Rest In Peace

ygmir · Post by **ygmir** » Wed Jul 21, 2010 8:05 pm

great story PF.......and, a salute and farewell to your friend.

bigbluedoggy · Post by **bigbluedoggy** » Wed Jul 21, 2010 10:37 pm

AntiM, my deepest sympathies to you for the passing of your father.

ibdave · Post by **ibdave** » Wed Jul 21, 2010 11:06 pm

AntiM and Mylarry, So sorry for your hurt. I liked what you wrote...

Risky · Post by **Risky** » Wed Jul 21, 2010 11:42 pm

AntiM - I'm sorry for your loss.

cowboyangel · Post by **cowboyangel** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 9:02 am

Hey AntiM. God Bless you Babe.

Sail Man · Post by **Sail Man** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 9:12 am

My condolences to you AntiM on the passing of your father. Take comfort in the fact that he passed in the comfort of him home.

jella · Post by **jella** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 11:24 am

I'm truly sorry for you loss AntiM. ((hugs))
It was a true blessing to be able to have him pass in the comfort of his home. My mother passed with her dog on her lap.

oneeyeddick · Post by **oneeyeddick** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 11:37 am

(((Moderator M)))

VeganChoirGirl · Post by **VeganChoirGirl** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 12:32 pm

In October I lost my friend Kyle. We met as freshmen in college, we were both music majors. Kyle was full of life. He was taller than a tree and skinny as a rail. He was always the kid telling inappropriate jokes in the back of a cathedral in Europe durring mass or laughing the loudest when something struck him as funny. It was impossible not to like Kyle.

One night the whole crew was at his house and started trickling home as the hour got late. Kyle wasn't feeling so hot, so he went to camp out in the bathroom. His roommate and dear friend checked on him before he went to bed and Kyle told him to head to bed, he'd be fine. A couple hours later his roommate noticed a light on in the bathroom on the way to bed and checked inside, Kyle was seated against the wall. His face was blue. The doctors were unable to revive him. Kyle was 25.

We don't know what happened to our dear friend, his parents won't release the autopsy report. We just know he was taken from us too early.

2010 would have been his first burn, he will never make it to the dust.

Deb Prothero · Post by **Deb Prothero** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 1:00 pm

AntiM, hoping memories of your father sustain you and MyLarry for the time of your grieving.

@VeganChoirGirl - seems possible your friend is already on the playa at choir practise.

VeganChoirGirl · Post by **VeganChoirGirl** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 3:00 pm

Deb Prothero wrote:AntiM, hoping memories of your father sustain you and MyLarry for the time of your grieving.

@VeganChoirGirl - seems possible your friend is already on the playa at choir practise.

Thanks so much Deb, he probably is.

FaeTora · Post by **FaeTora** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 3:13 pm

AntiM - I am so sorry for your loss. I know there are no words, no actions or touch that bring comfort when a parent passes. Please know that if I can be of any help (be it shoulder, ear, or screaming bag) I am here.

VeganChoirGirl - When B passed this year it was quite the same. She never made it out to the dust but always made sure each of her children (and even me this year) was able to go. That's why I am taking her to the Temple so she can be apart of what she so loved and sacraficed for each of us.

:::hugs to you both::: May they all rest in peace and love.

Thecatman · Post by **Thecatman** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 7:43 pm

AntiM

Can't say I know how you feel, but I can appreciate what you're going through.

unjonharley · Post by **unjonharley** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 8:07 pm

((AM))

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 8:11 pm

AntiM, he lives ... in you. When my Dad passed, I vowed to pass along the little sayings, figures of speech, bits of wisdom, and plain old silly jokes for no other reason than to keep his spirit a part of us in the here and now. Keep him alive, pass it along.

Hugs.

Thecatman · Post by **Thecatman** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 10:04 pm

VCG
My condolences for the loss of your dear friend.....at such a ripe age

TomServo · Post by **TomServo** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 10:23 pm

VeganChoirGirl. I lost a friend the same way. Im sorry!

Thecatman · Post by **Thecatman** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 11:11 pm

WOW!
Just heard on the 11 o clock news that former Nevada governor Kenny Guinn (1936-2010) died today while doing roof repairs at his home in Las Vegas. His wife found him on the ground. It's not known if he had a heart attack or something and fell or if he lost his footing and fell.
My wife, who works for the post office in Carson City, in early 2006 drove a postal vehcle to the state capitol to help him with his passport application.

Post by **AntiM** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 6:18 am

geekster wrote:AntiM, he lives ... in you. When my Dad passed, I vowed to pass along the little sayings, figures of speech, bits of wisdom, and plain old silly jokes for no other reason than to keep his spirit a part of us in the here and now. Keep him alive, pass it along.

Hugs.

"I may be too old to cut the mustard, but I can still lick the jar."

And he said that recently....

Token · Post by **Token** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 7:32 am

My heart goes out to you and yourLarry, AntiM.

Token · Post by **Token** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 7:34 am

Big hug to VCG.

EmilyD · Post by **EmilyD** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 7:51 am

((((((((((((AntiM & Family))))))))))))) May your father rest easy. Hope the kitties are okay.

VeganChoirGirl · Post by **VeganChoirGirl** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 10:40 am

Thanks for all the love and support guys. I really appreciate it. AntM, I can't imagine how you must feel. But I am glad to send my love and condolances to you and Larry.

goathead · Post by **goathead** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 6:45 am

AntiM
VCG
Sorry to hear about your losses.

AntiM
He sounds like he had a great sense of humor till the end.

Post by **AntiM** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 7:02 am

VCG, hugs to you, losing a friend so early onthe journey is awful.

Dad's obit in the paper today. Cry. But I'm mostly stressing over potential greed from a couple grandkids who aren't even in the will. One thinks because she lived in the house for a while, everything is "hers". I don't have to give her the sweat off my ass, but the impending telling her moment makes me tense.

ygmir · Post by **ygmir** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 7:07 am

AntiM wrote:VCG, hugs to you, losing a friend so early onthe journey is awful.

Dad's obit in the paper today. Cry. But I'm mostly stressing over potential greed from a couple grandkids who aren't even in the will. One thinks because she lived in the house for a while, everything is "hers". I don't have to give her the sweat off my ass, but the impending telling her moment makes me tense.

My information is, if you give her a "little something", she can't come back with a law suit, claiming to have been "forgotten, or left out maliciously".......
as little as a dollar, works here in CA.........it may be different in Utah, though. You might want to check on that.

Kinetik V · Post by **Kinetik V** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 5:47 pm

It's bad enough to be going through the grieving process and then out of the blue all sorts of people come in trying to suck an estate dry thinking they are owed this or that. With one of my family the coroner had released the body and the funeral home had just picked her up when people started showing up to raid her house. 4 of us had to stand there with shotguns until the sheriff got there to tell them to get the heck out of there and he locked the doors and secured the property with police tape. The probate process was even worse. Liars, damn liars, and just the nastiest lowest forms of humanity. In the end the money hungry fools got jack. I didn't want anything but for her to be buried with dignity and respect and I shouldn't have had to fight to do it.

AntiM, I wish you well in dealing with her. I really do.

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 10:55 pm

Grandchildren are not generally considered "immediate family". She shouldn't have a claim in most states. My kids' grandpa (my late wife's dad) passed away in Iron County, Utah a couple of months ago. They each got a book from his bookshelf (he was a journalist and news desk editor, first with the Salt Lake Tribune and later as a freelancer, and he had a mighty fine bookshelf) and they cherish it.

Post by **AntiM** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 5:46 am

I think it will be alright, her dad is the one remaining brother who is working with me and he's very mellow. Everyone gets a Japanese print and that means me and 13 of 16 grandchildren! The other three get the prints their mom gave dad over the years. There is also enough china and knickknacks to satisfy the most devoted hoarder. I'm just not liking her lording it over the other gkids as if she's special. And she certainly isn't going to tell me what to do!

Yesterday was a day of sorting and organizing, and I've had a good talk with the eldest gkids (her siblings). Things are going to be under control, which is all I want.

Genius was with me the morning dad died, he changed the locks before I'd informed anyone other than MyLarry. I got calls offering help, the funniest one from the entitled niece's husband offering to help move furniture. Huh? On the day dad died? Otherwise, everyone is being relaxed, the only direct heirs are my brother, myself, and the two widowed SILs. Everything is a four way split and the contents of the house are "available" to gift to the family as we choose. So it won't be that bad.

FaeTora · Post by **FaeTora** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 6:49 am

AntiM - that's the way it is with B's estate. Her biological children aren't asking for anything yet but one on the non-bio's is trying to stake claim on everything in the house. She even my small portion of ashes for memorial candles. all I asked for was ashes for the Temple and one skirt of hers to have altered to wear when it burns.

::sighs::: people.