interested.
Quartz and radiant heat can use 90% less energy with spot heating.
Makes more difference in leaky locations.

This usa company makes heated mattress pads for ac and 12 volts.
http://www.electrowarmth.com/
They can keep you warm in rooms so cold you can't breathe in them.
There are some german makes too.
Search electric or heated underblankets for the european market.
There are as always chinese made too.

Email me for any help with radiant panel or quartz heating.
I find I sleep better under quartz heat than anything else.
There is some suspicion of some health benefits too.
Like having the sun on your face.

Your body senses only heat lost, not air temperature.
This works in an rv or a house, in Loston or florida.

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Post by goathead » Sun Oct 18, 2009 10:21 am

Seems I have won a battle for a change.
Snarked at them and they have backed off.

Or are they just letting me think they have backed off?

HhHHhhhhHHhmmmMMMmmm...
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Time will tell.

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Post by Elorrum » Sun Oct 18, 2009 12:18 pm

I can only speak to my experience. My question to myself is always, "What am I doing about it?" That I pissed on the gifts I was given is not enough to explain why I do what I do. I hated the end result of every favor I sought or accepted to get my life in line with the "plan." Things came easily and it took me so long to learn how to practice something and gain proficiency over time, and endure, perhaps come to enjoy the process of change, and play a more active role. Hesse said, "A man will not swim until he is able." or something like that, which I took to mean that when you are able, once you step off the shore, you have to keep swimming, you can't go back to the certainty of the land beneath your feet. Everyone, I think, Everyone, is afraid that they aren't doing it right. I'm not as special as I think I am. My bedrock is the certainty right now that I take care of myself, I earn my way. It's not much in comparison to some, but I could load a dumpster with all the extraneous crap I've accumulated. In comparison to so many in the world, I live in absolute luxury: secure locking door, hot and cold water, electricity. I've lived without these things at times, and was still considered well off where I was living. If I hate my job, I ask, what am I doing about it? If I want more space to make things, I ask, what am I doing about it? If I am lonely, what am I doing about it? Then when I do nothing, which mainly I do, I know what the problem is. If the basis is more organic, I seek help. When that doesn't change things quickly, it comes back to me, what am I doing about it? I tell myself to get on the bike, go outside, go to Burning Man, shake things up, get a new perspective, have a laugh for Christ's sake. what am I doing?

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Post by Sail Man » Sun Oct 18, 2009 2:10 pm

Deb, that would be great. :D


Elorrum, you make a good point about our level of luxury here, and compared to abroad. In my sailing mags I read about cruiser off in distant lands who at home would not consider themselves well off in the least, but when they see what people have where there at, they realize that they are the wealthy one. And they also realize that because of that, they are more of a target to those that would like to even the playing field a bit, as it were.
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Post by theCryptofishist » Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:29 pm

Unsolicited advice, worth exactly what you paid for it.
1--Doctor. Just make sure that there's no physical illness--including depression--involved.
2--I'm not sure if this cellar is freedom or a trap.
3--You're not crazy for wanting something different in your life. At this point I fear it would be doing yourself violence to put yourself back in the box. If you really wanted the box, you'd have jumped back once things got hard.
4--It sounds like your family loves you--even though they don't understand you. If you aren't ready to accept that emotionally, accept it provisionally. Don't fight with them about this, they don't see it. They may see it when you've grown your wings.
5--Get your skills resume ready and go where you want. California can be hard, I'm just letting you know. Blah blah, gentler climate, blah blah, more ephemeral communities, blah blah, housing costs, blah blah, greater acceptance of non-traditional...

In other words, I am offering you a program of hard work with uncertain reward.
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Post by gyre » Sun Oct 18, 2009 6:18 pm

I remember looking out over the rooftops of paris and thinking that there was someone out there that was miserable and wishing they were somewhere else.
Next Plane to London was on the radio...
No matter where you go..

When you have the chance, I recommend watching Lost Horizon.
They now have it mostly restored to the 1937 length.
Might cheer you up.


Deadend Street, the original video
So sarky it was banned by the bbc
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Post by Simon of the Playa » Sun Oct 18, 2009 6:36 pm

decomp was great...


we got lost, spent way too much money, took strange chemicals, got really really really lost, got found, walked forever in the terrible weather to go hang out with a bunch of freaks in a hangar in brooklyn, took more chemicals, helped load musician gear, got lost, got really lost, lost my miners hat somewhere trying to get unlost, ended up at the House of Yes! a weird art commune (Kostume Kult!) with circus gear and seriously bizarre but wonderful people. got lost again....found the right train to the train the car.

and back again, jiggity jig.

same old shit.....LOVED IT!


thanks madagascar institute for the super nifty rocket horse o' rama.

too cool. i was mesmerized by the rockets, fire, and noise from your contraption. The Usual suspects.

Thanks Shambala for letting me sit in your gorgeous telephone art car, and the lazer cut necklace you gifted me which i'm using as a cock ring tonight, i'm kidding, KIDDING!


thanks silverback for your donation to the make simon temporarily insane fund, i should know not to stick my tongue out at you.

thanks to all the people who worked hard before, during and after the event to make us all squishy and real again, after the hardening that occurs when defaultia sets in.


until next year...
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Post by Deb Prothero » Sun Oct 18, 2009 8:28 pm

sounds like you got some of what you needed, Simon.

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Post by Simon of the Playa » Mon Oct 19, 2009 9:16 am

deb, it was the stale pretzel with runny mustard i got at the corner of 42nd st that put me over the top and back into human again.

knife, fork, a bottle and and a cork.
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Post by Deb Prothero » Mon Oct 19, 2009 12:52 pm

at least there wasn't a Pretzelgate incident reported in the news. :lol:

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Post by ygmir » Mon Oct 19, 2009 12:57 pm

Deb Prothero wrote:at least there wasn't a Pretzelgate incident reported in the news. :lol:
that's because "deep mustard" has not come forward, yet.............
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Post by Deb Prothero » Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:04 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: can't stop laughing, ygmir.

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Post by Roberto Dobbisano » Mon Oct 19, 2009 4:54 pm

ygmir wrote:
Deb Prothero wrote:at least there wasn't a Pretzelgate incident reported in the news. :lol:
that's because "deep mustard" has not come forward, yet.............

oh god, somehow i feel the FRENCH's are involved...


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/French%27s




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Post by Deb Prothero » Mon Oct 19, 2009 5:03 pm

No doubt the French's wanted to make you feel right at home.

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