I figure whoever shows up is quite welcome, and it will be short and sweet and without the usual trappings. I can't afford champagne for 300 random people who wander up.
Our entire families will be there, and those good friends to whom it's really important will be there, and others will try to make it and forget...having had a playa birthday each year, I know that planning a party is a dicey affair in the land of ten million distractions. I don't care, as long as he is there. It being my second wedding, I haven't the compulsion to Get All Bridal about it. We're having a reception in the city a month later, for those who get stopped on Friday on the way to the wedding by the BRC Animal Control or somesuch, and find themselves full of tequila and forget to remember where they're headed.
My wedding is at 6:30 PM, at the Temple of Stars, and everyone is invited to enjoy, participate, attend. Hell, do a performance if you want. I'm not planning anything much beyond an officiant, a buncha wedding garb (the bride will wear red, yes indeed) and a secret bottle of champagne for we two.