Fuck!

[stuart]

FUCK


this past Saturday at L.A. decom god told me a second time not to do installations at burning man events.

RAIN and Stolen car

(well, it wasn't really stolen. Had to take my Wife's car cuz it has more room. She neglected to warn me that her tags were over a year old. After reporting it stolen we found it had been ticketed, towed, and imounded for expired plates.)

FUCK

[Simply Joel]

FUCK


this past Saturday at L.A. decom god told me a second time not to do installations at burning man events.

RAIN and Stolen car

(well, it wasn't really stolen. Had to take my Wife's car cuz it has more room. She neglected to warn me that her tags were over a year old. After reporting it stolen we found it had been ticketed, towed, and imounded for expired plates.)

FUCK

I gotta believe that was very fucking PRICEY lesson....

and not to be outdone!!!!!

my fucking step-son decided he did not feel well enough to stay in class today... called his mother for permission to leave school... she refused citing he didn't have a clear and definable illness... so he fucking signed himself out of school.... if we, the parents, don't back him up... unexcused absence.

so.... mother drives home on lunch to check on the ill son... and he is no where to be fucking found... not at home, not at school...

he is going to have a lousy fucking day when we all get home tonight....

and i aint feeling so fucking great about it either!

[thinkcooper]

Fucking teens!

[Simply Joel]

Fucking teens!

i would have been dead several fucking times over if i pulled the fucking crap this younster has pulled.

[Rob the Wop]

Fucking teens!

i would have been dead several fucking times over if i pulled the fucking crap this younster has pulled.

In your more traditional Italian families, 'unexused absence' is roughly translated to 'prelude to a severe slapping around'.

[thinkcooper]

Fucking teens!

i would have been dead several fucking times over if i pulled the fucking crap this younster has pulled.

My parents were pretty fucking lenient. But I'm not with my teen step-daughter. We're the most strict parents in her circle. It's fun. Good luck with boy. Sounds like he'll be fun to have a fucking drink with when he's old enough to join you at the bar.

[Simply Joel]

Fucking teens!

i would have been dead several fucking times over if i pulled the fucking crap this younster has pulled.

My parents were pretty fucking lenient. But I'm not with my teen step-daughter. We're the most strict parents in her circle. It's fun. Good luck with boy. Sounds like he'll be fun to have a fucking drink with when he's old enough to join you at the bar.

Drink with this fucking malcontent, not in your life!

Hey, you know... i am not a fucking parent... never wanted to be one, never trained to be one... but you know... i am the adult male role model... and what they see of me is... a guy who doesn't verbally or physically strike their mother, a guy who gets up each day and goes to work, a guy that gives them money to buy mother's day gifts and christmas presents... no, i am by no means perfect...

i just think he needs to emulate his mother's determinedness.... he might actually survive if he takes a few notes from her plan.

[thinkcooper]

i would have been dead several fucking times over if i pulled the fucking crap this younster has pulled.

My parents were pretty fucking lenient. But I'm not with my teen step-daughter. We're the most strict parents in her circle. It's fun. Good luck with boy. Sounds like he'll be fun to have a fucking drink with when he's old enough to join you at the bar.

Drink with this fucking malcontent, not in your life!

Hey, you know... i am not a fucking parent... never wanted to be one, never trained to be one... but you know... i am the adult male role model... and what they see of me is... a guy who doesn't verbally or physically strike their mother, a guy who gets up each day and goes to work, a guy that gives them money to buy mother's day gifts and christmas presents... no, i am by no means perfect...

i just think he needs to emulate his mother's determinedness.... he might actually survive if he takes a few notes from her plan.

Joel- good luck man. I bet you're really pissed right now. I would be too. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably have punched through a door. At the risk of sounding polly-anna, be sure he sees that you love her as well, not just tend to her needs. The rest of the stuff will resolve itself, if you let it.

I've told my step-kids a couple of times- I'm not here to be your friend, I'm here to be your parent. That keeps the positions we're in firm.

You're doing a hero's job, step-parenting is really tough. I wasn't trained for it either, and when the kids are at their worst, they remind me of their real dad who can irrate like a mother fucker. But you did sign on for the job when you hooked up with mom. I hope your time in the teen purgatory is short lived and the exit has a bright spot on the other side.

You guys ever consider counseling? It might be too late, but sometimes an outside perspective and some good tools can help.

Good luck man! Sincerely.

[Simply Joel]

I'd like to move this conversation elsewhere 'cause i am too fucking weary of saying fuck.

the young pup wouldn't/hasn't responded to counseling....

i wonder what it feels like to have less prospects for prosperity than i had?

it must suck... and by the way, my ticket out of poverty was the military and civilian education paid for by the military.

i wonder what the young pup is going to do?

[Rian Jackson]

fuckin' hell. this, i believe, is share al-quds, the main street between nablus city, balata, askar, and the checkpoint south. last time they blocked it off was during a bloody ass month long invasion.


this + all the nablus area land lines and jawwal networks down = major invasion.

fuckity fuck fuck.
can't even get a hold of anyone to wish them happy ramadan.
fuck.

[tisha2]

i would have been dead several fucking times over if i pulled the fucking crap this younster has pulled.

My parents were pretty fucking lenient. But I'm not with my teen step-daughter. We're the most strict parents in her circle. It's fun. Good luck with boy. Sounds like he'll be fun to have a fucking drink with when he's old enough to join you at the bar.

Drink with this fucking malcontent, not in your life!

Hey, you know... i am not a fucking parent... never wanted to be one, never trained to be one... but you know... i am the adult male role model... and what they see of me is... a guy who doesn't verbally or physically strike their mother, a guy who gets up each day and goes to work, a guy that gives them money to buy mother's day gifts and christmas presents... no, i am by no means perfect...

i just think he needs to emulate his mother's determinedness.... he might actually survive if he takes a few notes from her plan.

as a single mother, i really appreciate this conversation and the fucking honesty.

[Simply Joel]

to fully explain, the youngster's mother moved out on her own at 16... has worked ever since... and provided almost every conceivable need the children have had.

oh well, i only have 40 years to deal with this fuck-wit step-son.

[theCryptofishist]

For what it's f*ckn worth, some people have to learn the f*cking hard way. I was one of them. I did have some handicaps too. My parents were able to help me in some ways, but were less than helpful in others.

[AntiM]

Re: step-kid rant

We haven't heard from Larry's son in over a fucking year. He lives in Connecticut with his fucking mom who hates my fucking guts. Last year we fucking refused to co-sign a $7,000 car loan for a 7 year old Accura "all tricked out like the fast and furious" which he wanted to buy from his boss's son. Larry's boy was 18 at the fucking time, had gone from A's in school to F's, and had had a car wreck, although we didn't find out about the wreck until much later from his grandmother. (He lies by omission when he asks for money.) Of course Larry fucking said no. The kid couldn't get a loan because he was "smart" and both his jobs were off the books. So we're the bad guys for no loan for a teenager who lives all the way across country, and for not being able to cough up $800 as an early birthday gift a month before Burning Man last year. That was his concession to us not co-signing the loan, to settle for a down payment on a different fucking car.

Oh, and we're evil because we can't afford full tuition for college. He hasn't asked us for help, so we have no idea if he is in fucking school or not. Fucking 20 years old now and has severed all ties becasue his dad is not a fucking ATM.

Last time we heard from his mom was fucking two weeks before Christmas as he had lost his dependent ID and needed the paperwork from Larry to get a new one. She fucking informed us that we should buy him a 27" TV for his dorm room, no other fucking gift was necessary or wanted. He really fucking hated the savings bonds we got for him.

Fuck. See what happens when you think it is better not to fight the custodial parent in a long distance battle? Aw fuck, she never would let him come stay with us because we lived in Japan and later California, even though Larry had full joint custody. Didn't want her boy to travel out of state to visit his dad, too far away, he'd miss school, and his sports programs, summer camp or his music lessons. Fucking bitch agreed to two trips in six years. We rarely could go to Connecticut. That means Larry has seen his son a grand total of six times because every time he wanted to visit or send for his kid, she said no or arranged other family vacations. Holidays and birthdays were strictly off limits, we quit asking eventually.

Fuck, thanks for listening. This really fucking pisses me off. Larry's a great guy and deserved better from his ex. He had so much more to offer to his son than money, but that's all she ever wanted. Well, money and for me to not to marry him.

[Simply Joel]

i worked very hard throughout my life not to be in the step-daddy situation... however, i do understand the requirement as a male role model...

so, i suck it up and drive on... remembering my personal/professional ethics... and make every effort to be kind... more or less.

it feels like major league payback for my passive/aggressive nature as a teenager way back when... and now i do understand my step-father placed himself in a very demanding situation...

on the other hand, after he passed away, my mother has been "Granny" to all his children's children... as well as a host of other people that came stumbling along....

3 cheers for mothers... despite their kid's fucking shitty actions

[thinkcooper]

3 cheers indeed! Single moms are fucking unsung heroes. Don't know how they do it, to go through all that shit alone and then face all the fucked up portrayals in the news... Yikes!

I step-father two kids, 12/15. Their real dad lives cross country. He's clean and sober now and is getting back on his feet. He's stays with us when he visits the kids; I feel the kids are safer that way, not that he's a risk, I'm just paranoid. It's hard to hear 'em call the guy dad, but it is what it is... I also want to be sure to never step in the way of the kids relationship with their dad. And I feel lucky to have a family with the kids that feels like a real family. It's nice to be a part of their lives. It's nice to feel like I make a difference, but it's still something I'm so ill-prepared for....

Mostly though, I'm glad to help out a formerly single mom by building her a family, with a house, and food on the table and a loving father for her kids. It don't come easy though.... Fuck!

[tisha2]

well a heap o blessings on both of you for stepping up. (ha! no fucking pun intended).

[sparkletarte]

Holy fuck we got the house!!!!!!!!!!!!

The other people fell through!!!!!!

:D

[stuart]

fuckin -A-

uh, were there really other people?

[Rian Jackson]

Holy fuck we got the house!!!!!!!!!!!!

The other people fell through!!!!!!

congratu-fuckin-lations!
yay!
now you can continue to be fucking sparkly!!!

[samtzu]

Holy fuck we got the house!!!!!!!!!!!!

The other people fell through!!!!!!

Well, Fuckin' A!!!

... and a big ol' "Ahhhhhhhh!" Congratulations!!

[samtzu]

I just wrote a large multi page "Fuck!" that I deleted without posting because I thought, "What's the fucking use?"

Now, that's fucked up....

[Zulegoona]

Holy fuck we got the house!!!!!!!!!!!!

The other people fell through!!!!!!

Yeah, yeah, in 3 months we'll be reading " we can't afford to anything because we got the fucking house."

congratulations!

[RingO'Fire]

Fuckin' A (let's just get in fuckin' over already). Perhaps this should go on the "One [now two] Month Later - Whatcha Doin?" thread, but here's what's going on in my life right now - both good and bad.

(1) Stress - My 70-year old father, who lives with me, has Alzheimer's and is slipping downhill fast. I still have mixed feelings (both anger and compassion) about this. Anger - because I've seen this coming for the last 6-7 years. When Dad retired, he stopped doing anything and became more and more socially isolated and sedentary. It was obviously just a matter of time before dementia was going to set in. In spite of the warnings and advice of everyone who loved and cared for him: me, my brother, his girlfriend, and his doctors, he wouldn't listen to any of us when we advised and offered to help him get out and be more social and active. Now I'm stuck paying the price for his poor lifestyle choices! Yeah, it pisses me off! Compassion - because: he's my dad; he's almost as helpless as a little child right now, and he needs my help. Fuck! What're ya gonna do?

(2) Good news - My dad is moving in with my brother and sister in law in the next month or so. This was actually my sister-in-law's idea (she's my new hero!). My brother is selling his old house and buying a bigger one with a downstairs "mother in law" apartment. He closes on both his old and new houses tomorrow. My brother and sister in law have three kids at home (15 year old daughter, 3 y.o. daughter, and 2 y.o. son) and are usually home. I'm a single guy and am hardly ever home. So, at the new house with my brother, dad will have someone around to talk to and interact with, instead of sitting by himself with the TV at our house most of the time.

(3) Good news - I bought the house that Dad and I are living in, from him, back in March. We just sold it to our next-door neighbor (yesterday was the closing) and cleared $77,000. This money is going into the bank to help pay for Dad's inevitable nursing home stay.

(4) Good news - Last week, I found a house for myself that I absolutely love. I've been stressing out for weeks about not having a place to go when we completed the sale of our current house. I looked at the place for the first time last Monday (10/11/04) and had agreed on a price with the seller by Wednesday. I'm buying the place from two women who have completely updated the place; I won't have to do a damned thing to it except move in. I'll have a huge yard with plenty of privacy in a real mellow neighborhood. I'll be closing in November and moving in on Thanksgiving weekend. The only downside? Mowing that huge yard every week next summer (I fucking hate mowing grass! It has got to be one of the most useless exercises ever devised by mankind!). Oh well, I suppose it's a small price to pay.

Check it out, here's my new house (with apologies to those of you with dial-up internet service - I know this page took a while to load):














(5) Stress - Due to all the stress going on in my life right now, I've been waking up at around 05:00 every day, unable to sleep anymore because I just can't seem to turn my brain off. In addition to all the other stuff going on in my life right now, I have a really intense, stressful job as a project manager for an environmental consulting company. This waking up in the middle of the night bullshit has been going on for a couple of weeks now and has never happened to me before in my life. Oh well, at least I'm not depressed anymore. (Re-entry/decompression was a real bitch!).

(6) Good news - Things are going really well with the woman I've been seeing for the last three months. We've known each other for several years, but didn't hook up until after she got out of a four-year relationship back in July. Things between us often seem to be in a kind of "two steps forward, one step back" mode since she's still recovering from her recent breakup and seeing me at the same time. Overall though, it's going really well. The day after I back from Bman was her 30th birthday. For her birthday, I brought her a fresh piece of ass (me!) from Burningman (i.e., I kept myself "pure" - well, at least sexually - while at Bman).

Altogether, things are really intense and hectic, but are also progressing toward a less hectic, more enjoyable not-too-distant future. I'm really excited about getting my life back and about getting my very own house. Thanks for letting me vent. I really appreciate you guys.

[Rian Jackson]

Fuck, man, hard (but good, it sounds like!) shit!

shall i be cliched and mention that it's all growing stuff?
good luck with everything; sounds like you, as many of us these days, are in a major transition period....

new adventures, yes?

oh, and with a yard like that you'd better be inviting us all for a shindig.

[Simply Joel]

oh well, i only have 40 years to deal with this fuck-wit step-son.

said fuckwit went home, took some aspirin and returned to school.

FUCKING AYE!

[Simply Joel]

Holy fuck we got the house!!!!!!!!!!!!

The other people fell through!!!!!!

Yeah, yeah, in 3 months we'll be reading " we can't afford to do anything because we got the fucking house."

congratulations!

oh how so fucking true...

congrats, sparkle!

[RingO'Fire]

Holy fuck we got the house!!!!!!!!!!!!

The other people fell through!!!!!!

:D

Yeah, yeah, in 3 months we'll be reading " we can't afford to do anything because we got the fucking house." :lol:

congratulations!

oh how so fucking true...

congrats, sparkle!

Ditto what Zulegoona and Joel said, Congratulations!

Fuck, man, hard (but good, it sounds like!) shit!

shall i be cliched and mention that it's all growing stuff?
good luck with everything; sounds like you, as many of us these days, are in a major transition period....

new adventures, yes?

oh, and with a yard like that you'd better be inviting us all for a shindig.

I would love to host a shindig for all y'all at my new place.

If any of you guys are gonna be in my [red] neck o' the woods, don't be shy, give me a holla and I'll make you dinner at my house. Maybe we could even have a slumber party...

[tisha2]

FUCK!!!!!!!

network/internet trouble at work...using a super slow dinosaur laptop with dial-up.
bathroom flooded...low staff population today with tours and sickness so guess who gets to mop it up.
finally get online & e-mail downloaded only to find yet ANOTHER fucked up e-mail from my ex who is trying with all he's got to get me to lose my mind, or at least my ability to communicate wihtout rage.

i felt like staying home in bed this morning...on the playa i would've trusted that instinct. now i'm all negative and pissed off and wanna cry. i got a whole e=mail response composed that really explained my feelings and asked for exactly what i needed to feel safe in communicating and i lost my connection in sending and lost it. our every communication is *fucked* lately.

FUCK!!!!! FUCKFUCKFUCKFUCKFUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[tisha2]

FUCK!!!!!!!

network/internet trouble at work...using a super slow dinosaur laptop with dial-up.
bathroom flooded...low staff population today with tours and sickness so guess who gets to mop it up.
finally get online & e-mail downloaded only to find yet ANOTHER fucked up e-mail from my ex who is trying with all he's got to get me to lose my mind, or at least my ability to communicate wihtout rage.

i felt like staying home in bed this morning...on the playa i would've trusted that instinct. now i'm all negative and pissed off and wanna cry. i got a whole e=mail response composed that really explained my feelings and asked for exactly what i needed to feel safe in communicating and i lost my connection in sending and lost it. our every communication is *fucked* lately.

FUCK!!!!! FUCKFUCKFUCKFUCKFUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!