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Re: Love.....
DVD, let me be the first to say I greatly appreciate this change of attitude and tone that you have now expressed.
Unfortunately, I feel that a significant ammount of damage has been done. You have placed yourself in a position that I am not sure is defendable, and I am not convinced you are prepared to accept the judgement that the majority of people of this community have placed on you.
You are in a very, very difficult position.
I strongly suggest you consider taking some time away, recollect your thoughts, and deal with the verbal abuse that has been directed at you. Even though your change in perception has given you the opportunity to grow, in order for that to take effect, you need to heal. You will not be able to do that in the presence of more criticism, no matter how complacent you presently are.
I say this because I am a caring and humane person. I personally want to see you move beyond whatever issues you are facing, and will continue to face from this whole situation.
Re: Love.....
ehh,,, what!?!?DVD Burner wrote: I am trying my best to be as humble as possible and to dumb myself down so that eplaya can move on to a happier future.
to dumb oneself down is playing a nasty trick, deception. want proof, have a look at our last presidential elections. bush dumbed himself down (no, he is not a stupid man, nowhere near it) when speaking to gain votes and fukin hell it worked.
you want to make a happier future here, use your fukin brains/intelligence,,, think! people don't wan't to read childish diatribes, they want to read intelligence and feel a part of this little board.
also, to say that you are dumbing yourself down implies that the users here are in fact dumb and can only relate to dumbass fukedness.
NOW, if your intentions are sincere I welcome that but, think man, think!
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I'm not sure how deep this hurt goes, because its hard to tell with this digital modality. I'm sure if we all met in person, we'd gain a much different perspective. It is interesting to see anyway what forms our personalities take on this board...I found thie following quote in a pack of Dharma cards at a party last night:
"No enemy, weapon, poison or terrible illness can upset someone like harsh words. No moon water, sandalwood paste, or cool breeze can refresh someone as sweet words can"
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"No enemy, weapon, poison or terrible illness can upset someone like harsh words. No moon water, sandalwood paste, or cool breeze can refresh someone as sweet words can"
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Re: Love.....
No.spectabillis wrote: DVD, let me be the first to say I greatly appreciate this change of attitude and tone that you have now expressed.
Unfortunately, I feel that a significant ammount of damage has been done. You have placed yourself in a position that I am not sure is defendable, and I am not convinced you are prepared to accept the judgement that the majority of people of this community have placed on you.
You are in a very, very difficult position.
I strongly suggest you consider taking some time away, recollect your thoughts, and deal with the verbal abuse that has been directed at you. Even though your change in perception has given you the opportunity to grow, in order for that to take effect, you need to heal. You will not be able to do that in the presence of more criticism, no matter how complacent you presently are.
I say this because I am a caring and humane person. I personally want to see you move beyond whatever issues you are facing, and will continue to face from this whole situation.
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\unjonharley wrote:_Donita wrote:There really needs to be more Love.
(not the hippie shit)
Hippie Love ROCKS!!!
**doing my little hippie love dance with flowers in my hair**
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This I would " love" to see
Hey, you all read DVD, No Hippie Shit!
ehh, what's that signature you have DVD, oh yes, here it is:
“Inclusion not exclusion.”
he he he he he,,, sorry man, couldn't help myself. I still love you and everybody else here...
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Re: Love.....
Yes, exactly. I say the following not to be mean or to be hateful or anything but to point something out so that it can reflected on and possibly acted on.bullD wrote:<snippage>DVD Burner wrote: I am trying my best to be as humble as possible and to dumb myself down so that eplaya can move on to a happier future.
also, to say that you are dumbing yourself down implies that the users here are in fact dumb ...
NOW, if your intentions are sincere I welcome that but, think man, think!
This is an example of what gets under people's skin. While on the surface it appears humble and sincere, buried in there is a dig at everyone else. "It isn't my fault, you guys are just too stupid to understand me". People generally don't like being called dumb. It can result in a hardening of their attitudes and actions toward you. It conveys that you have a negative opinion of them. You have stated many times that people don't "get" you. I can relate to that. People have also asked many times for you to clarify, explain, help them understand. In every case they are either ignored, ridiculed, or criticized. People generally stop asking or stop being quite as willing to try to understand when treated that way.
And so here, even in what appears to be a plea to clear the slate, is a yet another dirt-clod tossed at the people here. People that are already a little touchy about that anyway, I might add. I wouldn't say people here are dumb. I would say that maybe they are a bit sensitive to certain kinds of behavior by some people and are somewhat spring-loaded to react to it.
Good luck and I sincerely wish you peace and happiness.
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Per the post linked in the first post in this thread, I'm going to take a wild guess:
Life is a game, the eplaya is a game, and smileys represent game pieces.
I don't see anything in the pixels that substantially represents love, though I've never seen the "digital modality" of the eplaya as very being suitable for emotional commerce. I've always tried to use the eplaya primarily as a vehicle for offering useful advice and discussion on subjects either not addressed or not easily found on the main Burning Man website, and have always hoped it would be an archive for the useful rather than the useless. If you came to the eplaya expecting digital love, and then went on an extended "plonk me" campaign, don't expect others not to question its usefulness.
Life is a game, the eplaya is a game, and smileys represent game pieces.
I don't see anything in the pixels that substantially represents love, though I've never seen the "digital modality" of the eplaya as very being suitable for emotional commerce. I've always tried to use the eplaya primarily as a vehicle for offering useful advice and discussion on subjects either not addressed or not easily found on the main Burning Man website, and have always hoped it would be an archive for the useful rather than the useless. If you came to the eplaya expecting digital love, and then went on an extended "plonk me" campaign, don't expect others not to question its usefulness.
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Re: Love.....
One point of clarification, Geekster. I agree that you've described the usual pattern, but the one time I asked DVD to clarify and explain, he didn't ignore, ridicule, or criticize. He eventually answered my question, in my opinion about 90% of the way. When I filled in the remaining 10%, his response was, essentially, "yes". It took some persistence I'll grant you (plus it was easy to get distracted by everything else going on), but he did do it.geekster wrote:People have also asked many times for you to clarify, explain, help them understand. In every case they are either ignored, ridiculed, or criticized. People generally stop asking or stop being quite as willing to try to understand when treated that way.
http://eplaya.burningman.org/viewtopic. ... &start=200
(it continues until page 17)
Just a reminder of that old arguing advice- avoid the words "never" and "always" (and "in every case"), because they tend to push buttons and also to be wrong. It gives others the excuse to say that you don't know what you're talking about, to avoid addressing the actual issue.
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So you can point to one single instance where he finally explained his meaning in that one particular circumstance. Not that it explains his actions in all circumstances before or since.
I will note it and take a closer look when my mind is clearer.
I will note it and take a closer look when my mind is clearer.
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Your definition of love & mine are likely to differ.
She will not love him anymore if he tells the doctor mommy held hand under hot water faucet . He pulled coffee pot off the counter instead.
Love is fearful to want/know.
Love is being told you fell down the stairs & broke your arm or mommy goes to jail & then no one will love you.
Love is a monster.
I want it I crave it I run to & away from it
Love is a mislabeled word.
I'm asking my brain have you heard
That up is now down
We stopped messing around
is your brain though yet playable?
She will not love him anymore if he tells the doctor mommy held hand under hot water faucet . He pulled coffee pot off the counter instead.
Love is fearful to want/know.
Love is being told you fell down the stairs & broke your arm or mommy goes to jail & then no one will love you.
Love is a monster.
I want it I crave it I run to & away from it
Love is a mislabeled word.
I'm asking my brain have you heard
That up is now down
We stopped messing around
is your brain though yet playable?
Take your meds
confused freak
that has nothing to do
with DiViDendS weep
his sorrow more buxom
fresher it seems
your trust was your problem
his not provoked
not loved casue you're bad
or bad cause not loved
'tis only a beat
for one feathered dove
to stroke & to say
no not ever today
i will smile
i will be
happy!
confused freak
that has nothing to do
with DiViDendS weep
his sorrow more buxom
fresher it seems
your trust was your problem
his not provoked
not loved casue you're bad
or bad cause not loved
'tis only a beat
for one feathered dove
to stroke & to say
no not ever today
i will smile
i will be
happy!
Much Love and hugs
.... Sending you a big, tight energy hug and a soft kiss on your cheek..... x
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love is being rejected, and coming back just to make sure...
love is searching for pleasure, and finding the source...
love is letting the arrogant walk their path, silently witnessing the beauty of cosmic retribution...
love is searching for pleasure, and finding the source...
love is letting the arrogant walk their path, silently witnessing the beauty of cosmic retribution...
instantiate vacuous truth
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I HAVE TO COMENT ABOUT THE NO HIPPIES SPRAY PAOINT ON THE SIDE OF THE POST OFFICE:::
I am a 33 year old that used to listen to lots of punk rock music. The past 10 years tho, I have been "HIPPIFIED" hahaha...I laugh, cuz I might go to Hippie fests and listen to hippie bands, but that doesnt make me a astereotypical hippy, or, Im not a rug rat wook that is only interested in eating drugs and shite....there are many stereo types to HIPPY....I like the good side. I really dig some forms of hippy love and Ive been basking in that type of friendliness for a long time now. I think of my punk days, and say to myself, damn, Im having so much more fun these days. But I still dig my punk roots.
ANYWAY onto the story: This was my first Burn, not that that matters...but I knew I was going to meet some new types of people and I was open to it. Low and behold, I met a beautiful man who in stereo type land, is more of a goth punker. I hung out with his friends, all part of the POST OFFICE. I guess they had been doing the PO for about 6 years. Anyway, they were soooo punk rock. hahaha....I just gave them hell...."want some hippy love, little boy?" I would make fun of hppys, and make fun of them. Make fun of it all. that was my way of getting to them.
I had a hard time at first, but I just kept bing myself, and by the end of the week we were all drinking and singing 80s hits together, laughing. Sure, they werent as friendly as what I was used to, but the comaraderie was just as strong. WHAT A GREAT FIRST BURN EXPERIENCE! Totally taking me out of my comfort zone....but back into a familiar one.
I guess my point is that, WOW Burning Man is a place of true self expression, and i gotta remember that. If something bugs me, maybe ignore it, or approach it. I know this one kid Owen must of thought I was fucking annoying as hell when I started hanging out, but he must of thought I was pretty cool by the end of the week. I made sure I let them all know that hippies arent as bad as they think, er, some.....basically, everyones an individual, and you might like it. FUN STUFF.....I
L O V E it!
I am a 33 year old that used to listen to lots of punk rock music. The past 10 years tho, I have been "HIPPIFIED" hahaha...I laugh, cuz I might go to Hippie fests and listen to hippie bands, but that doesnt make me a astereotypical hippy, or, Im not a rug rat wook that is only interested in eating drugs and shite....there are many stereo types to HIPPY....I like the good side. I really dig some forms of hippy love and Ive been basking in that type of friendliness for a long time now. I think of my punk days, and say to myself, damn, Im having so much more fun these days. But I still dig my punk roots.
ANYWAY onto the story: This was my first Burn, not that that matters...but I knew I was going to meet some new types of people and I was open to it. Low and behold, I met a beautiful man who in stereo type land, is more of a goth punker. I hung out with his friends, all part of the POST OFFICE. I guess they had been doing the PO for about 6 years. Anyway, they were soooo punk rock. hahaha....I just gave them hell...."want some hippy love, little boy?" I would make fun of hppys, and make fun of them. Make fun of it all. that was my way of getting to them.
I had a hard time at first, but I just kept bing myself, and by the end of the week we were all drinking and singing 80s hits together, laughing. Sure, they werent as friendly as what I was used to, but the comaraderie was just as strong. WHAT A GREAT FIRST BURN EXPERIENCE! Totally taking me out of my comfort zone....but back into a familiar one.
I guess my point is that, WOW Burning Man is a place of true self expression, and i gotta remember that. If something bugs me, maybe ignore it, or approach it. I know this one kid Owen must of thought I was fucking annoying as hell when I started hanging out, but he must of thought I was pretty cool by the end of the week. I made sure I let them all know that hippies arent as bad as they think, er, some.....basically, everyones an individual, and you might like it. FUN STUFF.....I
L O V E it!
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heh...yeah. that's funny...some of my favorite people started out as annoying jerks i didn't know very well :) just shows ta go ya...good on ya for reaching out and jerking some chain. that's what it's all about, yup.
dang, i miss me a nipples poetic drive by...
oh, and this one's for the rebbi...
I LOVE ALL YOU CRAZY ASS BURNER MUTHAFUCKAS
JUST BECAUSE
boo yah!
dang, i miss me a nipples poetic drive by...
oh, and this one's for the rebbi...
I LOVE ALL YOU CRAZY ASS BURNER MUTHAFUCKAS
JUST BECAUSE
boo yah!
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