Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

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Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

Post by gustavh » Thu Nov 15, 2012 10:00 pm

Anybody care to share their playa wedding stories? I'm in the midst of planning for a playa wedding for 2013 (also in the midst of my first year of graduate school. It's hard) and I'm curious to hear from others who have been through the process! Was there anything that worked especially well? Anything that you had planned on or couldn't do without that fell through? Unexpected surprises/lovely moments?

Some background about me: my fiancee and I met at the burn in 2011. It was both of our virgin burns and we were in a mid-sized theme camp. We started dating on the playa and have been together ever since. In 2012 we split off and did our own camp (Jake's Tent Charcuterie RV camp! At 8:45 and A), which was pretty successful and super fun. We got engaged on the playa in 2012 and decided to have our wedding at burning man in 2013.

As for wedding planning, we have about 15-25 people who will likely be there. I've picked out a dress and a ring and we have an officiant. And, sadly, that's about it so far. We still need a photographer and to figure out how to do a cake on the playa and decorations and...what else? This is why I'm soliciting your stories/tips/advice! Anything is appreciated!

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Re: Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

Post by gaminwench » Thu Nov 15, 2012 10:55 pm

I've participated in several different playa weddings.

What really worked:

Sunrise ceremony -
1) It seems it's actually easier for burners to make it to something at sunrise,
2) the light is amazing,
3) less distraction, especially at art installations.

Art Car -
1) One couple's camp arranged for an MV that could hold the entire wedding party & guests;
They were ferried to the ceremony site (deep playa art installation), then to the Temple for photos and blessing, then to a camp that
hosted their wedding breakfast - awesome!
2) Another couple was delivered to the guests at their ceremony site by two different 2 person vehicles - cute!

Food - Provide some!
1) Sunrise calls for a coffee station at the gathering place,
2) Cupcakes are great and easy!
3) Bacon is always appropriate!
4) Champagne!

Decoration - bring fabric scarves in your wedding colors for the guests to ceremonially decorate your site;
then they can keep them as mementos :D

Bells are fun - if every guests gets/has a bell, they can 'ring in' your vows.

Congratulations, and good luck!
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Re: Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

Post by dragonpilot » Fri Nov 16, 2012 12:45 pm

Attended a couple...

Last one was last Burn. The couple picked out an art installation they liked and we all hiked out there (about 50+ of us) around 9 PM...lovely night time playa stroll with a mission. The couple traded vows, the preecher preeched and was funny and serious. The couple worn suitable playa formal wear. We were entertained with awesome music and fire performers for about 30 minuted after the ceremony.

After it was all over, folks split up in smaller groups...some went back to camp, others stayed out on the playa to explore and enjoy the sights and sounds. It was perfect.
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Post by ranger magnum » Fri Nov 16, 2012 5:57 pm

We are also planning a playa wedding in 2013, so I am also curious as to what people have done. We also have an officiant and pretty sure we have an artcar with music. But thats about all.
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Post by theCryptofishist » Fri Nov 16, 2012 6:47 pm

Scott wanted a playa wedding. It's too much to say I regret it, but very few people made it--white out on the other side of the playa. It's deeper than that. It might be different for me now that I'm better at enjoying the burn... Still, I don't think I'd do it again.
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Post by ranger magnum » Fri Nov 16, 2012 8:00 pm

We are having another reception back at home for all our friends and family that cant make it to the playa. We have playa friends who wouldnt be able to make the reception at home, so this way most of the people we know can be a part of our wedding, either by being on playa or at home.

We have friends who run a pretty decent sized theme camp on the esplanade, so we are going to see if we can have it there, so if there is a whiteout, at least we would have some shelter.

Since we got together on playa in 07, it only makes sense we get married there.
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Re: Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

Post by TomServo » Mon Nov 19, 2012 10:14 am

I was playa married this year. It wasn't legal, but having it in first camp certainly made it real. Don't plan...other than the actual administor and my advice Our wedding bands were made of zip ties....her bouquet crafted from tin foil. We just went with the wind..and everything was beautiful.
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Re: Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

Post by teardropper » Mon Dec 03, 2012 2:03 am

There is no waiting period in Pershing County, but both of you must make it to lovely Lovelock, a pretty fair drive east of Black Rock City. But those pleasant folks at the Courthouse are accustomed to helping us Burners do just that. It's very refreshing to find a photograph, one much like the one on my wall at my house, of Black Rock City from the air. We had a very good friend get, from the Universal Life Church, the required documentation to be the officiant. Very easy to do, You can Google them and they will be happy to help you get set up. As for expectations, I would say, just as for all things Burning Man, try to leave them open. Don't lower them, don't raise them - the playa just gives. It will be unique. I don't know anyone else who had unplanned giant explosions going off overhead with perfect smoke rings during THEIR ceremony any where but in BRC. A close friend was married the same month, a formal church background with long white dresses and dark suits contrasted to our handmade cutaway tails, Burner dress, silver body paint, straw hats, our corner of the beautiful Temple and the dusty Black Rock Desert. Your choice....
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Post by junglesmacks » Mon Dec 03, 2012 6:58 am

Wait to eat the mushrooms until afterwards.

Or don't.
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Re: Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

Post by bandaloops_M&L » Thu Jan 03, 2013 3:17 pm

I didn't make it out to a playa wedding last year, but I think it is such a wonderful, bright, lovefilled area to enter into such a special union. Congratulations to all those who are doing a playa wedding this coming year! :) I would agree with having it at sunrise...when the sun peaks over the mountain your heart just melts :) Love and Light, your souls shine bright. <3 xoxo
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Re: Playa Weddings! What Worked...Or Didn't?!

Post by MacGlenver » Thu Jan 03, 2013 4:14 pm

I've dodged a wedding two years in a row! Here's shooting for a third! :)
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