Decompression for singles

aforceforgood · Post by **aforceforgood** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:34 am

Some of you picked up on the intended lightness in which I made my earlier post, my thanks to you for not taking the lower road and flaming me...

Of course I know relationships are much more rewarding than meaningless sex. Why else would I marry? Duh.

But that's not what I wanted to talk about. Some of you got that.

Others of you responded with both good humor and honesty, reinforcing things in your own words things which I intellectually know but have a difficult time seeing from a woman's viewpoint because I am a man, and therefore different from women. A man is not a woman with a penis, and likewise, a woman is not a man without a penis. We see and experience things in fundamentally different ways. Thanks for helping me see through your eyes a little bit.

I appreciate you taking the time and effort. This kind of communication helps both sexes understand each other better, always a good thing.

And Stuart, were you pleading guilty to never turning down a hummer or to turning one down...?

Sensei · Post by **Sensei** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 3:46 am

Have you guys noticed all the married horndogs hanging out in the DECOMPRESSION FOR SINGLES thread?

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 8:38 am

Sensei wrote:Have you guys noticed all the married horndogs hanging out in the DECOMPRESSION FOR SINGLES thread?

Ohhh! Touche!

theCryptofishist · Post by **theCryptofishist** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 9:40 am

Force wrote:Well if you're a girl and you haven't gotten laid yet, it's your own fault...

I was just discussing with my wife the other night about how easy it is for women- I mean really, is there a guy out there who would say no to a woman if she just straight out told you she wants to suck your dick?

Of course not.

And yet she seemed so amazed by this.

Ah, but would he reciprocate properly. A lot of men are selfish, lazy lovers.

Simply Joel · Post by **Simply Joel** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 9:58 am

theCryptofishist wrote:
Force wrote:Well if you're a girl and you haven't gotten laid yet, it's your own fault...

I was just discussing with my wife the other night about how easy it is for women- I mean really, is there a guy out there who would say no to a woman if she just straight out told you she wants to suck your dick?

Of course not.

And yet she seemed so amazed by this.
Ah, but would he reciprocate properly. A lot of men are selfish, lazy lovers.

sexism anyone?

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 9:58 am

Hey, recreational sex is just fine. As long as everyone is enjoying themselves and nobody is dishonest or misleading in their intentions, go for it, it can be great fun. I think what I was feeling at the time was that if you get all wrapped up in "the game" you can sometimes loose sight of the forest for the trees. Mellow out and be yourself and wonderful things might just start to land in your lap ... or face ... or wherever.

regynalonglank · Post by **regynalonglank** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 10:38 am

yeah, but the thing is for sport fuckin ya gotta be in really good shape. i mean, if it's just recreational then it ups the physical ante quite a bit. that's a lot of pressure maynard! not always up to it...nicer with someone who likes you and might overlook the spinach in your teeth :)

however, there have been times when sport was what it was, and that's all good...but the thing is emotions just happen. sometimes it happens when you weren't meaning it to, and then there you are, in love with a one night stand...big time boo hoo for you. from what i understand it happens to guys too...but i agree with Silver when he says that most men view sex as a recreational activity. i know guys who don't want casual sex because they want a relationship...they do exist. usually right after they get their heart broken...but not from a one nighter, it's true.

a lot of people are selfish, lazy lovers. don't sleep with them. Good, Giving and Game...GGG, like Savage sez, it's the only way to fly. don't settle for less. and don't be less!

and what is with all the married horndogs on this thread anyways? heh...living vicariously through the singles are ya? well alrighty then!

theCryptofishist · Post by **theCryptofishist** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 10:58 am

Simply Joel wrote:
theCryptofishist wrote:
Force wrote:Well if you're a girl and you haven't gotten laid yet, it's your own fault...

I was just discussing with my wife the other night about how easy it is for women- I mean really, is there a guy out there who would say no to a woman if she just straight out told you she wants to suck your dick?

Of course not.

And yet she seemed so amazed by this.
Ah, but would he reciprocate properly. A lot of men are selfish, lazy lovers.
sexism anyone?

Poof.

Besides, I think you're gonna think about it carefully if you get one of those offers.

buckethead alien · Post by **buckethead alien** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 11:00 am

regynalonglank wrote: and what is with all the married horndogs on this thread anyways? heh...living vicariously through the singles are ya? well alrighty then!

Gotta get it somewhere....

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 11:04 am

And Stuart, were you pleading guilty to never turning down a hummer or to turning one down...?

the latter. I'm a mutant.

Also, I once had my heart broken after a one night stand. Well, it was a one night stand that turned into a short relationship that ended up with me being crushed. I guess I'm not relationship material. Better shuffle off and tell my wife.

Simply Joel · Post by **Simply Joel** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 11:19 am

theCryptofishist wrote:
Simply Joel wrote:
theCryptofishist wrote:Ah, but would he reciprocate properly. A lot of men are selfish, lazy lovers.
sexism anyone?
Poof.

Besides, I think you're gonna think about it carefully if you get one of those offers.

personally, i think i am a mutant like stuart...

i am so glad to be beyond my singleness... and my spouse, as well.

back to my original observation...

Simply Joel wrote:IMHO... wouldn't you be better served placing this under "regional contacts & events"

theCryptofishist · Post by **theCryptofishist** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 12:21 pm

Simply Joel wrote:
theCryptofishist wrote:
Simply Joel wrote: sexism anyone?
Poof.

Besides, I think you're gonna think about it carefully if you get one of those offers.
personally, i think i am a mutant like stuart...

i am so glad to be beyond my singleness... and my spouse, as well.

I'm not sure it's "mutantness." I suspect it's a natural varient. I suspect all broad statements about human sexuality are over-simplified.

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 12:27 pm

I suspect all broad statements about human sexuality are over-simplified.

bingo

might even go so far as to say

I suspect all broad statements are over-simplified.

but then I'd be guilty of over simplifying

damn paradox

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 12:28 pm

Simply Joel wrote: personally, i think i am a mutant like stuart...

i am so glad to be beyond my singleness... and my spouse, as well.

you're beyond your spouse as well? or your spouse is also beyond singleness?

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 1:08 pm

tisha2 wrote:
Simply Joel wrote: personally, i think i am a mutant like stuart...

i am so glad to be beyond my singleness... and my spouse, as well.
you're beyond your spouse as well? or your spouse is also beyond singleness?

... as we sink deeper and deeper into the morass....

... Did someone say More Ass??!! I'm there!!!!

Shut up...

Simply Joel · Post by **Simply Joel** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 1:11 pm

tisha2 wrote:
Simply Joel wrote: personally, i think i am a mutant like stuart...

i am so glad to be beyond my singleness... and my spouse, as well.
you're beyond your spouse as well? or your spouse is also beyond singleness?

the latter, thank you very much.

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 1:13 pm

tisha2 wrote:
Simply Joel wrote: personally, i think i am a mutant like stuart...

i am so glad to be beyond my singleness... and my spouse, as well.
you're beyond your spouse as well? or your spouse is also beyond singleness?

I *SO* want to say something here ... but I am holding my tongue as this isn't the place for a long heated debate about ... what it is I don't want to talk about but really do ... but dont.

Simply Joel · Post by **Simply Joel** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 1:15 pm

geekster wrote:
tisha2 wrote:
Simply Joel wrote: personally, i think i am a mutant like stuart...

i am so glad to be beyond my singleness... and my spouse, as well.
you're beyond your spouse as well? or your spouse is also beyond singleness?
I *SO* want to say something here ... but I am holding my tongue as this isn't the place for a long heated debate about ... what it is I don't want to talk about but really do ... but dont.

where are you folks when DVD or CA need their grammar checked?

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 1:17 pm

Simply Joel wrote:
geekster wrote:
tisha2 wrote: you're beyond your spouse as well? or your spouse is also beyond singleness?
I *SO* want to say something here ... but I am holding my tongue as this isn't the place for a long heated debate about ... what it is I don't want to talk about but really do ... but dont.
where are you folks when DVD or CA need their grammar checked?

theirs are usually too long to edit. yours are so nice and concise.

buckethead alien · Post by **buckethead alien** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 1:37 pm

Sensei wrote:Have you guys noticed all the married horndogs hanging out in the DECOMPRESSION FOR SINGLES thread?

If there was a MARRIED HORNDOGS thread, nobody would post to it, much less read it.

- Bucket

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 1:52 pm

Why not? Well, I am not married but I would post to it! Married people can be horndogs too, ya know. It isn't like marriage means ... oh shit, I better shut up now.

Simply Joel · Post by **Simply Joel** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:09 pm

geekster wrote:Why not? Well, I am not married but I would post to it! Married people can be horndogs too, ya know. It isn't like marriage means ... oh shit, I better shut up now.

I was wondering if you were going to step into the e=playa version of The La Brea Tar Pits.
http://www.ucmp.berkeley.edu/quaternary/labrea.html

step away from the edge

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:24 pm

A conversation for another day, another thread, maybe even another website. Gawd it is tempting though.

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:30 pm

cock tease

buckethead alien · Post by **buckethead alien** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:31 pm

stuart wrote:cock tease

totally...what could Geekster be thinking of?

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:54 pm

Simply Joel wrote:
geekster wrote:
tisha2 wrote: you're beyond your spouse as well? or your spouse is also beyond singleness?
I *SO* want to say something here ... but I am holding my tongue as this isn't the place for a long heated debate about ... what it is I don't want to talk about but really do ... but dont.
where are you folks when DVD or CA need their grammar checked?

besides, DVD, much as i love the little monster, is beyond hope.
you aren't.

cowboyangel · Post by **cowboyangel** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:56 pm

...somebody say grammer?

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:56 pm

stuart wrote:cock tease

hey, i prefer the benign term 'flirt'
quit calling me whn i'm studying my backgammon moves.
or at least do it louder.

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:57 pm

cowboyangel wrote:...somebody say grammer?

we're not talking about the matriarchs of your family, just so you know.....

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:59 pm

cowboyangel wrote:...somebody say grammer?

"grammer!"