theCryptofishist wrote:Sandwichman wrote:blueniteowl wrote:Why do people always have to shit all over other peoples dreams? Why can't people just be happy for other people?
A person who shits on anothers dreams is usually digging for a way to make them feel better about their own social inadequecies. The first time my father told me he was proud of me was when I was 22. Can you imagine 22 years without any real sense of knowing if you were accepted by one of the most influential figures of your life. He has slowly come to learn that he cannot force his shortcomings or inability to follow his dreams upon my life. I learned over years to stop sharing my dreams with those negative people. I only share my successes and try to learn from my failures.
That is my late night wisdom for ya. Your mileage may vary.
Jason
PS I think I am out for the night. Thanks for all who listened in. If I am stuck home tomorrow expect more.
"Beware of people who _______your dreams, small people do that." I forgot the rest of the quote and the author. Mark Twain comes to mind, but maybe that's another quote on the same subject. I have a couple of ex boyfriends that that applied to. (only 70some pages to go.)
Uhm. Depends. I have to admit to shitting on a couple people's dreams. Sometimes you have to sit someone down and say "Your idea of opening a
X shop/business/invention is nice, but have you actually
thought about more than just the concept?"
My ex and my brother are perfect examples. My ex wanted to make a living selling artisitic greeting cards. Granted, they are very cool, but a quick financial analysis shown that there was no way in hell that she could make enough to live on unless she sold them for $10 a piece- and at around 150 per week. I had to naviate the sticky path of convincing her to not rely on it without hurting her feelings.
My brother, on the other hand, had an idea for an invention. All he had to do was get investors to give him 1/4 million. Uh, no. I had to sit him down and ask tougher questions- do you have a concrete business proposal with market evidence showing it could truely sell? Do you have distributers that would sell the item for you (he was planning on selling a million units)? Do you have a place to store these million huge ass pieces of equipment? Can you convince investors that an non-degreed draftsman can produce a profit for them in a volatile market? One that has never run a business, or been in marketing? How much was alloted to advertizing and marketing (ie. how would people know to buy it)? If someone steals your design, do you have a lawyer and funds to go after them?
Needless to say, the answer was no.
