Is there really a "right time" to have sex?

maryanimal · Post by **maryanimal** » Sat Apr 23, 2011 11:21 pm

I was talking with a friend of mine and the subject of sex came up. He mentioned that there was a right place and a right time for sex? Hmmm I thought to myself. What if you just want to get down to business and sex your partner up like a crazed weasel?

I'm sure you couldn't do that while waiting for a green light, but what would you do if your mate, bf, gf, want to get nasty? Scenario: You're both at home, spending time doing things around the house, and after a while you feel a bit tired, but your SO wants to ride you like a bucking bronco?

Post by **Elderberry** » Sat Apr 23, 2011 11:26 pm

I'd say all of the above.

Post by **Sham** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 12:34 am

For some there is a "right time, right place", but for me "anytime, any place" works.
Some people require dinner and lots of fluffy foreplay, but others just need a warm body and a few minutes.

There is a woman at my work who is well into her 60's, who tells about all the guys she turned down over the years because she was "not that kind of girl". She's now wondering what she was saving it for. If she could go back, she says she would have done every one of them.

1durphul · Post by **1durphul** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 1:12 am

If you want it don't say it. Initiate, if your partner says no or pushes you away... that's your answer.

goathead · Post by **goathead** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 2:02 am

What then?

graidawg · Post by **graidawg** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 4:48 am

I would say the right time is when you want it. right place preferrably where your partner is, or at least the person that wants it with you.
I would go with right now, just got to find the partner . . . . . . . hi hand how You doin'

ygmir · Post by **ygmir** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 5:01 am

your harem awaits:

goathead · Post by **goathead** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 5:31 am

at least a cheap date.

never says no.

C.f.M. · Post by **C.f.M.** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 6:23 am

Uh, if I have a partner then they're respectful of my needs, moods and whims and vice versa. If I didn't feel like it for whatever reason, I'd tell them why and that'd be that.

I suppose I'm might be more

towards this question, but co-ercing yourself into having sex for somebody else isn't necessarily healthy, emotionally, for the relationship.

Now, there's a difference between when you're "eh, alright, I love them and it'll make them happy" and when you truly are not "in the mood."

I hope nobody is with someone constantly trying to push them into having sex when they don't want to.

Dr. Pyro · Post by **Dr. Pyro** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 8:27 am

I suspect some of us take a helluva lot less pushing than others.

ygmir · Post by **ygmir** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 8:47 am

Dr. Pyro wrote:I suspect some of us take a helluva lot less pushing thrusting than others.

just sayin'........

Donna Matrix · Post by **Donna Matrix** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 4:54 pm

tOO MANY ruLes..... my head is exploding.

MyDearFriend · Post by **MyDearFriend** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 5:28 pm

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Sorry I can't find a version of that song with pix; I love it.

I think sex gets better the more you do it, and, "not in the mood" is another way of saying "tense and distracted from what is really important in life," so, yeah take that step, believe in yourself, be open to happiness and pleasure whenever it is offered to you, and see how much better your life can be.

You don't have to have the perfect romantic trip to the moon every time you do it, either; a quickie can be quite exciting, or if sex is really impossible at the moment, well, a lick & a promise is better than nothing.

And don't get sucked into that whole "pressured for sex" fallacy, don't even go there, geez if the person is repulsive or not to your taste then, why are you pretending to be partners? THAT is what is making you unhappy, that lie you are telling yourself; not the "demands" for sex.

None of this applies to the 2 am booty call if you are not already living together... unless you want it to. FWBs need love, too.

graidawg · Post by **graidawg** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 5:37 pm

right now would be a great time for sex.

just saying

MyDearFriend · Post by **MyDearFriend** » Sun Apr 24, 2011 5:55 pm

graidawg wrote:right now would be a great time for sex.

just saying

Well, I'm home doing laundry.

Just saying.

and right now is always a great time for sex

Post by **AntiM** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:32 am

I just got out of the hospital, you sick bastard.

You know all that energy MyLarry always has? Yeah, always. Always. Sex Grease is our friend as I approach menopause. Fake it 'til you make it. Which I do.

MyDearFriend · Post by **MyDearFriend** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 12:43 pm

AntiM wrote:I just got out of the hospital, you sick bastard.

You know all that energy MyLarry always has? Yeah, always. Always. Sex Grease is our friend as I approach menopause. Fake it 'til you make it. Which I do.

Amen, sister.

Amazing how it all makes sense once you get started, eh?

Ugly Dougly · Post by **Ugly Dougly** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 1:33 pm

MyDearFriend wrote:
graidawg wrote:right now would be a great time for sex.

just saying
Well, I'm home doing laundry.

Just saying.

and right now is always a great time for sex

So MDF, you'd like to be surprised from behind as you do your folding?

Well, shucks, anything's better than boring ol' communication.

MyDearFriend · Post by **MyDearFriend** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 4:16 pm

Ugly Dougly wrote:
MyDearFriend wrote:
graidawg wrote:right now would be a great time for sex.

just saying
Well, I'm home doing laundry.

Just saying.

and right now is always a great time for sex
So MDF, you'd like to be surprised from behind as you do your folding?

Well, shucks, anything's better than boring ol' communication.

Bwahahahaha, that scene has been played out in how many cheap porn movies? Still popular, though! It's fun, you should try it!

And this took me a while to figure out, but, regular nookie is much more important than folded laundry or whatever other housework chore used to keep me out of bed at night.

Dr. Pyro · Post by **Dr. Pyro** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 4:58 pm

Note to self: Leave washer and dryer at home.

Trishntek · Post by **Trishntek** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 5:14 pm

A "household chore" is kinda how my EX looked at sex. Doing "IT" out of a sense of obligation has no value on the emotional side of things.

Spontaneous sexual encounters are HOT!

Planned and anticipated encounters are quite often disappointing on the intensity meter.

Spending an entire day teasing, toying and titillating is sooooooo fun! And that quite often leads to an explosion of passion for hours on end!

Stopping the car and doing it on the spot is certainly memorable. That fucking LEO tapping on the window can be a major distraction tho',,,,,

So is locking the restroom door for a quicky in the restaurant,,,, dammit! "We'll be out in a minute!"

Beach sand gets in places you never thought possible,,,, and the sleeping bag thing by the car on the wide spot in the road invites concerned passersbye to check to see if they can "help",,,,, sheeeesh.

To me, it's all good! It's all memorable! The key is to be ready at all times without expectations,,,,, THAT is the TRUE CHALLENGE!

MyDearFriend · Post by **MyDearFriend** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:08 pm

Trishntek wrote: To me, it's all good! It's all memorable! The key is to be ready at all times without expectations,,,,, THAT is the TRUE CHALLENGE!

Keeping the automatic response set to YES instead of NO, that's what did it for me. And realizing that the work would never be finished, so, I could just let it wait while I made some fun here...

My home is a fucking mess, BTW, and I am often late for work. But I am happy.

neopunk · Post by **neopunk** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:23 pm

I think when u find a partner, that accepts and appreciates you, any time is the right time. There is no greater gift, than laying in bed for hours exploring eachother. Other than that, I like it outside, on a hike, under the trees, with the sun shining down!

FIGJAM · Post by **FIGJAM** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:58 pm

MyDearFriend wrote:
Trishntek wrote: To me, it's all good! It's all memorable! The key is to be ready at all times without expectations,,,,, THAT is the TRUE CHALLENGE!
Keeping the automatic response set to YES instead of NO, that's what did it for me. And realizing that the work would never be finished, so, I could just let it wait while I made some fun here...

My home is a fucking mess, BTW, and I am often late for work. But I am happy.

Fucking should be messy!

Trishntek · Post by **Trishntek** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 7:09 pm

FIGJAM wrote:
MyDearFriend wrote:
Trishntek wrote: To me, it's all good! It's all memorable! The key is to be ready at all times without expectations,,,,, THAT is the TRUE CHALLENGE!
Keeping the automatic response set to YES instead of NO, that's what did it for me. And realizing that the work would never be finished, so, I could just let it wait while I made some fun here...

My home is a fucking mess, BTW, and I am often late for work. But I am happy.
Fucking should be messy!

We call it, "Signs of Life"

neopunk · Post by **neopunk** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 7:32 pm

More fucking, less cleaning!

maryanimal · Post by **maryanimal** » Mon Apr 25, 2011 9:53 pm

Trishntek wrote: Planned and anticipated encounters are quite often disappointing on the intensity meter.

Boy I'll agree with this one...

Is there really a "right time" to have sex?

What would you do if your partner wanted sex and you really didn't? Would you:

Is there really a "right time" to have sex?

just do it

its always the right time...

i agree!