Decompression for singles

tisha2 · Post by **tisha2** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 9:41 am

aaahhhh... well said, Rob.

Simply Joel · Post by **Simply Joel** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 9:46 am

samtzu wrote:Fishy wrote:
I agree with Stuart that sweeping generalizations are horrible inexact, although I think they can serve as a useful starting point for certain conversations.
WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! ALL generalizations are correct!!

two wrongs don't make a right, but three do!

Woodrow · Post by **Woodrow** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 9:46 am

The Yellow Rubber Chicken wrote:

look at it this way, i look like a chicken today. a rubber one. don't you want to play with a chicken??

ME! ME! PICK ME!!!

Alpha · Post by **Alpha** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 9:59 am

Hmm, a few thoughts.

M: Apology accepted. As others have said, I think what you're doing is admirable and back in my single days I would have loved to be a part of it.

Rob: It only now occurs to me, do the "couples-only" events mean that the couple have to be TOGETHER, or does it just mean that you have to come in with a POTOS? In other words, a guy says "hey I'm looking to hook up" and his platonic, female friend says "hey I'm looking to hook up" so they can go in together and then go separate ways?

Rian: EVERYBODY wants to play with a chicken.

geekster · Post by **geekster** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:08 am

So ... maybe costco should have a mini-booth outside the couples-only events.

Nipper · Post by **Nipper** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:11 am

so that is how you have been winning... Loaded dice.... HUMMMM Either way I win. HEHEHEHE

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:31 am

Nipper wrote:so that is how you have been winning... Loaded dice.... HUMMMM Either way I win. HEHEHEHE

fine, bring your own dice.
makes nary a difference to me.
besides, as i said to feras, INTE KAZAAB! KAZAAB IKBIIR!

mars · Post by **mars** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:34 am

Hey M! I can sooo relate to your angst about being single in a world of couples. I've been there and felt that. It can be very hard and very painful.

I want to add what I have learned from the coupled side of life...BM can really suck if you and your partner aren't on the same wavelength with it. My partner and I get along much better at home than we do at BM. I found myself wishing I was single at times, not for any sex-related reason (ok, well that's not completely true, but mostly) but for the freedom that comes with not having to worry about someone else and deal with their moods and their reactions to everything. The freedom to roam and do what you want and not have anyone to be accountable to. In fact, there were times when I wanted out of my whole camp and wished I was there by myself. This surprised me because I was so over being single and alone by the time I got coupled. But both have their pros and cons, they are just different, and a person can be happy or miserable or anywhere in between in either songledom or coupledom.

And BM can be hard or wonderful in either situation. And there is everything at BM--parts geared for couples and families and aspect that are geared toward singles. That's what I love about BM--it's ALL there. We have to remember this and if we don't like what we are seeing in front of us, we just have to turn around and look in another direction.

I do sympahize with your pain and hope you find a worthy counterpart soon!

Mars

Nipper · Post by **Nipper** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:35 am

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Nipper · Post by **Nipper** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:36 am

Damn The post did not come through... Gerrr.
Ani roteze at.

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:55 am

Burning Man and its associated Decompressions really are for couples, not singles

total bullshit

as a married man who attends the burn w/o his wife I can absolutely identify with Alpha's feeling of being odd man out. BM is very, inescabably sexually charged and if you are not a player in that game it can feel very exclusionary. I feel like a fucking monk on the playa. BM, amongst other things, is a giant meat market. My regional this saturday will be no different. The only large burner event I have attended that did not feel this way was Xara Dulzura. Even there the actively practising polyamorous had a palpable presence. I don't give a shit what the happy BM symbol was for this year. As a matter of fact, there was a subtext in it that proves my point to a degree; there is so much sex going on at burning man that we have to segregate due to child exposure.

we all want the same thing.

and what is that? I don't want the same thing as Joel, who does not want the same thing as Rian, who does not want the same thing as you, as you don't want the same thing as Alpha, who does not want the same thing as Rob. And none of that has to do with gender. We are just different folks in different places.

samtzu · Post by **samtzu** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:07 am

M wrote:

a person can be happy or miserable or anywhere in between in either songledom or coupledom

As a person who has engaged in songledom, I would like to say this is true. The first time I songled, it was with friends... and none of us knew what we were doing. It was pathetic, but then again, that was back in High School, and fire had just been discovered and songling was something that people could do around a fire.

Over the years songling has been a mixed blessing for me. If I could find someone who would like to songle with me, in the way I like to songle (slow, gently, and to some soft, classical music) I'm sure songling would take on that old feeling that it used to.

But for now, I'd rather couple.

Rob the Wop · Post by **Rob the Wop** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:29 am

Alpha wrote:Rob: It only now occurs to me, do the "couples-only" events mean that the couple have to be TOGETHER, or does it just mean that you have to come in with a POTOS? In other words, a guy says "hey I'm looking to hook up" and his platonic, female friend says "hey I'm looking to hook up" so they can go in together and then go separate ways?

Yes. The ones I've seen/know about/etc. were always of the 'one man/one woman' type, regardless of relationship. Oddly enough, single women were allowed, just not single males. I always found that one to be kind of a one-sided stance- but what the hell, I wasn't holding the party.

The worst case was a group that posted to a public burner forum. They said that they were having a wonderful, sensual party. Women under 35 were allowed, plus one date- being either male or female. If you were a female over 35, you were encouraged to find a younger female to accompany you. They even asked males and over 35 females to solicite dates from younger women and attend. Needless to say, me and J took one look at it and said "Screw that." Whenever a group can be too X to attend a function- it becomes discriminatory.

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:31 am

Nipper wrote:??? ???? ???? ????

inte= you
kazaab = liar
ikbiir = big.

bas, ani rotza at'a, kamaan.
mish hella.
ana fi sghurruli hella.
mmkn baaden, ilyom? fi masa?

oh, hey, holy shit, speaking of tonight, there's that lecture at the UW - wanna go??

Finding Common Ground in the Middle East
Yasser Abed Rabbo, Avrum Brug
Kane Hall 7:30.

i think it's free, too.
anyone else want to go?

regardless, my plan is to go. you're welcome to join me. of course.

Rob the Wop · Post by **Rob the Wop** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:36 am

stuart wrote:I don't want the same thing as Joel, who does not want the same thing as Rian, who does not want the same thing as you, as you don't want the same thing as Alpha, who does not want the same thing as Rob. And none of that has to do with gender. We are just different folks in different places.

Well, from the avatar- Alpha may want a sheep too. Just for different reasons. And from where Joel lives, its possible he might want some sheep action. Rian's a voice in my head, so she is probably pretty disgusted with what I do with the body part- but I'm sure she has some dirty things going on in there. Maybe with some of the other voices. Oh, and she has a thing for neighbors and power mowers- but I'm not entirely sure that's sexual.

But does she share? nnnooooooo...

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:44 am

Dumbass wrote:
Finding Common Ground in the Middle East
Yasser Abed Rabbo, Avrum Brug
Kane Hall 7:30.

i think it's free, too.
anyone else want to go?

regardless, my plan is to go. you're welcome to join me. of course.

FUCK ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was told this was tonight.
The little slip of paper tells me it was Tuesday.
God, what a dumbass if i missed this!

'course, me and Nipper have already managed to find common ground in the middle east, so why do i need a lecture on it? huh?

j/k............

stuart · Post by **stuart** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:45 am

Alpha, we want the same thing. Go to the bar and see what it is.

Rian Jackson · Post by **Rian Jackson** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:46 am

UW wrote:Finding Common Ground in the Middle East: A public discussion of peace initiatives in the Israeli/Palestinian conflict. 7:30 p.m., Kane Hall, Rm. 130. Speakers: Avrum Burg, Speaker of the Israeli Knesset and former head of the Jewish Agency; Yasser Abed Rabbo, founding member of the Democratic Front for the Liberation of Palestine and former PLO Executive Committee member. Sponsored by the Middle East Center; Evans School of Public Affairs, and others

somebody flog me. it WAS tuesday.

Alpha · Post by **Alpha** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 12:31 pm

So many thoughts:

1) anyone who would exclude women over 35 has never had the pleasure. :-)

2) Rob and I DO want the same thing: electrolysis. This fur coat is HOT!

3) Evidently Stuart is hiding something in the bar. Let's go have a look....

theCryptofishist · Post by **theCryptofishist** » Thu Oct 14, 2004 1:13 pm

samtzu wrote: By the way... has anyone considered a "Beastial Necrophilia Camp"? There's some really sexy road kill I'd love to introduce to the community.

I dunno, Sam. I just have this vision of the Semi full of hanging cow corpses and the gennie running on and on to keep them cold enough to last all week, kicking out diesel fumes and making lots of noise. Can you do it with solar powers? Freeze dried road kill?

(Damn, that raccoon on 24 is too far gone!)

Decompression for singles

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