So my shrink said....

[BBadger]

Hey. It's a BBS. Sometimes I post something that later I come to either not believe or have been convinced I was wrong.
Doesn't much matter now, does it? I have similar conversations with people in person. Everybody isn't going to like me or what I say. I can't help that. I'm too old to censor myself--just blame it on the Ahlzheimer's and the fact that old people become mean and crotchety.

Nah, that doesn't come with age, though sadly such excuses do. What it really sounds like is a fundamental learning dysfunction, where concepts are recognized, but not applied. But hey, just a BBS right? Nothing beyond the nicknames and the text we write huh? We shouldn't expect better of people here.

[Elderberry]

Hey. It's a BBS. Sometimes I post something that later I come to either not believe or have been convinced I was wrong.
Doesn't much matter now, does it? I have similar conversations with people in person. Everybody isn't going to like me or what I say. I can't help that. I'm too old to censor myself--just blame it on the Ahlzheimer's and the fact that old people become mean and crotchety.

Nah, that doesn't come with age, though sadly such excuses do. What it really sounds like is a fundamental learning dysfunction, where concepts are recognized, but not applied. But hey, just a BBS right? Nothing beyond the nicknames and the text we write huh? We shouldn't expect better of people here.

Hey, it's all a matter of personalities. I don't like much of any thing you post in the OWS thread you don't seem to like anything I post in the fat thread.
But I'd bet we'd get along on the playa.

[Bin Noddin]

It doesn't matter
It doesn't affect us
We're not telling you what to do
It's not our business
We're not judging you

But you're jumping to conclusions and flying into a rage. It's NOT about you. Really. Calm down.

[tattoogoddess]

I don't do any of those things. But then again, I'm not fat.
I used to smoke too...3 packs of Pall Mall reds a day for years. Don't do that any more either.
The thing I don't understand, and the only reason I am going on antagonizing you is WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU EVEN GIVE A FLYING FUCK WHAT I, A COMPLETE STRANGER, THINKS ABOUT YOU???
I just can't resist pushing your buttons and you make it more irresistible with each new post you make.
You are who you are. Like it or change it. There is no reason to have to justify it--not to me or to anyone else. Not even to your mother, which is actually what this thread is about now, isn't it?

Jesus really? I really wish you would visit a few threads I have commented on. I guess I will have to spell it out again. Like I said. I was bullied for MANY years about my weight. I still am. So of course I am very sensitive about it. I think I am pretty yes. But hell it cuts fucking deep when you hear it day in and day out about being fat or needing to lose weight. It is the same fucking equivalent of people tell you that you have a small penis.Fucking face it guys worry about that the most. How would you feel if people degraded you about your small penis? It would hurt wouldn't it? You did not ask to be judged. Nor did I.

I guess I am just one of those small handful of people out there that just would rather keep there mouth shut or tell a white lie then to hurt someone and make them feel down on there self. What is the point of making some one feel bad? Or even make them feel bad by pointing out something that is quite obvious? Im sorry I am not that type of person. I don't like to see people hurt or sad or what have you. I would much rather see them enjoying their day by my keeping my mouth shut or telling them a white lie. Yeah I may go to "hell" for lying but at least that person had a smile on their face that day.

[ygmir]

It doesn't matter
It doesn't affect us
We're not telling you what to do
It's not our business
We're not judging you

But you're jumping to conclusions and flying into a rage. It's NOT about you. Really. Calm down.

I just erased half a page of blather, thanks to your clear, concise, summation, Bin.

[Elderberry]

Hey, get over yourself. Nobody cares.
Oh, and I do have a small penis, now that you mentioned it.

I don't do any of those things. But then again, I'm not fat.
I used to smoke too...3 packs of Pall Mall reds a day for years. Don't do that any more either.
The thing I don't understand, and the only reason I am going on antagonizing you is WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU EVEN GIVE A FLYING FUCK WHAT I, A COMPLETE STRANGER, THINKS ABOUT YOU???
I just can't resist pushing your buttons and you make it more irresistible with each new post you make.
You are who you are. Like it or change it. There is no reason to have to justify it--not to me or to anyone else. Not even to your mother, which is actually what this thread is about now, isn't it?

Jesus really? I really wish you would visit a few threads I have commented on. I guess I will have to spell it out again. Like I said. I was bullied for MANY years about my weight. I still am. So of course I am very sensitive about it. I think I am pretty yes. But hell it cuts fucking deep when you hear it day in and day out about being fat or needing to lose weight. It is the same fucking equivalent of people tell you that you have a small penis.Fucking face it guys worry about that the most. How would you feel if people degraded you about your small penis? It would hurt wouldn't it? You did not ask to be judged. Nor did I.

I guess I am just one of those small handful of people out there that just would rather keep there mouth shut or tell a white lie then to hurt someone and make them feel down on there self. What is the point of making some one feel bad? Or even make them feel bad by pointing out something that is quite obvious? Im sorry I am not that type of person. I don't like to see people hurt or sad or what have you. I would much rather see them enjoying their day by my keeping my mouth shut or telling them a white lie. Yeah I may go to "hell" for lying but at least that person had a smile on their face that day.

[tattoogoddess]

It doesn't matter
Then why was this brought up at all? It does not matter why is the sky is blue or it is a degree hotter today. I don't see that being talked about here. So Yeah apparently this does matter to some close minded people.
It doesn't affect us
some one said I use there tax dollars because I am fat
We're not telling you what to do
posting a book about weight loss and saying I need to buy it and read it, posting i should eat a tape worm, emailing me what i should eat. Yeah that is telling me
It's not our business
Then why was it even started in the first place? I did not start a help i need to lose weight thread. Some one said I should be a stripper I said no im 260 and it wouldnt work then people got on telling me I was in the wrong for being fat. Seems like they think it is.
We're not judging you
I beg to differ on some people.

But you're jumping to conclusions and flying into a rage. It's NOT about you. Really. Calm down.
No not really.
I wont calm down cause this is not ok behavior on how you treat people.

[Elderberry]

You are just too easy a target.
Grow up already.

[tattoogoddess]

You are just too easy a target.
Grow up already.

If I grow up any more I will die of heart failure. I'm already 260 remember?

It's not that im easy target you are just a _______ that has no sensor and like to make people upset. Terrible trait to have. Glad I was raised with better values then that.

[ygmir]

TG (o.p.)
really, take a breath here.
have you ever read the book "The Four Agreements"? Not that I push self help stuff.....but, it sure helped me.

Don't take shit personal!
Yeah, some folks have said unkind things.........but, they seem generalized, for the most part. The thread is not "yours", and, everything discussed, or said, within, is not directed at you, personally.
Yup, some give and take, between you and others here, has come close to being pretty personal.
Well, can you just "step away"?
a fire only burns, if you keep feeding it fuel.

put the kindling down.

You don't need to defend yourself. Those who like you, won't care what others say, and those who don't, won't be swayed anyway.

As stated earlier: "it's not about you"........it's a discussion, and back and forth, between folks with thoughts, shooting electrons at eachother, seeing if they can get a reaction.

really, NO ONE CARES, what others say about you, or, you say about yourself.

you'll find, if you stay long enough, we are a very dysfunctional family, but, the common thread is we love eachother (I can only speak for me here, but I think others would agree). Yup, we fight, call names, hurt........we also nurture, love and help.

I wish I were more educated, in that, if I said it almost smacks of narcissism, that you think it's all about you, it would be taken seriously.
I don't mean that in a deprecating sense, but more as a mirror, for you to see maybe, that, you're putting yourself into the middle of something, that went way beyond your presence.

Everyone is entitled to their opinions.....and especially here, where we (mostly) celebrate diverse opinion and thoughts.

I would bet, many here already are very fond of you, for who you are and what you do.
I'd also bet, some don't like you.

welcome to Eplaya.

How about, just stepping back, letting the conversation go where it will (we are famous for thread drift), and, enjoy the banter.

[wh..sh]

Flash news: BOTH fat and fit people die.

I believe we all have faults/flaws. But it is wise that all of us surround ourselves with 2 kinds of people...
1) Who would love us for what we are and treat us well
2) Who would give us facts right to our face
Without these 2 kinds, we will go nowhere. We need these 2 kinds to grow as a person.

I would hate to be around ppl who would lie to me and try to make me feel good all the time. Good intentions, but beyond a point, you can call their bluff and lose trust in their credibility.

So, TG - Even though you didnt ask for all this advice, try to focus on positives.
JK - You can be the bigger person here... especially when it involves a easier target.

ps: IF ONE OF YOU HASN'T CONVINCED EACH OTHER IN ONE PAGE, YOUR POINT IS REALLY NOT GETTING ACROSS.

[Elderberry]

Flash news: BOTH fat and fit people die.

I believe we all have faults/flaws. But it is wise that all of us surround ourselves with 2 kinds of people...
1) Who would love us for we are and treat us well
2) Who would give us facts right to our face
Without these 2 kinds, we will go nowhere. We need these 2 kinds to grow as a person.

I would hate to be around ppl who would lie to me and try to make me feel good all the time. Good intentions, but beyond a point, you can call their bluff and lose trust in their credibility.

So, TG - Even though you didnt ask for all this advice, try to focus on positives.
JK - You can be the bigger person here... especially when it involves a easier target.

ps: IF ONE OF YOU HASN'T CONVINCED EACH OTHER IN ONE PAGE, YOUR POINT IS REALLY NOT GETTING ACROSS.

Reminds me of Michael Jackson some how.
Define bigger person--especially the responsibilities of being said bigger person.

[wh..sh]

Reminds me of Michael Jackson some how.
Define bigger person--especially the responsibilities of being said bigger person.

For starters to be a bigger person one has to grow taller, gain 120 pounds, and (have bigger penis or drive penis-compensation trucks)


Disclaimer: contains no implied meaning.

[junglesmacks]

[wh..sh]

SHIT! What did I do?
I was just JOKING!!!

[junglesmacks]

SHIT! What did I do?
I was just JOKING!!!

lol.. nothing. This is just some decent spectating on a slow news day Sunday in mid-fall..

[ygmir]

SHIT! What did I do?
I was just JOKING!!!

lol.. nothing. This is just some decent spectating on a slow news day Sunday in mid-fall..

spectate this.....spectator........

[wh..sh]

Preddy flowers

[Elderberry]

Oh my eyes! lMFAO. I doubt there will be much more happening tonight. It seems that the protagonist has left the thread.

[moonrise]

Reminds me of Michael Jackson some how.
Define bigger person--especially the responsibilities of being said bigger person.

For starters to be a bigger person one has to grow taller, gain 120 pounds, and (have bigger penis or drive penis-compensation trucks)


Disclaimer: contains no implied meaning.

Thanks for the Dsiclaimer! Where would we be without trucks? (prius-ville and tiny tents?)

I think it's about time this thread included the THUNDERDOME!! (small dick club, lmao) Maybe Imma bump the old Thnuderdome thread up, that one is great! A calssic, haha.

[FIGJAM]

Can't we all just bangagong!

[wh..sh]

Thanks for the Dsiclaimer! Where would we be without trucks? (prius-ville and tiny tents?)

I think it's about time this thread included the THUNDERDOME!! (small dick club, lmao) Maybe Imma bump the old Thnuderdome thread up, that one is great! A calssic, haha.

**slowly slids out of the room and RUNS!**

[moonrise]

Thanks for the Dsiclaimer! Where would we be without trucks? (prius-ville and tiny tents?)

I think it's about time this thread included the THUNDERDOME!! (small dick club, lmao) Maybe Imma bump the old Thnuderdome thread up, that one is great! A calssic, haha.

**slowly slids out of the room and RUNS!**

Nah, stay!

I drive an average sized truck with a big, powerful engine, in constatnt need of tune ups

[deutlich]

I don't think I wrote that, but if I did, what was I thinking!? That would definitely be a false equivalence.
You can't chose to not be black or not be gay, you can however chose to be slimmer and fitter.

I'm pretty sure something went wrong when I cut down the quote, JK! (I hit the quote button then delete snippets not relevant to how I'm responding). That was from the original poster, not you! My apologies dear!!

[deutlich]

Ok again I am going to ask again

Why does it matter if I am fat? How is this effecting you in any way, shape or form?

I did not ask anyone here for diet advice, I did not say I was un happy being fat. This topic has NOTHING to do with weight in any way shape or form! But suddenly when I say my weight I have people coming out of the fucking wood work telling me what I need to do and who I need to be.

What fucking business is it to you what I look like, what I eat ect ect. I did not ask for any advice. I don't tell people how much they should drink because you run the risk of your liver failing. I don't tell you oh that picture you look a _________. You really should not wear that. I don't tell people hey you should'nt be fucking that much on the playa cause you run the risk of herpes.

Who the hell am I to fucking judge any of you and how to live your life in what makes you happy. Unless you ask for it im not going to.

So PLEASE tell me why the hell does it fucking matter to you or how does it effect you that I am over weight? Cause this shit of telling me im wrong and what i need to do to be "ok" with you is really starting to tick me off and is really not in true burner fashion as far as im concerned.

Yes, but no matter how beautifully they are made up, they are medically speaking, obese. Being obese is NOT HEALTHY and my big objection to all of this is trying to justify or imply that it is. Someone made the earlier example of what smoking companies used to do--the analogy is valid here, and there are as many companies making money on the "full figured" (the latest euphemism for "fat" adopted in this era of political correctness and by marketing genius) girl, as there were off of the image of being a smoker. Doesn't make smoking or obesity any healthier because you want to believe they are. Unhealthy is unhealthy.

Ok if you would like to go that route ok.
Do you buy all organic fruits and vegetables?
Do you buy free range chicken and chicken eggs?
Do you buy grass fed free range beef?
Do you only drink milk and water?
Do you brush your teeth with baking soda and water only?

There is alot of stuff im sure you do that is not healthy. So you can not sit here and tell me I need to be healthy when you yourself are putting harmful things into your body as well.

You made it pretty clear that you felt no one thought you were attractive because of your weight and height. There are A LOT OF US that disagree with that statement. There are even more of us attempting to be even mildly helpful to you, since that's how you stated you felt. Perhaps you shouldn't post so much if you don't want the response?

[tamarakay]

You are all upset about things that weren't even directed at you. For example: I believe he was telling AntiM about the book, it was a side conversation between them. Hey, I bought the book too. That's how threads go on here. Many side conversations.

Really, get over yourself.

I have to wonder how much of these "slights" you feel in real life are just as not reality based as the slights you feel on here. Get a grip. You are making yourself look like a fool.

[oneeyeddick]

[ygmir]

hey , what's with the sexual reference?

[junglesmacks]

Really, get over yourself.

TG, I think you may think that people here or maybe in general give way more of a shit about you and your issues than you think. We all have crap in our closet, but we deal with it!


Radical self-reliance means please deal with your own shit


I'm really.. really.. starting to think that maybe after all, this isn't the time nor place for you to be. If you think eplaya at times is a rough place to hang out, I have a feeling we'll be seeing ESD called around oh, Wednesday, about some crazy blathering 260# chick on open playa running around in circles waving her hands in the air with spit flying out of her mouth and screaming incoherent nonsense. BM is NOT roses, double rainbows and puppies. It's a gnarly ass inhospitable desert environment where your mental cohesion is put to the test in ways that you can't even grasp.

[Roberto Dobbisano]

what did the old bitter skinny queen say to the fat chick?

"it's YOUR fault i'm gay"...