Effective Online Communication

precipitate · Post by **precipitate** » Fri Sep 12, 2003 11:22 pm

Someone who forgot to log in.

Post by **actiongrl** » Sat Sep 13, 2003 3:06 pm

>So how come it's not comical to so many of your loyal members? Imagine you're hosting a party of old friends and new neighbors at your new house. If the old friends leave after three minutes that's a clue that something is making them uncomfortable.

Right, but if my old friends start saying I invited the neighbors just to drive away my old friends, I'd take exception....as though squeezing out loyal members of the community would be a purposeful act. I have been on the ePlaya since the first redesign (2000?) and am a pretty avid poster. I don't like how I can't get this one to remember which posts I have read, and I have a lot of the same gripes as other users right now. I do like other things about this one, though. I could never get some key features of the previous one to work.

Smilies are fine with me unless abused or animated.

Sorry...I just get my nose tweaked by the us vs. them thing sometimes. I really want to be doing things well and right, and I sometimes feel we are broadly misunderstood and take it too personally. Blah, blah, blah.

nipples · Post by **nipples** » Sat Sep 13, 2003 11:50 pm

at this point in time & prior to this post, by using the "profile" button under each of the preceding 20 posters' names' it has been determined that said 20 posters have an amassed total of 24.69% of total eplaya posts

on this thread, each poster (20) has an average of 1.23% of the total playa
posts. low actual % was at .16%, high was at 3.9% out of the 20. an actual complilation of .83%, 1.21, .73, .16, .94, .54, 2.0, 3.16, .91, .58, .41, .54, .39, 2.12, 2.02, 1.0, 1.78, 3.9, 1.26, & .21 was used for a sum of 24.69% of total eplaya posts for the aforementioned grouping of 20.

there are 1732 registered eplaya users at this point in time.

Booker · Post by **Booker** » Sun Sep 14, 2003 8:43 am

tart and scathing and also humane

A fine goal. Yet a fair number of the bliss-hippier types who wander through find anything tart/scathing to be insufferably inhumane. (And they're usually quite willing to get plenty t/s themselves in response, which has always seemed a bit curious to me.) An additional number are happy enough to read the t/s posts about someone else but get all nasally dislocated when it's pointed at or anywhere near them. Some of us like the taste of tart. Some just tend to be more scathing than others--that's how they are--and if you look past the tone without letting it fuck yer day, it often turns out that they have something useful or interesting to say mixed in with the grumpy stuff.

If you can find a set of rules that will satisfy all of those groups, Girlie (& others), well good on ya. The ones posted initially seem designed to bleach out the color from the language here, lest someone might become alarmed by it. For my part, I'll continue to relish and celebrate the color.

TestesInSac · Post by **TestesInSac** » Sun Sep 14, 2003 10:56 am

actiongrl wrote:...as though squeezing out loyal members of the community would be a purposeful act.

You sure it's not? Careful, I'm wearing my special hat and I'll know if yer lying!

Borris · Post by **Borris** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 12:43 am

The remembering last posts is a time-conected feature, this e-playa (the software) asumes that after x time spet you have gone through all the posts, there should be a timeout somwhere in the code that can be set to 0 so that time has no connection to weather you read to post or not.

mary manners · Post by **mary manners** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 1:34 am

bore us, what are you talking about, and please put your tongue back in your mouth. it has microbes

jaywalker · Post by **jaywalker** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 12:56 pm

PetsUntilEaten wrote:who or what is a "Guest" ?

me

precipitate wrote:Someone who forgot to log in.

correct

Lydia Love · Post by **Lydia Love** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 1:47 pm

mary manners

get some balls and log in before flaming

Spokes · Post by **Spokes** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 5:26 pm

put your tongue back in your mouth

Since she brought it up, for the longest time I thought borris had a cleft chin and was a mouseketeer. Guess it's time for the biannual eye exam.

precipitate · Post by **precipitate** » Mon Sep 15, 2003 10:44 pm

> Yet a fair number of the bliss-hippier types who wander through find
> anything tart/scathing to be insufferably inhumane.

Which is, quite emphatically, their problem.

> nasally dislocated

<snort>

Peace_Tolero · Post by **Peace_Tolero** » Tue Sep 16, 2003 10:41 am

PJ wrote:Thus far the biggest fans of the new format are newcomers; the extent of their experience with the old BBS might be limited.

I'm a newcomer

who only used the old eplaya for a few days before the change-over to this one.

In just that short time, and now trying to use this forum, I'm no big fan.

The old eplaya was more intuitive and all the bells and whistles on this jalopy don't mean squat iffen it won't even go the speed limit. Sometimes I feel like getting out to push.

However I am not complaining one bit. The good folks who put this together and maintain it are doing me a favor. It's a gift. I accept.

Thank you.

Peace!

PJ · Post by PJ » Tue Sep 16, 2003 10:58 am

Peace_Tolero wrote:I'm a newcomer who only used the old eplaya for a few days before the change-over to this one...now trying to use this forum, I'm no big fan.

The old eplaya was more intuitive and all the bells and whistles on this jalopy don't mean squat iffen it won't even go the speed limit. Sometimes I feel like getting out to push.

However I am not complaining one bit. The good folks who put this together and maintain it are doing me a favor. It's a gift.

I agree it's a gift. But I'd like to improve it, especially the layout graphics.

aforceforgood · Post by **aforceforgood** » Wed Sep 17, 2003 11:00 pm

People will always be offended by those who disagree with them, no matter how sweet the words their ideas are couched in. I like the fact that I get to talk to people here that are really intelligent or at least have wildly different points of view than I do, and I'm willing to take their comments straight up like a shot of whiskey if need be rather than like some foofy mixed drink with loads of sugar and an umbrella that's good only for poking eyes out.

I myself was accused of being too aggro in my posts, then too pompous and condescending when I tried to soften them and give the person I was responding to credit for their kind and gentle (though I felt they were misguided) views. fuggit. There's always gonna be someone that doesn't like what you said or the way you said it. The question is, is there any wisdom or humor worth reading in what they said?

BTW, apparently there are skins for this fuggly place- now if I could only figure out how to install one I'd be set. Anyone have any clues as to where a FAQ on that would be?

III · Post by **III** » Thu Sep 18, 2003 1:41 pm

>where a FAQ

you can pick a board style in your profile. there is supposed to be documentation for rolling your own (which would have to be installed by the admins) at the phpbb site, but last time i checked it was all empty pages.

i just tried changing it, and it doesn't seem to have worked, though...

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Sep 21, 2003 8:42 pm

If everyone would just drink a little warm milk before they go online, I think we'd all impressed with the results.

antron · Post by **antron** » Sun Sep 21, 2003 8:49 pm

nipples wrote:at this point in time & prior to this post, by using the "profile" button under each of the preceding 20 posters' names' it has been determined that said 20 posters have an amassed total of 24.69% of total eplaya posts

is it surprising that (like nearly any social phenomenon) posting follows power laws here on the eplaya.

nymphgonebad · Post by **nymphgonebad** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 12:38 am

Lust4Life wrote:If everyone would just drink a little warm milk before they go online, I think we'd all impressed with the results.

seratonin infusion - yum!

Bob · Post by **Bob** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 10:46 pm

Tx for the stats, nips. Just to show it pays to be nice:

"how about a big cup of shut the fuck up" -- 10 Google hits

"how about a nice big cup of shut the fuck up" -- 730 hits

<img src="http://www.thesnowman.net/images/funny-stuff/148.jpg">

nymphgonebad · Post by **nymphgonebad** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 10:53 pm

Bob wrote:Tx for the stats, nips. Just to show it pays to be nice:

"how about a big cup of shut the fuck up" -- 10 hits

"how about a nice big cup of shut the fuck up" -- 730 hits

<img src="http://www.thesnowman.net/images/funny-stuff/148.jpg">

bob, you are one caustic motherfucker. you are officially my favorite e-playan.

Bob · Post by **Bob** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 10:57 pm

In light of Recent DPW Events, I'd say it costs too damned much not to be nice.

PJ · Post by PJ » Tue Sep 23, 2003 6:53 am

aforceforgood wrote:...fuggit. There's always gonna be someone that doesn't like what you said or the way you said it.

I find that absolutely everybody is in perfect agreement when it comes to photos of semi-invasive vetrinary medical procedures. You could try posting those.

Borris · Post by **Borris** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 9:26 am

Bob wrote:In light of Recent DPW Events, I'd say it costs too damned much not to be nice.

Please elaborate...

III · Post by **III** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 11:09 am

>Please elaborate...

sorry. can't let the masses see behind the scenes.

TestesInSac · Post by **TestesInSac** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 2:59 pm

I can just imagine it's one of those scratch-your-head-wondering-what-kinda-idiot-would-do-that sorta things. Hence the hush-hush.

Flux · Post by **Flux** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 4:43 pm

girlie wrote:anyone else have any links to good tips to making this whole online communication thang work better for us?

As a matter of fact...

DogBoy · Post by **DogBoy** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 8:57 pm

*PJ could not have said it better when-

A decent writer's humor (or mere irony) should be obvious to a reader with even a room temperature IQ. Emoticons are tools for lazy and inept typists unwilling to work toward creating lucid written expression.

I have hated emoticons since the first time I saw them; loved seeing this statement. If you cannot write well enough that your meaning comes thru, don't fill the screen w/garbage.

toktomi · Post by **toktomi** » Wed Sep 24, 2003 12:34 am

ok, this has thusfar been a thread in the old eplaya style - contentious, witty, creative, defensive, offensive, and compulsive/excessive - or almost anyway.

"just stopped in to see what condition my conditiion..." and found the crew not so live and not so well.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Sep 24, 2003 1:02 am

My biggest problem with internet communcation is stopping myself from sucking on the keyboard. Am I alone in this?

aforceforgood · Post by **aforceforgood** » Wed Sep 24, 2003 1:29 am

PJ wrote:
aforceforgood wrote:...fuggit. There's always gonna be someone that doesn't like what you said or the way you said it.
I find that absolutely everybody is in perfect agreement when it comes to photos of semi-invasive vetrinary medical procedures. You could try posting those.

Grumble...actually, I can't- that restraining order doesn't expire for another 6 months... long story.

Effective Online Communication

I'm just being crabby.

just the facts, ma'am

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So I'm a little blunt...

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hi there, you crass, nasty, sweet shits

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