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Relationship Statistics??

Post by craaashley » Sun Oct 23, 2011 7:41 pm

Does anyone know what the statistics are for relationships on and off the Playa?
Like how many people who go to Burning Man in a relationship, also leave in that same relationship?
Specifically, I'm wondering what the chances are of staying together after the burn, especially if only one participant goes, and the other stays in the default world.

I'm thinkin' it has to be pretty low, considering the BRC is so damn profound and intense, it's a little difficult to control oneself in the midst of all the mind-fucking going on.

What do you guys thing? And does anyone know for sure and have any real statistics to offer?


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Post by ygmir » Sun Oct 23, 2011 7:43 pm

*tapping finger*
waiting for page 2

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welcome, and nice to meet ya on eplaya.
maybe, go to the "introduce yourself" thread so we can know ya?
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by Savannah » Sun Oct 23, 2011 7:49 pm

There are no statistics that I know of. Most people wouldn't want the invasiveness of such questions on the census. Here are some threads about relationships, however.

Burner/Non-Burner relationships
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?f=56&t=38652

Playa Relationships
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?f=56&t=37899

You can find more by googling keywords + eplaya.

There is a relationship survival guide here.
http://www.burningman.com/preparation/e ... ships.html

So . . . why do you ask? Are you a Burner? About to be? Yggy's right, introducing yourself is a nicety. :)

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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by wh..sh » Sun Oct 23, 2011 7:51 pm

Come on Yg! Give him/her the stats, will ya?

And what's this "introduce yourself" you speak off :) I feel like I whoosh-ed through that to crash the party.
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Post by ygmir » Sun Oct 23, 2011 7:54 pm

wh..sh wrote:Come on Yg! Give him/her the stats, will ya?

And what's this "introduce yourself" you speak off :) I feel like I whoosh-ed through that to crash the party.
Ahh, after 40 some post, who cares about me!

silly moo............
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?f=95&t=1391

It seems, I should hold the "stats" until others give their answers.
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Post by Elderberry » Sun Oct 23, 2011 8:08 pm

Savannah wrote:There are no statistics that I know of. Most people wouldn't want the invasiveness of such questions on the census. Here are some threads about relationships, however.
Since the census is anonymous, how could any question be invasive?
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by Savannah » Sun Oct 23, 2011 8:29 pm

jkisha wrote:
Savannah wrote:There are no statistics that I know of. Most people wouldn't want the invasiveness of such questions on the census. Here are some threads about relationships, however.
Since the census is anonymous, how could any question be invasive?
I doubt such a specific question as "Did your relationship survive the week?" would ever come up on the census, so it's kind of silly to entertain the thought. (I could envision them asking about marital status, but.) Anonymous or not, I would simply find it irritating to be asked, because I would wonder what stereotypes or conclusions I was contributing to and why.

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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by wh..sh » Sun Oct 23, 2011 8:31 pm

ygmir wrote: silly moo............
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?f=95&t=1391

It seems, I should hold the "stats" until others give their answers.
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?f=95&t=52024
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by ygmir » Sun Oct 23, 2011 8:37 pm

wh..sh wrote:
ygmir wrote: silly moo............
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?f=95&t=1391

It seems, I should hold the "stats" until others give their answers.
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic.php?f=95&t=52024
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by moonrise » Sun Oct 23, 2011 8:40 pm

craaashley wrote: I'm thinkin' it has to be pretty low, considering the BRC is so damn profound and intense, it's a little difficult to control oneself in the midst of all the mind-fucking going on.

What do you guys thing? And does anyone know for sure and have any real statistics to offer?

We usually don't thing thinks.

Why wait for page 2? I'm bored and this isn't the introduce yourself thread.

The lovely Savannah gave you THE best threads for what we thing. (I'm just being goofy, except, Savannah DID post THE best threads for you, she's top knotch)

You're from Drano (oops, Reno) and you aren't aware 'the mind-fucking going on' is during the other 51 weeks, in the real world? After you experience the trip and see we turn it inside out, upside down and all around, you'll understand better (hopefully) You have to go to understand (hopefully you'll understand better) I have a feeling you'll weed out your not so great freinds, and replace them with, good ones.

Have fun! and let us know how things work out post burn, if you go in 2012.
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by ygmir » Sun Oct 23, 2011 8:58 pm

of people entering BRC "in a relationship"

58% leave in the same relationship

17% break up (of that 70% leave with a different partner)

12% lie

8% take up with farm animals.

4% are never seen again.

you, may well be the 1%..........



survey taken via NSA cell phone and internet taps
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by MyDearFriend » Sun Oct 23, 2011 9:08 pm

moonrise wrote:the 'mind-fucking going on' is during the other 51 weeks, in the real world
This.

Absolutely.

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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by trilobyte » Sun Oct 23, 2011 9:14 pm

There are no "real" statistics, just random anecdotal stuff from other participants. It's a city of slightly more than 50,000 people, there are plenty of relationships that survive as well as plenty that crash and burn (either on or immediately following the event). I think it depends upon the individuals involved, and where they are (or aren't) in their relationship.

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Post by junglesmacks » Sun Oct 23, 2011 10:32 pm

I've personally found that it's not so much the "temptations" that exist on the playa if you go without your mate, but more of the underlying difference in personality if you are there without them. The differences become glaring.

I've now ended two relationships in a row right after coming home from the burn. I've also come to realize that my best friend in the world.. who I took to BM with me this year for her first time.. and watched her flourish and find her spot and her people after 32 years.. is most likely my little other half in this world who I love more than anything.


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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by gyre » Sun Oct 23, 2011 10:54 pm

ygmir wrote:*tapping finger*
waiting for page 2

ETA:
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maybe, go to the "introduce yourself" thread so we can know ya?
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Post by Dr. Pyro » Mon Oct 24, 2011 7:26 pm

I am really torn to even chime in on this subject. First off, you're suggesting some, or in this case, many people would admit on a public forum of having an affair out of the sacred bond of marriage. I know I for one find this unacceptable. But that being said, Burning Man is a sexually charged atmosphere. I have heard it said two ways (and both end up being the same): "Burner women [and men] are easy," and "Even the Elephant Man could get laid at Burning Man." That may be a bit of a stretch, depending on where they hang out I suppose. Anyone looking for statistics are just trying to find a quasi-legitimate out for their indescretions. OK, I've made my peace. Now, everyone go out and fuck one another.

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Post by ygmir » Mon Oct 24, 2011 7:35 pm

Dr. Pyro wrote:I am really torn to even chime in on this subject. First off, you're suggesting some, or in this case, many people would admit on a public forum of having an affair out of the sacred bond of marriage. I know I for one find this unacceptable. But that being said, Burning Man is a sexually charged atmosphere. I have heard it said two ways (and both end up being the same): "Burner women [and men] are easy," and "Even the Elephant Man could get laid at Burning Man." That may be a bit of a stretch, depending on where they hang out I suppose. Anyone looking for statistics are just trying to find a quasi-legitimate out for their indescretions. OK, I've made my peace. Now, everyone go out and fuck one another.

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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by wh..sh » Mon Oct 24, 2011 8:19 pm

Dr. Pyro wrote:having an affair out of the sacred bond of marriage.
What! people do that out of the sacred bond of marriage? No way! :wink:
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Post by Eric » Mon Oct 24, 2011 10:40 pm

wh..sh wrote:
Dr. Pyro wrote:having an affair out of the sacred bond of marriage.
What! people do that out of the sacred bond of marriage? No way! :wink:
Is this "sacred bond" something I need to know about, and if so, do I talk to the wife or the boyfriend about it?
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

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AntiM wrote:Image

(48 pack? Really?)
ROFLMAO!! Economy is tough you know. It's wise to stock up in case of emergency.
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Post by theCryptofishist » Tue Oct 25, 2011 9:58 am

So that when things get out and out Weimar, one will have stock piles of something to sell...
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Post by EspressoDude » Tue Oct 25, 2011 10:22 am

AntiM wrote:Image

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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by Ugly Dougly » Tue Oct 25, 2011 2:28 pm

Has anyone even bothered to do a survey?

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Post by Roberto Dobbisano » Tue Oct 25, 2011 2:34 pm

theCryptofishist wrote:So that when things get out and out Weimar, one will have stock piles of something to sell...
i believe there is indeed something called the "wheelbarrow"...
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by ygmir » Tue Oct 25, 2011 2:39 pm

Roberto Dobbisano wrote:
theCryptofishist wrote:So that when things get out and out Weimar, one will have stock piles of something to sell...
i believe there is indeed something called the "wheelbarrow"...
I love a good pumpernickel........
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by wh..sh » Tue Oct 25, 2011 3:29 pm

Ugly Dougly wrote:Has anyone even bothered to do a survey?
Survey results -
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by junglesmacks » Tue Oct 25, 2011 9:42 pm

Roberto Dobbisano wrote:
theCryptofishist wrote:So that when things get out and out Weimar, one will have stock piles of something to sell...
i believe there is indeed something called the "wheelbarrow"...

I tried this, but I could only hold both of her ankles in the air for so long.
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Post by Drawingablank » Tue Oct 25, 2011 9:57 pm

junglesmacks wrote:
Roberto Dobbisano wrote:
theCryptofishist wrote:So that when things get out and out Weimar, one will have stock piles of something to sell...
i believe there is indeed something called the "wheelbarrow"...

I tried this, but I could only hold both of her ankles in the air for so long.
Are you sure you are not confusing this with the jackhammer?
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Re: Relationship Statistics??

Post by junglesmacks » Wed Oct 26, 2011 9:55 am

Drawingablank wrote:
junglesmacks wrote:
Roberto Dobbisano wrote:i believe there is indeed something called the "wheelbarrow"...

I tried this, but I could only hold both of her ankles in the air for so long.
Are you sure you are not confusing this with the jackhammer?
I've always been under the impression that face down it's the wheelbarrow, face up the jackhammer.
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